I should have left him blocked

[AriesMan83]

10 hours ago, lftbehind said:

Hi AriesMan83,

I'm doing okay? Did you have a good weekend? I hope so. The only thing I did was go out to eat for dinner. 

There's no particular brand of light beer that I prefer. I used to drink Rum drinks, but I don't drink any other kind of liquor. 

I like fruit juices okay, but don't drink them. I drink 1 Red Bull everyday. It's how I get caffeine, I don't drink coffee or tea. I drink some soda, too. Mangos are okay. Do you like fruit juices or energy drinks?

I try to avoid xMM at work. I have tried to explain my views to xMM, because I've been thinking that he is a friend. I have wanted for him to have empathy for me for the same reason and I have empathy for him. I wanted to feel that someone was there for me, but I never have totally got that feeling from him. I have gotten lonely, too. I try to be self-sufficient and not count on anyone, but sometimes it's hard to do.The stress isn't good for me. Working towards NC. 

I'm not ready for another job yet. 

Iftbehind,

I am OK..I met a friend during the weekend..How are you??

How is your health now??How is your headache now??Did you do the online research for doctors??Pls take care of your health..

What is a rum drink??Have you ever tried whiskey??

I like Red Bull but I prefer Pepsi or Coca Cola..Fruit Juices are good but for me energy drinks are better..I like Black Coffee too..How many cans of Red Bull do you drink in a day??

How is your diet plan going on??Have you started eating fruits??

Why do you try to explain your views to xMM when you know xMM is not a friend and is only concerned about himself??Why do you want xMM to have empathy for you when you know xMM is not a friend and is only concerned about himself??

Pls start NC..

Why do you have empathy for xMM when you know xMM is enabling you to make wrong choices??Why do you want xMM to be there for you when you know xMM is enabling you to make wrong choices??

Pls start NC..Stress is not good for you..

Do you have other friends in your office or in the city??What about meeting them or going for a dinner and movie with them??What about joining a gym or a dance class??

You know xMM is selfish and only concerned about himself..You know xMM is not a friend..You know that xMM is enabling you to make wrong choices.You know the affair is causing you stress..Then what is stopping you going from LC to NC??

Can you pls explain "Working towards NC"??

Pls start NC..Stress is not good for you..

Pls look for IC..

Maybe you are not ready for another job but you can start looking for it..Maybe you will be ready for a change by the time you get a new job..

Always have faith in yourself..

 

Edited February 17, 2020 by AriesMan83

[lftbehind]

20 hours ago, AriesMan83 said:

Iftbehind,

I am OK..I met a friend during the weekend..How are you??

How is your health now??How is your headache now??Did you do the online research for doctors??Pls take care of your health..

What is a rum drink??Have you ever tried whiskey??

I like Red Bull but I prefer Pepsi or Coca Cola..Fruit Juices are good but for me energy drinks are better..I like Black Coffee too..How many cans of Red Bull do you drink in a day??

How is your diet plan going on??Have you started eating fruits??

Why do you try to explain your views to xMM when you know xMM is not a friend and is only concerned about himself??Why do you want xMM to have empathy for you when you know xMM is not a friend and is only concerned about himself??

Pls start NC..

Why do you have empathy for xMM when you know xMM is enabling you to make wrong choices??Why do you want xMM to be there for you when you know xMM is enabling you to make wrong choices??

Pls start NC..Stress is not good for you..

Do you have other friends in your office or in the city??What about meeting them or going for a dinner and movie with them??What about joining a gym or a dance class??

You know xMM is selfish and only concerned about himself..You know xMM is not a friend..You know that xMM is enabling you to make wrong choices.You know the affair is causing you stress..Then what is stopping you going from LC to NC??

Can you pls explain "Working towards NC"??

Pls start NC..Stress is not good for you..

Pls look for IC..

Maybe you are not ready for another job but you can start looking for it..Maybe you will be ready for a change by the time you get a new job..

Always have faith in yourself..

 

Hi AriesMan83,

I'm doing okay. That's good you had a nice weekend. 

My headache is better. I haven't found a good doctor yet. 

Rum drinks would be a Pina Colada or a Strawberry Daiquiri. Most are very sweet. I've tried Whisky, but it's too strong for me. 

I only drink 1 can of Red Bull a day and some soda, too. 

My diet is going okay. I've lost a few pounds. I haven't been eating fruits yet. 

I don't try to explain much to xMM, like I used to. I don't count on him having empathy. I was reading about TBI and one of the big things that happens a lot is after the accident, the person doesn't feel empathy like they should. They don't reason like they did before. I have some empathy for xMM, because of his struggles, but not like I did before. It's hard to have a lot of empathy, when a person doesn't give you much empathy back. 

I didn't think that he cared only about himself, I though he cared some about me. I've thought that he was a friend. Working toward NC means it will happen, but when I'm ready. We only have LC. I think he's getting tired of me not meeting him before work and I do get tired of him bothering me about it. I guess having to see him at work is stopping me from going NC. 

I don't know any people to hang out with and have little free time. Monday and Wednesdays they are making us work until 1:00, which wears me out more. 

[AriesMan83]

3 hours ago, lftbehind said:

Hi AriesMan83,

I'm doing okay. That's good you had a nice weekend. 

My headache is better. I haven't found a good doctor yet. 

Rum drinks would be a Pina Colada or a Strawberry Daiquiri. Most are very sweet. I've tried Whisky, but it's too strong for me. 

I only drink 1 can of Red Bull a day and some soda, too. 

My diet is going okay. I've lost a few pounds. I haven't been eating fruits yet. 

I don't try to explain much to xMM, like I used to. I don't count on him having empathy. I was reading about TBI and one of the big things that happens a lot is after the accident, the person doesn't feel empathy like they should. They don't reason like they did before. I have some empathy for xMM, because of his struggles, but not like I did before. It's hard to have a lot of empathy, when a person doesn't give you much empathy back. 

I didn't think that he cared only about himself, I though he cared some about me. I've thought that he was a friend. Working toward NC means it will happen, but when I'm ready. We only have LC. I think he's getting tired of me not meeting him before work and I do get tired of him bothering me about it. I guess having to see him at work is stopping me from going NC. 

I don't know any people to hang out with and have little free time. Monday and Wednesdays they are making us work until 1:00, which wears me out more. 

Iftbehind,

How are you??

Its good that your headache is better now..Pls do the online search on doctors..Pls visit a doctor..Pls dont neglect your health..

When you said rum based drinks,I didnt realize that you were talking about rum based cocktails..Pina Colada is a good cocktail..Do you like cocktails??I feel beer is the best alcoholic beverage..What is your opinion??Which is your favourite drink??

It's good to know that your diet is going okay..How many pounds do you plan on losing??Any other changes that you plan on making in your diet??

You mentioned that you don't explain much to xMM now..Why do you even explain your thoughts,even if it is just a bit, to xMM when you know xMM is selfish and only concerned about himself??Pls start NC..

You mentioned that you have some empathy for xMM..Why do you have empathy for xMM,even if it is less compared to earlier,when you know xMM is selfish and only concerned about himself??Pls understand that you have to reach the state of indifference towards xMM..Pls start NC..

You know the affair is causing you stress..Pls start NC..The stress is not good for you..

