Soulmatemarried Posted December 28, 2019 Posted December 28, 2019 Hi Guys/Gals, I guess you could say I had a very quick and intense affair with my boss who is a woman and I a man. I find her to be the most stunning, sexiest woman in the world and like others I thought she might leave her husband and be with me....yea ok right. We are both Nurses. I go absolutely crazy when I think about her being intimate with her husband. Does it ever end. Does she think about me ever?? I need these questions answered by her.
mark clemson Posted December 29, 2019 Posted December 29, 2019 Well, to get answers from HER, you'd have to ask her. She may think of you, but if it's over and she's holding firm on that, then that's probably her decision. Your distress/romantic jealousy will end once you "get over her" - ie, lose your romantic attraction and/or thoughts that "she should be yours" etc. This typically takes longer than we'd like. Generally I don't advise people to continue affairs. You care for her, but by continuing this you'd be putting her marriage at risk. It appears she may feel what happened between you was "a mistake" and doesn't wish to take that risk. The easiest solution for you to get over her is probably to find a new GF. I would try to be over this fairly quickly, you don't want it to turn into limerence and then be stuck pining for her for several months, possibly a few years and wasting all that time on someone you can't have. Finding a job or new job role someplace you don't see/interact with her is something to seriously consider. You could make it a win/win by doing this while earning a promotion/better job or making a good career move rather than just "any" other job. 2
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