X1 anti Posted December 31, 2019 Posted December 31, 2019 (edited) I dated this girl back in summer. We went on three dates, everything was going perfect. She called me after our third date to fasciliate getting together and we made plans for her to come over to my apartment and we were going to make dinner together. She blew me off and didn’t show with no contact. I never reached out for an explanation and carried on with my life. She called me 5 days later and left a voicemail apologizing saying her phone got wet at the beach (bulls***). I saw a picture of her having wine at a winery two days after she blew me off on IG. I waited two weeks to get back to her, long story short I never gave her another shot. She texted me a few weeks ago and asked how I was doing. I told her that I was doing great and that it was nice to hear from her and that I enjoyed the time we spent together and had a nice time getting to know each other but that it’s hard for me to regain trust in someone after it’s broken. She said that that’s true and that she respects me for it and wished me well too. I knew she has IG but we’ve never followed each other, she has no idea that I even know she has IG. I noticed that she blocked me 3 days after our text and now she just unblocked me yesterday. What’s the deal with that? I find it amusing but am not sure what her thought process is. What do you guys think? By the way, this woman is a 10. Perfect body, perfect hair, great personality, successful. She probably can have any guy that she wants at the snap of her fingers. I didn’t feel like her apology was that sincere otherwise I would have considered giving her another shot. My ex wife cheated on me and she was one of the first woman I started dating so you can see where the trust issues come into play. Edited December 31, 2019 by X1 anti
Versacehottie Posted December 31, 2019 Posted December 31, 2019 She sounds like she also knows your IG and is somewhat keeping tabs on you. She is blocking and then unblocking to either hide something on stories from you and or to get a reaction from you (ie irritation from being blocked and then realizing that didn't work and she'd welcome contact from you). Lots of girls do this almost subconsciously. They will claim that they just want you blocked and then when they unblock the real intention comes to light: it's a tactic, conscious or not, to get you to pay attention to her. I think both girls that are 10's and ones that are less so but hold themselves in high regard etc do things to get the attention they want (and are used to). I do think that perhaps the wall you have up isn't justified--gotta be careful of carrying past hurts (ex cheated) into new relationships. Though I do agree that the insincerity of her apology and handling of not showing up to a planned date is indicative of no good reason to give her a second chance. Also the way she is handling the social media thing is kind of strike 2/3 basically it should show you some immaturity/manipulation. Good luck
Gr8fuln2020 Posted December 31, 2019 Posted December 31, 2019 Confused. She blocked you how? You say that she doesn't know that you know she has IG. How do you 'block' someone who is not a friend? Sorry, don't use IG. No desire nor need. Blocked you from texting? You describe her as a 10, but she lied to you. Great personality? Really? She's a 10? Well, sounds like she is playing games. If she is so great and still interested, see where it goes, but don't commit. Date her for sometime and see what happens.
Kaarek Posted December 31, 2019 Posted December 31, 2019 You should know that there are many "10's" out there that are like wrecked ships, highly emotionally/mentally unstable so don't go just by looks unless you're into smash and pass.
The Outlaw Posted December 31, 2019 Posted December 31, 2019 Anyone that insists on BS games no matter the circumstances aren’t ever worth it. She maybe a 10, but move on.
Versacehottie Posted December 31, 2019 Posted December 31, 2019 I agree that a 10 on the outside doesn't mean she is close to a 10 on the inside. I think beautiful people sometimes get too much negativity as if they couldn't be good on the inside--which isn't true either. You just have to evaluate both outside and inside of a person from what they show you and proceed in line with that. She's not doing so well on the inside part.
chillii Posted January 1, 2020 Posted January 1, 2020 (edited) 4 hours ago, Kaarek said: You should know that there are many "10's" out there that are like wrecked ships, highly emotionally/mentally unstable so don't go just by looks unless you're into smash and pass. Haaaaa, exactly what l was thinking. Means nothing. Matter of fact they can often be worse and more screwed up than most because of more men after them over the years than most and the sort of high rating she puts on herself just based on looks so in the end often all you mainly just have is a good looking mess, which is what she sounds like in the man regard . So op , never fall for the bs of she can have any man she wants, if she could she wouldn't be single , and she wouldn't be doing all this stupid bs. Just because she might be able to get a man through the door easier than most , keeping him or building something real, even recognizing something real, is another matter entirely , that takes a lot lot more than just looks. Edited January 1, 2020 by chillii 2 1
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