You know that xMM is selfish..You know that xMM is only concerned about himself..You know that xMM is not a friend..You know that the affair is causing stress to you..Pls start NC..The stress is not good for you..

You mentioned that working towards NC means that it will happen but when you are ready..Can you pls explain as to what are you doing to get ready to start NC??

Why is the management making you work extra on Mondays and Wednesdays??

Do you have any family around??What about joining a gym or a dance class??

Pls start looking for a job..It can help you start NC..

Pls start NC..

Pls look for IC..

Always believe in yourself...

 

 

 

 

 

Edited February 18, 2020 by AriesMan83

[lftbehind]

22 hours ago, AriesMan83 said:

Iftbehind,

How are you??

Its good that your headache is better now..Pls do the online search on doctors..Pls visit a doctor..Pls dont neglect your health..

When you said rum based drinks,I didnt realize that you were talking about rum based cocktails..Pina Colada is a good cocktail..Do you like cocktails??I feel beer is the best alcoholic beverage..What is your opinion??Which is your favourite drink??

It's good to know that your diet is going okay..How many pounds do you plan on losing??Any other changes that you plan on making in your diet??

You mentioned that you don't explain much to xMM now..Why do you even explain your thoughts,even if it is just a bit, to xMM when you know xMM is selfish and only concerned about himself??Pls start NC..

You mentioned that you have some empathy for xMM..Why do you have empathy for xMM,even if it is less compared to earlier,when you know xMM is selfish and only concerned about himself??Pls understand that you have to reach the state of indifference towards xMM..Pls start NC..

You know the affair is causing you stress..Pls start NC..The stress is not good for you..

You know that xMM is selfish..You know that xMM is only concerned about himself..You know that xMM is not a friend..You know that the affair is causing stress to you..Pls start NC..The stress is not good for you..

You mentioned that working towards NC means that it will happen but when you are ready..Can you pls explain as to what are you doing to get ready to start NC??

Why is the management making you work extra on Mondays and Wednesdays??

Do you have any family around??What about joining a gym or a dance class??

Pls start looking for a job..It can help you start NC..

Pls start NC..

Pls look for IC..

Always believe in yourself...

 

 

 

 

 

Hi AriesMan83,

I'm not as good today. I'm off, but H got off early, so I won't have any time to myself today, like I would like. How are you?

I like some cocktails, but some have too much sugar. Sangria is my favorite drink. 

I don't plan on losing much weight, maybe a few pounds. I'm pretty trim. I don't have any other changes I'm making. 

I guess I try to have empathy and explain myself to xMM, because I still care about him some. It's not in the romantic way that I used to, though. I thought that he cared about me and not only about himself. He does stress me out about not meeting him before work. I have some indifference to him, but I know that to do NC I need to be totally indifferent to him. Maybe I'm not ready for NC, because I'm not totally indifferent to him yet. I know that if I keep talking to him it's hard to get to that point. 

We're working later Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday. I work in food production and we're very busy and need overtime. 

My mom lives about an hour away from me. She's having a lot of problems with me stepdad. He's an alcoholic and he's verbally abusive to her. He also has health problems. I have been talking to her and supporting her. He won't quit drinking, even though doctors have told him to. Her situation reminds me of my own some and I can see my H acting as bad as my stepdad in the future. He and my mom have been together a long time and he used to treat her well. He has so much hostility towards her and my husband seems to have hostility towards me. 

I think that my home life is causing more stress than xMM ever could. 

[AriesMan83]

2 hours ago, lftbehind said:

Hi AriesMan83,

I'm not as good today. I'm off, but H got off early, so I won't have any time to myself today, like I would like. How are you?

I like some cocktails, but some have too much sugar. Sangria is my favorite drink. 

I don't plan on losing much weight, maybe a few pounds. I'm pretty trim. I don't have any other changes I'm making. 

I guess I try to have empathy and explain myself to xMM, because I still care about him some. It's not in the romantic way that I used to, though. I thought that he cared about me and not only about himself. He does stress me out about not meeting him before work. I have some indifference to him, but I know that to do NC I need to be totally indifferent to him. Maybe I'm not ready for NC, because I'm not totally indifferent to him yet. I know that if I keep talking to him it's hard to get to that point. 

We're working later Monday, Tuesday and Wednesday. I work in food production and we're very busy and need overtime. 

My mom lives about an hour away from me. She's having a lot of problems with me stepdad. He's an alcoholic and he's verbally abusive to her. He also has health problems. I have been talking to her and supporting her. He won't quit drinking, even though doctors have told him to. Her situation reminds me of my own some and I can see my H acting as bad as my stepdad in the future. He and my mom have been together a long time and he used to treat her well. He has so much hostility towards her and my husband seems to have hostility towards me. 

I think that my home life is causing more stress than xMM ever could. 

Iftbehind,

I am OK..How are you??

Are you feeling sick??Did you do the online research on the doctors??Pls visit a doctor..Don't ignore your health..

Do you have any plans for your day off??

I have never tried Sangria..How is the drink??Don't you like beers??

How is your diet plan going on??How is the progress on your weight loss plan??Are you staying away from sweets and binging??

Do you cook??What kind of dishes do you like to cook??

You don't have to become indifferent towards xMM to go NC...You go NC to become indifferent towards xMM...Complete NC will help you to reach the state of indifference..Pls start NC..

Why do you care about xMM as a friend when you know that xMM is selfish and only concerned about himself??Why do you want to be friends with xMM when xMM is enabling you to make wrong choices??Will you advise me to care about and be friends with someone who is only concerned about himself and is enabling me to make wrong choices??

You know that the affair is causing you stress..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health..

You know xMM is selfish and only concerned  about himself..You know xMM is enabling you to make wrong choices..You know that the affair is a wrong choice..You know that the affair is cuasing you stress..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health..

Why is the company not hiring new people??Has the company offered any incentives to the employees for the overtime??What kind of foods does the company manufacture??

Why is your step dad not ready to quit alcohol??Is he not worried about his health??Continue supporting your mom...Are you going to meet your mom today on your day off??Maybe she can help you with finding a doctor for you..

Do you have any other close family member near to your city??

Are you looking for a new job??A new job can help you with NC..

Pls start NC..

Pls look for IC..It can help you..

Always believe in yourself...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Edited February 19, 2020 by AriesMan83

[lftbehind]

12 hours ago, AriesMan83 said:

Iftbehind,

I am OK..How are you??

Are you feeling sick??Did you do the online research on the doctors??Pls visit a doctor..Don't ignore your health..

Do you have any plans for your day off??

I have never tried Sangria..How is the drink??Don't you like beers??

How is your diet plan going on??How is the progress on your weight loss plan??Are you staying away from sweets and binging??

Do you cook??What kind of dishes do you like to cook??

You don't have to become indifferent towards xMM to go NC...You go NC to become indifferent towards xMM...Complete NC will help you to reach the state of indifference..Pls start NC..

Why do you care about xMM as a friend when you know that xMM is selfish and only concerned about himself??Why do you want to be friends with xMM when xMM is enabling you to make wrong choices??Will you advise me to care about and be friends with someone who is only concerned about himself and is enabling me to make wrong choices??

You know that the affair is causing you stress..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health..

