JhnZ71 Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 My ex and me broke up about 3 weeks ago, since she has tried to date my best friend but that didnt work. Now shes with some creep younger guy a junior. This kid is really into drugs and i think he is going to rape her, Ive talked to her mom on a "confidential" basis because I didnt know what else to do. These kids are really bad and probably going to turn her into a drug addict whore. Im really worried and I feel powerless to help her... I think i can handle the whole break up thing. But I cant watch her do this to herself... I love her to much. She told me today that she really likes this new guy (the junior, Matt) and thinks she wants to date him. Is she messing with my mind? I dont know is she trying to make me jealous or do you think that she really is over everything and is desperate to move on? Also, she seemed to not have any trouble coping with the breakup she really didnt care at all it seems, though she says that she still cares about me. But im just not the guy for her "right now". What does this mean? I dont think NC is gonna help much because it just doesnt work HELP!!!
slubberdegullion Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 You don't need this drama or manipulative woman in your life. NC is hard, of course, but in this case it's the only way you're going to save your sanity. Move on. Let her have her so-called "fun." Meanwhile, you go & grow & learn & become a better man. Unless I miss my guess, she'll very likely come back to you in a few months, or maybe a year, wanting forgiveness. Have none of it. Cut her loose.
brittanyjean06 Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 when people say nc? what are they refering to
Author JhnZ71 Posted October 4, 2005 Author Posted October 4, 2005 I know this is puting a beating on my sanity... But I really feel that I have to help her. This guy has a history of "Rohypnoling" girls and raping them. I love her... I cant play these games and let this happen to her. SHe was a B!tch to me but doesnt deserve this
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 Tell her. Try to protect her. Just don't expect her to listen or actually act on your advice. At least you can say you tried, though.
Author JhnZ71 Posted October 5, 2005 Author Posted October 5, 2005 Ok... Ive tried talking with her, I know about 15 or so people that know them and say that there seriously bad news. Ive tried to tell her and she says that I cant just assume things that other people say are correct. She thinks im trying to keep her away from new people and date me. This is not the case, Ive talked to her mohter and nobody knows what to do... She cant put her on house arrest because she hasnt done anything wrong. I just love her and cannot bear to watch this happen, I am already begening to move on Ive met some new people and I would never date this girl again. I still care about her and would never want to see this happen to anyone, even if i hated the prson.
Author JhnZ71 Posted October 5, 2005 Author Posted October 5, 2005 I talked with her mother about the whole thing (Me and her mom were always great friends and talked alot while we were dating). She told me "John my daughter was a B*tch to you, try ignoring her for awhile". Its funny, I dont call her(ex) for two days and she calls or contacts me. Almost like she knows what Im trying to do. Her mom did however ask me to not just abandon her, if I walk away now these new guys could probably destroy her life. I dont know what to do, how can you do NC AND care and watch out for someome at the same time?
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