CityGirl88 Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 My boyfriend invited me out to dinner last week, and I'm pretty sure it was just to break up with me. When I got to the restaurant at 6:30 p.m., he was already pretty drunk. He never smokes in front of me, but that night he had already gotten a booth in the smoking section and proceeded to smoke three feet from my face. I was very surprised about that, but did not say anything. Even when I would go to his apt., he would go outside to smoke and I never had to ask him to. Well it all went downhill from there. I sat there and let him whine about all the reasons he couldn't have a relationship with me. He said he just wanted to be friends with me and asked me to think about it. That I didn't have to give him an answer at that time. I said there is nothing to think about, I won't settle for less. We then left the restaurant and I went home. As I was getting in my car he was calling out "I'll call you in a couple of days." I haven't heard from him since. That was last Wednesday. My question is, does someone have to get drunk to break up with you or is he just an alcoholic since he drinks a lot everyday? You would think he would be respectful enough to be sober when he dumped me.
Art_Critic Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 I know it hurts.. I don't think there is a tougher hurt to handle than rejection/breakup. My guess is that he was stressed out over telling you and he needed liquid courage. I think that a face to face like he did is a very respectful way of breaking up with someone.. The email breakup, or phone is far worse and even the postit note like on SITC are horrible ways and disrespectful. I'm sorry for your hurt.. Keep posting..
SilentPrayer Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 Hey, That is a pretty hard breakup. Although it seems like youre guy was being kind of nice about the whole thing. He actually should not have taken you to a public place to do this, unless you are known for acting out?? I see it as this: He took you out to eat, he is drunk when you arrive, he breaks up with you, and then promises to call but doesn't at time specified. I don't know about this whole thing from beguining to end. I do however believe that you're now X still has some majour feelings for you. A coward says what his weeker side wants when he is drunk. He is not that strong if he had to get drunk to tell you it was over. Obviously in a sober mind he would have probably asked for a break or something. Anyhow I think it is pretty mundaine of a topic to waste your time on. Don't wait around for a phone call. Phone him and ask him out for coffe and cake? You can sort some things out there...preferably go to a cafe that is open late..and sit in the far corner. Bring a bag of any of this things....and ask him if he would return yours as well when you meet for coffee. Haveing a RULER slapped down on his face telling him you understand its over..and you agree it is over 2 is pretty harsh..even on the breakeruper. So don't sweat the small stuff sweety~ Seriously think about the coffe date thing..im sure he will agree to it. Also when he is there...ask him not to smoke out of respect for you, and that you thought his smokeing infront of you at the restaurant was so grose. Makeing something that you DONT like known to him @ this point will make it serious you are in control of your life. Seems small..but im a smoker..and that was told to me once...I felt really horrible...i felt grose. Anyhow....dont do the desperate PHONE CALLS ok...whatever you do...don't lose your pride to that one.
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