You know xMM is selfish and only concerned  about himself..You know xMM is enabling you to make wrong choices..You know that the affair is a wrong choice..You know that the affair is cuasing you stress..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health..

Why is the company not hiring new people??Has the company offered any incentives to the employees for the overtime??What kind of foods does the company manufacture??

Why is your step dad not ready to quit alcohol??Is he not worried about his health??Continue supporting your mom...Are you going to meet your mom today on your day off??Maybe she can help you with finding a doctor for you..

Do you have any other close family member near to your city??

Are you looking for a new job??A new job can help you with NC..

Pls start NC..

Pls look for IC..It can help you..

Always believe in yourself...

 

Hi AriesMan83,

I'm doing okay. How are you doing?

I've been feeling okay. I didn't do much on my day off, just went out for dinner and did some grocery shopping. 

I think Sangria is good. Maybe you might like it. Beer is okay, I just never drink it anymore. 

My diet is okay. I'm staying about the same weight. I eat some sweets, but haven't been binging. 

I haven't cooked for years. I get home too late and I don't feel like cooking in the morning. 

I know that I need NC, but haven't started it yet. 

The company is hiring new people. We have a high turnover rate sometimes. We get time and a half overtime pay. We make the quiches for Starbucks and beef, chicken and turkey for retail and commercial buyers. The food that we make is considered upscale. 

I guess my stepdad isn't worried enough about his health to quit drinking. He's making my mom's life miserable. I told her that I'm there for her anytime she needs me. 

I don't have any other family around. I don't have any siblings and my dad lives in another country with his wife. They come back to the US for a few months in the Summer and I visit them for a weekend. 

[AriesMan83]

9 hours ago, lftbehind said:

Hi AriesMan83,

I'm doing okay. How are you doing?

I've been feeling okay. I didn't do much on my day off, just went out for dinner and did some grocery shopping. 

I think Sangria is good. Maybe you might like it. Beer is okay, I just never drink it anymore. 

My diet is okay. I'm staying about the same weight. I eat some sweets, but haven't been binging. 

I haven't cooked for years. I get home too late and I don't feel like cooking in the morning. 

I know that I need NC, but haven't started it yet. 

The company is hiring new people. We have a high turnover rate sometimes. We get time and a half overtime pay. We make the quiches for Starbucks and beef, chicken and turkey for retail and commercial buyers. The food that we make is considered upscale. 

I guess my stepdad isn't worried enough about his health to quit drinking. He's making my mom's life miserable. I told her that I'm there for her anytime she needs me. 

I don't have any other family around. I don't have any siblings and my dad lives in another country with his wife. They come back to the US for a few months in the Summer and I visit them for a weekend. 

Iftbehind,

I am OK..How are you today??

How is your headache now??Have you found out a doctor??Pls dont neglect your health..

It's good that you went out for dinner on your day off..Why didnt you go for a movie??

I will try Sangria then...Do you like whiskey??Have you ever tried vodka??What are the various cuisines that you have tried yet,apart from American and Italian??

It's good to know that your diet plan is going okay and also that you are not binging..Do you eat as many sweets as earlier or have you decreased the amount??

Where do you have your meals then??Do you eat all your meals at restaurants everyday??

You know that xMM is selfish and only concerned about himself..You know that the affair is a wrong choice..You know that the affair is causing you stress..Why havent you started NC yet??Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health..

It's good to know that the company is giving you incentives for the overtime..Is the incentive adequate enough for the amount of extra hours that you have to work or should it be more??What is your job in the company??

Does the doctor know that your stepdad refuses to quit alcohol??How is your mom now??Do you talk to her daily??Continue supporting your mom..

Do you have any relatives or cousins staying near to you??

What about going to your dad's country for a vacation??It can be fun..

Pls start NC..

Pls look for IC..

Pls start looking for a job..

Pls take care of your health..

Always have faith in yourself..

 

 

 

Edited February 20, 2020 by AriesMan83

[lftbehind]

14 hours ago, AriesMan83 said:

Iftbehind,

I am OK..How are you today??

How is your headache now??Have you found out a doctor??Pls dont neglect your health..

It's good that you went out for dinner on your day off..Why didnt you go for a movie??

I will try Sangria then...Do you like whiskey??Have you ever tried vodka??What are the various cuisines that you have tried yet,apart from American and Italian??

It's good to know that your diet plan is going okay and also that you are not binging..Do you eat as many sweets as earlier or have you decreased the amount??

Where do you have your meals then??Do you eat all your meals at restaurants everyday??

You know that xMM is selfish and only concerned about himself..You know that the affair is a wrong choice..You know that the affair is causing you stress..Why havent you started NC yet??Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health..

It's good to know that the company is giving you incentives for the overtime..Is the incentive adequate enough for the amount of extra hours that you have to work or should it be more??What is your job in the company??

Does the doctor know that your stepdad refuses to quit alcohol??How is your mom now??Do you talk to her daily??Continue supporting your mom..

Do you have any relatives or cousins staying near to you??

What about going to your dad's country for a vacation??It can be fun..

Pls start NC..

Pls look for IC..

Pls start looking for a job..

Pls take care of your health..

Always have faith in yourself..

 

 

 

Hi AriesMan83,

I'm okay. How are you doing?

My headache is better. I didn't go to a movie on my day off, because there wasn't a movie on that my H and I both wanted to see. Some new ones are out today, so maybe I'll see one on Sunday. 

I don't care for Vodka. I eat Mexican and Chinese food sometimes. What other cuisines do you eat? I have cut the sweets a little, I just try to not overindulge often. 

I eat TV dinners at work., but once in a while I'll buy a meal at a restaurant and take it to work. 

The overtime pay at work is okay. I work in production and packaging of the quiche. 

The doctors are frustrated with my stepdad, because he won't quit alcohol. My mom isn't doing very well with all the stress. We don't talk everyday, but often. I don't have any other relatives near me. 

My dad and stepmom are living in Brazil. They never invited us to visit there and I don't want to invite myself. 

I was talking to xMM on the phone last night and he asked for me to take a picture of my paycheck stub from my paycheck that I got yesterday and send it to him. He had asked me that before and he had said that he wanted to see how many vacation hours that I had. I told him how many hours I had and said that he didn't need to see my pay stub. When he asked me for it last night, I told him the same thing that I had told him before and that he didn't need to see my pay stub. He got offended and said goodbye and hung up. I blocked him again and plan on doing NC. I shouldn't have to deal with him and I need to free myself from him. I don't know why I have cared about someone who treats me that way. I will try to avoid him at work and I don't see him much. I need to not soften again when I see him and keep him blocked. 

 

 

[Crazelnut]

lftbehind, Great job on blocking him. He is so out of line to ask to see your paystub. That's really sketchy! He's not good for you, so stay strong and stay NC.

[AriesMan83]

9 hours ago, lftbehind said:

Hi AriesMan83,

I'm okay. How are you doing?

My headache is better. I didn't go to a movie on my day off, because there wasn't a movie on that my H and I both wanted to see. Some new ones are out today, so maybe I'll see one on Sunday. 

I don't care for Vodka. I eat Mexican and Chinese food sometimes. What other cuisines do you eat? I have cut the sweets a little, I just try to not overindulge often. 

I eat TV dinners at work., but once in a while I'll buy a meal at a restaurant and take it to work. 

The overtime pay at work is okay. I work in production and packaging of the quiche. 

The doctors are frustrated with my stepdad, because he won't quit alcohol. My mom isn't doing very well with all the stress. We don't talk everyday, but often. I don't have any other relatives near me. 

My dad and stepmom are living in Brazil. They never invited us to visit there and I don't want to invite myself. 

I was talking to xMM on the phone last night and he asked for me to take a picture of my paycheck stub from my paycheck that I got yesterday and send it to him. He had asked me that before and he had said that he wanted to see how many vacation hours that I had. I told him how many hours I had and said that he didn't need to see my pay stub. When he asked me for it last night, I told him the same thing that I had told him before and that he didn't need to see my pay stub. He got offended and said goodbye and hung up. I blocked him again and plan on doing NC. I shouldn't have to deal with him and I need to free myself from him. I don't know why I have cared about someone who treats me that way. I will try to avoid him at work and I don't see him much. I need to not soften again when I see him and keep him blocked. 

 

 

Iftbehind,

I am OK..How are you??

Its good to know that you are feeling better..But you should visit a doctor..Did you find out a doctor??Pls take care of your health..

Is Sunday your day off??Which movie do you plan on watching on Sunday??

I eat a lot of Chinese food...I like spicy food a lot..Do you like spicy food??Which dishes of Chinese food do you like??Do you like whiskey??

How is your diet plan going on??Have you started eating fruits??Do you eat sweets everyday??

What is a TV dinner??Where do you eat your breakfast and lunch??

How long have you been working in the company??How exciting is your job??

Do you like travelling??

How is your mom today??Did you talk to her today??Continue supporting her..What is your stepdad's reasoning for not quitting alcohol??

Why does xMM want to know about how many vacation hours you have left??

You know xMM is selfish and only concerned about himself..You know the affair is a wrong choice and causes you stress..It's good to know that you have blocked him on phone..Pls don't unblock xMM on phone..Pls dont talk or messge xMM on phone..Pls dont talk to him at work..Pls avoid him at work...Pls don't let xMM's thoughts enter your head..Complete physical and mental NC will help you in becoming indifferent towards xMM..Pls continue the NC..Stress is not good for you..

Pls continue the NC..

Pls start looking for a job..

Pls look for IC..

Always have faith in yourself..

 

Edited February 21, 2020 by AriesMan83

[lftbehind]

20 hours ago, AriesMan83 said:

Iftbehind,

I am OK..How are you??

Its good to know that you are feeling better..But you should visit a doctor..Did you find out a doctor??Pls take care of your health..

Is Sunday your day off??Which movie do you plan on watching on Sunday??

I eat a lot of Chinese food...I like spicy food a lot..Do you like spicy food??Which dishes of Chinese food do you like??Do you like whiskey??

How is your diet plan going on??Have you started eating fruits??Do you eat sweets everyday??

What is a TV dinner??Where do you eat your breakfast and lunch??

How long have you been working in the company??How exciting is your job??

Do you like travelling??

How is your mom today??Did you talk to her today??Continue supporting her..What is your stepdad's reasoning for not quitting alcohol??

Why does xMM want to know about how many vacation hours you have left??

You know xMM is selfish and only concerned about himself..You know the affair is a wrong choice and causes you stress..It's good to know that you have blocked him on phone..Pls don't unblock xMM on phone..Pls dont talk or messge xMM on phone..Pls dont talk to him at work..Pls avoid him at work...Pls don't let xMM's thoughts enter your head..Complete physical and mental NC will help you in becoming indifferent towards xMM..Pls continue the NC..Stress is not good for you..

Pls continue the NC..

Pls start looking for a job..

Pls look for IC..

Always have faith in yourself..

 

Hi AriesMan83,

I'm okay. We've been working until 1 a.m. every night, so I'm tired  How are you doing?

I'm off Sunday. We may see the movie called "The Boy II". We saw the first one and I liked. It's a strange, scary movie. 

I don't eat too much spicy food. I have a sensitive stomach sometimes. I like Sesame Chicken and Sweet and Sour Chicken the best. Which dishes do you like? I don't care for Whiskey.

My diets okay, but I haven't been eating enough vegetables or fruit. I do eat sweets every day. I try to limit it, though. 

A TV dinner is a frozen dinner, like Stouffer's. I eat a cereal bar for breakfast and a sandwich and a cupcake for lunch and eat a home, usually. What do you eat?

I've been working at the company for 6 years and 2 months. The job is pretty repetitive, but I do different things on the production line, so I'm not always in the same place. 

I like traveling, but it's expensive and it's hard to get the time off from work. Do you like traveling? 

I haven't talked to my mom today. I guess my stepdad just doesn't want to quit the drinking. He went to an alcohol treatment clinic a few weeks ago, but he was unhappy there and he acted up and they wanted him to leave early, a week before he finished the program. He went right back to drinking when he got out. He retired from a great job in the government, where he had a very prestigious career. I think he misses how things were when he was younger. It's like he's given up on caring for himself. 

I tried to avoid xMM, but saw him at work 3 times. The first time was when I got to work and was putting my uniform on. There were a lot of people around and he didn't stop and say anything to me. The second time was when I was working, I looked up from working and saw him looking at me from a distance. The third time was when I was leaving work he was by the front door. I kept walking when I saw him and he was right behind me. I held the door for him and said bye, but I didn't walk with him. I ran ahead of him out to my car. I still have him blocked on my phone. He's probably tried to call and text and doesn't know why he can't get through. I know it's the right thing to do for me, but I don't like hurting him. 

[AriesMan83]

3 hours ago, lftbehind said:

Hi AriesMan83,

I'm okay. We've been working until 1 a.m. every night, so I'm tired  How are you doing?

I'm off Sunday. We may see the movie called "The Boy II". We saw the first one and I liked. It's a strange, scary movie. 

I don't eat too much spicy food. I have a sensitive stomach sometimes. I like Sesame Chicken and Sweet and Sour Chicken the best. Which dishes do you like? I don't care for Whiskey.

My diets okay, but I haven't been eating enough vegetables or fruit. I do eat sweets every day. I try to limit it, though. 

A TV dinner is a frozen dinner, like Stouffer's. I eat a cereal bar for breakfast and a sandwich and a cupcake for lunch and eat a home, usually. What do you eat?

I've been working at the company for 6 years and 2 months. The job is pretty repetitive, but I do different things on the production line, so I'm not always in the same place. 

I like traveling, but it's expensive and it's hard to get the time off from work. Do you like traveling? 

I haven't talked to my mom today. I guess my stepdad just doesn't want to quit the drinking. He went to an alcohol treatment clinic a few weeks ago, but he was unhappy there and he acted up and they wanted him to leave early, a week before he finished the program. He went right back to drinking when he got out. He retired from a great job in the government, where he had a very prestigious career. I think he misses how things were when he was younger. It's like he's given up on caring for himself. 

I tried to avoid xMM, but saw him at work 3 times. The first time was when I got to work and was putting my uniform on. There were a lot of people around and he didn't stop and say anything to me. The second time was when I was working, I looked up from working and saw him looking at me from a distance. The third time was when I was leaving work he was by the front door. I kept walking when I saw him and he was right behind me. I held the door for him and said bye, but I didn't walk with him. I ran ahead of him out to my car. I still have him blocked on my phone. He's probably tried to call and text and doesn't know why he can't get through. I know it's the right thing to do for me, but I don't like hurting him. 

Iftbehind,

I am okay..How are you??Are you getting enough sleep??

How is your headace now??Did you find a doctor??Pls take care of your health..

Its good to know that you will have fun on your day off..I don't watch horror movies much..I would prefer a sci-fi or an action movie..Which kind of movies do you like??

I love Chicken and egg dishes a lot..Any dish with chicken or egg in it is my favourite..What are the different cuisines,apart from Mexican and Thai,that you have tried yet??

How is your diet plan going on??Have you continued or stopped eating vegetable salad??Are you stocking sweets at your home??

So a TV meal is a frozen meal??I can eat anything provided it is tasty..

You have been with the company for a long time..Is this your first job??How big is the company??

Although I haven't travelled much in the last 6-7 years but I like travelling a lot..When was your last vacation??How do you spend your vacation hours??

You mentioned in your previous post that your father stays in Brazil..So is your father from Brazil or did he shift there some years ago??

How is your mother today??Did you talk to her??Does your stepdad know as to how much stress it is causing to your mother??

Maybe you think that you are hurting xMM because you consider XMM your friend...Maybe you want to help xMM..Pls understand that xMM's issues are xMM's own concern..Pls stop considering him a friend..Friends don't enable their friends to make wrong choices..Will you consider me a friend if I enable you to start smoking cigarettes??Will you feel bad of breaking your friendship with me??You know xMM is selfish and is enabling you to make wrong choices..Pls continue NC..Stress is not good for you..

You know that the affair is a wrong choice..You know that the affair is causing you stress..Pls continue NC..Stress is not good for you..

Why did you say bye to xMM and not completely ignore xMM??

It's good to know that xMM is still blocked in your phone..Pls dont unblock him..Pls dont talk to him or unblock him on the phone..Pls dont talk to xMM at work..Pls avoid xMM at work..Pls dont let xMM's thoughts enter your head..Complete NC will lead you to indifference towards xMM..Pls continue NC..

Pls start looking for a job..

Pls look for IC..

Pls take care of yourself..

Always have faith in yourself..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Edited February 22, 2020 by AriesMan83

[lftbehind]

21 hours ago, AriesMan83 said:

Iftbehind,

I am okay..How are you??Are you getting enough sleep??

How is your headace now??Did you find a doctor??Pls take care of your health..

Its good to know that you will have fun on your day off..I don't watch horror movies much..I would prefer a sci-fi or an action movie..Which kind of movies do you like??

I love Chicken and egg dishes a lot..Any dish with chicken or egg in it is my favourite..What are the different cuisines,apart from Mexican and Thai,that you have tried yet??

How is your diet plan going on??Have you continued or stopped eating vegetable salad??Are you stocking sweets at your home??

So a TV meal is a frozen meal??I can eat anything provided it is tasty..

You have been with the company for a long time..Is this your first job??How big is the company??

Although I haven't travelled much in the last 6-7 years but I like travelling a lot..When was your last vacation??How do you spend your vacation hours??

You mentioned in your previous post that your father stays in Brazil..So is your father from Brazil or did he shift there some years ago??

How is your mother today??Did you talk to her??Does your stepdad know as to how much stress it is causing to your mother??

Maybe you think that you are hurting xMM because you consider XMM your friend...Maybe you want to help xMM..Pls understand that xMM's issues are xMM's own concern..Pls stop considering him a friend..Friends don't enable their friends to make wrong choices..Will you consider me a friend if I enable you to start smoking cigarettes??Will you feel bad of breaking your friendship with me??You know xMM is selfish and is enabling you to make wrong choices..Pls continue NC..Stress is not good for you..

You know that the affair is a wrong choice..You know that the affair is causing you stress..Pls continue NC..Stress is not good for you..

Why did you say bye to xMM and not completely ignore xMM??

It's good to know that xMM is still blocked in your phone..Pls dont unblock him..Pls dont talk to him or unblock him on the phone..Pls dont talk to xMM at work..Pls avoid xMM at work..Pls dont let xMM's thoughts enter your head..Complete NC will lead you to indifference towards xMM..Pls continue NC..

Pls start looking for a job..

Pls look for IC..

Pls take care of yourself..

Always have faith in yourself..

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Hi AriesMan83,

I'm okay, but I haven't been sleeping well this week. How is your weekend going?

My headache is okay, but I have been getting slight ones on and off. I haven't found a doctor yet. I've been working so much that I haven't been getting on the computer much. 

I like action movies, scary movies, independent films, documentaries, some comedy and some romantic movies. 

I have tried some Peruvian food. I haven't been getting salads as much. I need to get back in the habit. I do have sweets at home. Some TV dinners are good and some are not as good. Stouffer's are pretty good. 

I'm not sure how many people are employed by the company, but there are 4 locations worldwide, 2 in the U.S. There are about Five Hundred Fifty people at our location. It's not my first job. 

My last vacation was over 3 years ago and it was a cruise in the Mediterranean, starting in Italy and going to Slovenia, Greece and Croatia. I went with my mom and stepdad. My husband and I haven't taken a vacation for a long time. We usually go to visit family and drive so much that it's not very relaxing. Where have you traveled?

My step mother is from Brazil and has family there. They have been living there part of the year for over 10 years. 

My mom is stressed out recently. She has told my stepdad that she is, but he doesn't seem to care how the way he acts is affecting her. 

I saw xMM a few times yesterday. His department wasn't working, so he had to work in different departments last night. Normally I don't see him much. I did say hi to him, but that's it. He said hi to me first. He's still blocked on my. phone. You're right, his issues are his and his wife's concerns. I do need to stop thinking of him as a friend. He hasn't even treated me that well. I do miss him some, but I know that I needed to end it for a few reasons. I just need to stay strong. Thanks for helping me see how I need to do NC. 

 

 

 

[AriesMan83]

2 hours ago, lftbehind said:

Hi AriesMan83,

I'm okay, but I haven't been sleeping well this week. How is your weekend going?

My headache is okay, but I have been getting slight ones on and off. I haven't found a doctor yet. I've been working so much that I haven't been getting on the computer much. 

I like action movies, scary movies, independent films, documentaries, some comedy and some romantic movies. 

I have tried some Peruvian food. I haven't been getting salads as much. I need to get back in the habit. I do have sweets at home. Some TV dinners are good and some are not as good. Stouffer's are pretty good. 

I'm not sure how many people are employed by the company, but there are 4 locations worldwide, 2 in the U.S. There are about Five Hundred Fifty people at our location. It's not my first job. 

My last vacation was over 3 years ago and it was a cruise in the Mediterranean, starting in Italy and going to Slovenia, Greece and Croatia. I went with my mom and stepdad. My husband and I haven't taken a vacation for a long time. We usually go to visit family and drive so much that it's not very relaxing. Where have you traveled?

My step mother is from Brazil and has family there. They have been living there part of the year for over 10 years. 

My mom is stressed out recently. She has told my stepdad that she is, but he doesn't seem to care how the way he acts is affecting her. 

I saw xMM a few times yesterday. His department wasn't working, so he had to work in different departments last night. Normally I don't see him much. I did say hi to him, but that's it. He said hi to me first. He's still blocked on my. phone. You're right, his issues are his and his wife's concerns. I do need to stop thinking of him as a friend. He hasn't even treated me that well. I do miss him some, but I know that I needed to end it for a few reasons. I just need to stay strong. Thanks for helping me see how I need to do NC. 

 

 

 

Iftbehind,

My weekend is OK...How are you??

How is your weekend??Did you see the movie that you wanted to see??How is your day off??

How is your headache now??It's been a few days since you have been suffering from headaches and now you are also not sleeping well..Pls dont ignore your health..Pls search online for a doctor as soon as possible..Pls visit a doctor as soon as possible..

Who is your favourite actor & actress??Which is your favourite sport??

Is there any other cuisine that you plan on trying??

How is your diet going on??Why have you stopped eating salads??Why are you keeping sweets at your home again??

It seems that the company you work for is very big..Is the other US manufacturing unit also in your city??How many jobs have you worked at before your current job??

Did you enjoy the cruise??When are you planning to go on your next vacation??I have travelled a bit within my home country..

How is your mother today??Did you talk to her today??Continue supporting her..

Why did you say Hi to xMM even if xMM was the first one to say it??

You know xMM is selfish and is only concerned about himself. .You know xMM is enabling you to make wrong choices..You know that the affair is causing you stress..Pls continue NC...Stress is not good for you..

Maybe you miss xMM because you still consider xMM a friend..Pls realize that xMM is not a friend..Friends don't enable each other to make wrong choices..Pls dont talk to reply to xMM even a bit at work or on phone..Pls continue NC..

It's good to know that xMM is still blocked on your phone..Pls dont unblock xMM on the phone..Pls dont talk or reply to xMM even a bit at work..Pls avoid xMM completely at work..Pls dont let xMM's thoughts enter your head..Complete NC will help you become indifferent towards xMM..Pls continue NC..Stress is not good for you..

Thank you for giving me an opportunity to help you..

Pls start looking for a job..It can help you with NC..

Pls take care of your health..

Pls continue NC..

Pls start looking for IC..

Always have faith in yourself..

 

 

 

Edited February 23, 2020 by AriesMan83

[lftbehind]

17 hours ago, Dimjo9 said:

Lftbehind,

 

Are you also married ? “Thou shall not commit adultery” & “thou shall not covet other man’s wife/husband”..

Karmic Justice - “so as we reap we shall sow” be aware of this; if they have problem in their marriage let them sort it out..

I suggest you cut contact for life, resign from your work, & come clean on your H.. tell him everything u did.. what ever is the consequence accept it..

Also inform his W she deserves to know the truth.. Your both hurt your spouses deeply.. your only retribution is “honesty”

 

17 hours ago, Dimjo9 said:

Hi Ariesman,

The lady has still goodness in her; whats happening is conscience.. she has to quit her job, maintain NC & tell her Husband everything..

The truth will set her free whatever is the outcome.. her’s is EA/PA ?? How long ? 

Also the OM’s wife must be inform.. if she will do this the burden/load in her heart will be lifted..

No marriage is perfect & MM who goes after another man’s wife are those without principle @ integrity..

Her Husband deserves to know everything.. let him decide after full disclosure... 

 

14 hours ago, Dimjo9 said:

Hi Lftbehind,

I can still see the kindness in your heart.. Be honest & confess to your Husband.. What ever decision he will make respect it..

What is happening to you is attack of conscience.. no amount of exercise, food or recreation can unburden this.. The only way is to come clean & to your Husband/Family..

We are to be responsible for our actions as adults.. 

You have to resign from the company asap.. explain to your supervisor or HR the situation. The more u stay the deeper you will fall into the pit..

Your H is a gambler & neglected you as I understand.. there is a saying “THE END DOES NOT JUSTiFY THE MEANS”.. 
 

Make a timeline of everything & give it to your Husband.. EA/PA complete detail.. the OM’s wife furnish her a copy & ask for forgiveness..

“a walk to a 3,000 miles starts in 1 step”.. 

 

 

Hi Dimjo9,

I'm married, also. He's married, but has always said that he's separated from his wife. They live together and co-parent their extremely handicapped son. I believed that they were working towards divorce, but now I don't know if it's true or not. We had an EA and PA on and off for about 1 year. We have not had the PA for over a year,  just talking sometimes at work or on the phone. I used to work in the same department with him, but I don't work in that department anymore. I don't usually see him much at work. I can't quit my job over him. I don't have the feelings for him that I used to have and the affair won't start again. I'm doing NC now. 

My conscience does bother me some that I had the affair. My H has been very verbally abusive sometimes, even though he knows how much he hurts me. He has made me feel like nothing and very bad about myself and I don't care for him like I used to. He also is an alcoholic and smokes pot a lot. When he doesn't have the pot, the way that he treats me is worse. I won't confess to him, because I'm afraid that he might get violent with me. He hasn't yet, but I feel like he might over that. 

I don't think it's my place to tell xMM's wife about our A and it's over now. 

 

 

[Dimjo9]

6 hours ago, lftbehind said:

Hi Dimjo9,

I'm married, also. He's married, but has always said that he's separated from his wife. They live together and co-parent their extremely handicapped son. I believed that they were working towards divorce, but now I don't know if it's true or not. We had an EA and PA on and off for about 1 year. We have not had the PA for over a year,  just talking sometimes at work or on the phone. I used to work in the same department with him, but I don't work in that department anymore. I don't usually see him much at work. I can't quit my job over him. I don't have the feelings for him that I used to have and the affair won't start again. I'm doing NC now. 

My conscience does bother me some that I had the affair. My H has been very verbally abusive sometimes, even though he knows how much he hurts me. He has made me feel like nothing and very bad about myself and I don't care for him like I used to. He also is an alcoholic and smokes pot a lot. When he doesn't have the pot, the way that he treats me is worse. I won't confess to him, because I'm afraid that he might get violent with me. He hasn't yet, but I feel like he might over that. 

I don't think it's my place to tell xMM's wife about our A and it's over now. 

 

 

Why did you not initiate divorce or dissolution of marriage with your Husband ? Yours is irreconcilable differences which will be valid grounds. How can you initiate NC with your OM when u see him or talk over the phone? NC means no talk, no eyeball,  or anything for life.

Your Husband deserves the truth of your affair & he won't hurt you  Men who get strength through Liquor don't have the guts to be violent or hurt someone. Crying like a baby after your full disclosure is more logical. This might even be his wake up call to reform.. we have a saying " news can fly, the walls have ears " 

OM is fully married to his wife & not co-parenting.. He fooled you on this false premise & became his mistress.. The wife deserves to know what happened.. if by fate she finds out & contact your Husband you don't have leverage anymore.

You parents or sibling knows about your affair ? If not telling them is a good start for transparency. Look for another job away from MM.. if you want to really change your life for the better this is it..

As adults we must be responsible for our actions; after disclosing to your Husband everything let him decide what course he likes to embark on your marriage..If he divorce you then freedom from his abusive behavior is yours.. If he decides to reconcile you can set house rules favorable to you..

If he confronts MM this is his prerogative & his right.. You have to support him to gain his trust.. "The truth hurts but it will set you free".. The two of you might start over & walk in a new path towards a healing marriage..

If you don't want confrontation with him write down your affair timeline detailing everything. Go to your parents house & bring the kids if u have.. if no kids much easier.. u will see after being honest the heavy heart & burden u are carrying will be gone.. Staying at your parents home will give him time & space to think over himself as a husband..

Think it over !!

 

 

[lftbehind]

20 hours ago, AriesMan83 said:

Iftbehind,

My weekend is OK...How are you??

How is your weekend??Did you see the movie that you wanted to see??How is your day off??

How is your headache now??It's been a few days since you have been suffering from headaches and now you are also not sleeping well..Pls dont ignore your health..Pls search online for a doctor as soon as possible..Pls visit a doctor as soon as possible..

Who is your favourite actor & actress??Which is your favourite sport??

Is there any other cuisine that you plan on trying??

How is your diet going on??Why have you stopped eating salads??Why are you keeping sweets at your home again??

It seems that the company you work for is very big..Is the other US manufacturing unit also in your city??How many jobs have you worked at before your current job??

Did you enjoy the cruise??When are you planning to go on your next vacation??I have travelled a bit within my home country..

How is your mother today??Did you talk to her today??Continue supporting her..

Why did you say Hi to xMM even if xMM was the first one to say it??

You know xMM is selfish and is only concerned about himself. .You know xMM is enabling you to make wrong choices..You know that the affair is causing you stress..Pls continue NC...Stress is not good for you..

Maybe you miss xMM because you still consider xMM a friend..Pls realize that xMM is not a friend..Friends don't enable each other to make wrong choices..Pls dont talk to reply to xMM even a bit at work or on phone..Pls continue NC..

It's good to know that xMM is still blocked on your phone..Pls dont unblock xMM on the phone..Pls dont talk or reply to xMM even a bit at work..Pls avoid xMM completely at work..Pls dont let xMM's thoughts enter your head..Complete NC will help you become indifferent towards xMM..Pls continue NC..Stress is not good for you..

Thank you for giving me an opportunity to help you..

Pls start looking for a job..It can help you with NC..

Pls take care of your health..

Pls continue NC..

Pls start looking for IC..

Always have faith in yourself..

 

 

 

Hi AriesMan83,

That's good you enjoyed your weekend. I'm doing okay. 

My day off was okay. H was out of pot, so he was on edge more. If we're talking and he says something that I disagree with, he he says I'm antagonistic. I said "am I supposed to say that I agree with you just to avoid an argument?"  I tried to defend myself and tell him that I'm not antagonistic and he said that he was getting mad and didn't want to talk about it. He unfairly labels me and I don't like it. Sometimes it's not relaxing being around him. We went out to eat, but didn't get around to seeing the movie. What did you do?

My headache is better. 

One of my favorite actors is Robert Pattison and actress is Helen Mirren. Who are your favorites? My favorite sport is swimming. What's yours?

I don't know what other cuisines that I might try. Are there some that you might try? I ate more yesterday, but I'll try to cut back again today. I haven't been getting salads as much, because I haven't been feeling like going to the store before work. I've always kept sweets at home. 

The other U.S. manufacturing plant for my company is in a city about 1 hour from my plant. I've had about 8 jobs, but I did some temp work, too. 

The cruise was good. I'm not sure where or when I'll take a vacation again. Where is your home country?

I haven't talked to my mom today. 

When I saw xMM the other day, it caught me by surprise and he said hi, so I said hi to him. I have been trying to avoid him and I still have him blocked on my phone. I try not to think about him, but I do a little. I know that NC is the right thing to do. 

 

 

[lftbehind]

3 minutes ago, Dimjo9 said:

Why did you not initiate divorce or dissolution of marriage with your Husband ? Yours is irreconcilable differences which will be valid grounds. How can you initiate NC with your OM when u see him or talk over the phone? NC means no talk, no eyeball,  or anything for life.

Your Husband deserves the truth of your affair & he won't hurt you  Men who get strength through Liquor don't have the guts to be violent or hurt someone. Crying like a baby after your full disclosure is more logical. This might even be his wake up call to reform.. we have a saying " news can fly, the walls have ears " 

OM is fully married to his wife & not co-parenting.. He fooled you on this false premise & became his mistress.. The wife deserves to know what happened.. if by fate she finds out & contact your Husband you don't have leverage anymore.

You parents or sibling knows about your affair ? If not telling them is a good start for transparency. Look for another job away from MM.. if you want to really change your life for the better this is it..

As adults we must be responsible for our actions; after disclosing to your Husband everything let him decide what course he likes to embark on your marriage..If he divorce you then freedom from his abusive behavior is yours.. If he decides to reconcile you can set house rules favorable to you..

If he confronts MM this is his prerogative & his right.. You have to support him to gain his trust.. "The truth hurts but it will set you free".. The two of you might start over & walk in a new path towards a healing marriage..

If you don't want confrontation with him write down your affair timeline detailing everything. Go to your parents house & bring the kids if u have.. if no kids much easier.. u will see after being honest the heavy heart & burden u are carrying will be gone.. Staying at your parents home will give him time & space to think over himself as a husband..

Think it over !!

 

 

I have been trying to make it work with H, but he's hard to deal with. I just started NC with xMM. I'm going to run into him once in a while, just trying to make the best of it. I can say hi without talking to him again. 

I don't know how you can say that H won't hurt me. He could kill me and would it be worth it? 

I don't think that his wife will find out if I stop talking to him altogether. 

I don't have kids to consider. I have nowhere to go if things go south. I can't stay with my mom, she has way too many problems of her own. 

It's not worth it to blow up both of our lives, just end things and move on and learn our lessons. 

 

[Dimjo9]

9 minutes ago, lftbehind said:

When I saw xMM the other day, it caught me by surprise and he said hi, so I said hi to him. I have been trying to avoid him and I still have him blocked on my phone. I try not to think about him, but I do a little. I know that NC is the right thing to do. 

This is full Contact.. You are just fooling yourself.. To make it easy ask him directly if he's divorcing the wife.. if it has been served, you can initiate yours.. so you can both have the freedom & be together for life.. Both your spouses deserves happiness too, they might have done wrong to both of you; but they are human & have a heart.. Mercy is the word !!

[Dimjo9]

5 minutes ago, lftbehind said:

I have been trying to make it work with H, but he's hard to deal with. I just started NC with xMM. I'm going to run into him once in a while, just trying to make the best of it. I can say hi without talking to him again. 

I don't know how you can say that H won't hurt me. He could kill me and would it be worth it? 

I don't think that his wife will find out if I stop talking to him altogether. 

I don't have kids to consider. I have nowhere to go if things go south. I can't stay with my mom, she has way too many problems of her own. 

It's not worth it to blow up both of our lives, just end things and move on and learn our lessons. 

 

Your husband will not kill you.. Men who borrow strength through liquor are cowards & don' t have the guts. You can't escape MM you are in a cool off period, once the fire is ignited the affair will begin.. We are both mature adults.. u can start by disclosing to his wife through FB messenger or email.. You will know the real status of their marriage. If you have the courage facing her in a public place much better.

NC means blocking him in your phone, social media accounts, email, no eyeball, no more talking, resigning from same company. Yours is like lovers quarrel which he knows..  a little persuasion & touch you will go with him..

 

[AriesMan83]

3 hours ago, lftbehind said:

Hi AriesMan83,

That's good you enjoyed your weekend. I'm doing okay. 

My day off was okay. H was out of pot, so he was on edge more. If we're talking and he says something that I disagree with, he he says I'm antagonistic. I said "am I supposed to say that I agree with you just to avoid an argument?"  I tried to defend myself and tell him that I'm not antagonistic and he said that he was getting mad and didn't want to talk about it. He unfairly labels me and I don't like it. Sometimes it's not relaxing being around him. We went out to eat, but didn't get around to seeing the movie. What did you do?

My headache is better. 

One of my favorite actors is Robert Pattison and actress is Helen Mirren. Who are your favorites? My favorite sport is swimming. What's yours?

I don't know what other cuisines that I might try. Are there some that you might try? I ate more yesterday, but I'll try to cut back again today. I haven't been getting salads as much, because I haven't been feeling like going to the store before work. I've always kept sweets at home. 

The other U.S. manufacturing plant for my company is in a city about 1 hour from my plant. I've had about 8 jobs, but I did some temp work, too. 

The cruise was good. I'm not sure where or when I'll take a vacation again. Where is your home country?

I haven't talked to my mom today. 

When I saw xMM the other day, it caught me by surprise and he said hi, so I said hi to him. I have been trying to avoid him and I still have him blocked on my phone. I try not to think about him, but I do a little. I know that NC is the right thing to do. 

 

 

Iftbehind,

How are you today??

I met a couple of friends..Why didnt you watch the movie??When are you planning to watch it next??

It's good to know that your headache is better now..Did you find out a doctor??It's been some time since you have been feeling unwell..Pls dont neglect your health..Pls visit a doctor..

2 of my favourite actors are Heath Ledger and Daniel Day Lewis..My favourite actress is Jennifer Aniston..Which are your favourite movies??

I love football (soccer)..I can watch it the whole day...Have you seen a football (soccer) match??Who is your favourite sportsperson??

I would like to try some food of European countries but I know nothing about them..Have you ever tried European cuisine??

How is your diet plan going on??Do you plan on starting to eat salads again??Didn't you throw all the sweets away that you had at your home??Have you started storing sweets at your home again??Are you binging on sweets again??

Is it possible for you to shift to that plant??It can help you in NC..What was your first job??How many years have you worked in total till date??

How is your mom today??Continue supporting her..

Maybe you can plan and go on a vacation this year..Which countries would you like to visit??

Maybe you think about xMM because you still consider him a friend..Pls stop considering xMM a friend..Friends don't enable each other to make wrong choices..Pls stop yourself from thinking about xMM..Pls ignore and don't talk or say anything to xMM if xMM comes to talk to you or says anything to you at work..Pls continue NC..Stress is not good for you..

You know xMM is selfish and is only concerned about himself..You know that the affair is a wrong choice..You know that the affair is stressful for you..Pls continue NC..Stress is not good for you..

It's good to know that the xMM is still blocked on your phone..Pls dont unblock xMM..Pls dont talk to xMM at work or on phone..Pls avoid xMM at work..Pls dont let thoughts of xMM enter your head..Complete NC will help you in becoming indifferent to xMM..Pls continue NC..

Pls start looking for a job..It can help you in NC...

Pls continue NC..

Pls start looking for IC..

Pls take care of your health..

Always have faith in yourself..

 

 

 

 

Edited February 24, 2020 by AriesMan83

[lftbehind]

13 hours ago, AriesMan83 said:

Iftbehind,

How are you today??

I met a couple of friends..Why didnt you watch the movie??When are you planning to watch it next??

It's good to know that your headache is better now..Did you find out a doctor??It's been some time since you have been feeling unwell..Pls dont neglect your health..Pls visit a doctor..

2 of my favourite actors are Heath Ledger and Daniel Day Lewis..My favourite actress is Jennifer Aniston..Which are your favourite movies??

I love football (soccer)..I can watch it the whole day...Have you seen a football (soccer) match??Who is your favourite sportsperson??

I would like to try some food of European countries but I know nothing about them..Have you ever tried European cuisine??

How is your diet plan going on??Do you plan on starting to eat salads again??Didn't you throw all the sweets away that you had at your home??Have you started storing sweets at your home again??Are you binging on sweets again??

Is it possible for you to shift to that plant??It can help you in NC..What was your first job??How many years have you worked in total till date??

How is your mom today??Continue supporting her..

Maybe you can plan and go on a vacation this year..Which countries would you like to visit??

Maybe you think about xMM because you still consider him a friend..Pls stop considering xMM a friend..Friends don't enable each other to make wrong choices..Pls stop yourself from thinking about xMM..Pls ignore and don't talk or say anything to xMM if xMM comes to talk to you or says anything to you at work..Pls continue NC..Stress is not good for you..

You know xMM is selfish and is only concerned about himself..You know that the affair is a wrong choice..You know that the affair is stressful for you..Pls continue NC..Stress is not good for you..

It's good to know that the xMM is still blocked on your phone..Pls dont unblock xMM..Pls dont talk to xMM at work or on phone..Pls avoid xMM at work..Pls dont let thoughts of xMM enter your head..Complete NC will help you in becoming indifferent to xMM..Pls continue NC..

Pls start looking for a job..It can help you in NC...

Pls continue NC..

Pls start looking for IC..

Pls take care of your health..

Always have faith in yourself..

 

 

 

 

Hi AriesMan83,

I'm okay. How are you doing?

The times that the movie was showing didn't work with our schedule. I don't know when we will see it. 

Those are good actors that your like. It's hard to name just a few movies I like. How about you?

I haven't watched a whole soccer game. I don't watch sports and don't have a favorite sportsperson. Who do you like?

I've never really had European cuisine. 

I haven't stopped by the store to get salad before work. When I work until 1 a.m. it's hard to get motivated to do things before work, because I'm more tired. I haven't been binging on sweets. 

The other work plant is farther away from me, so I wouldn't switch. My first job was at a fast food restaurant. What was your first job?

I haven't talked to my mom today. 

I won't be going to any other countries on vacation, it's too expensive. 

I only saw xMM from a distance today. It is really over with him in my mind and I'm glad he's not trying to talk to me at work. 

 

[lftbehind]

Why is a page missing from my thread?

[lftbehind]

23 hours ago, Dimjo9 said:

Your husband will not kill you.. Men who borrow strength through liquor are cowards & don' t have the guts. You can't escape MM you are in a cool off period, once the fire is ignited the affair will begin.. We are both mature adults.. u can start by disclosing to his wife through FB messenger or email.. You will know the real status of their marriage. If you have the courage facing her in a public place much better.

NC means blocking him in your phone, social media accounts, email, no eyeball, no more talking, resigning from same company. Yours is like lovers quarrel which he knows..  a little persuasion & touch you will go with him..

 

You don't know what my husband might do. It's over with the xMM. I'm not going to tell his wife. He told me he was separated or I never would have gotten involved with him. If my H wasn't so mean to me, I wouldn't have been open to an affair. 

[JTSW]

12 minutes ago, lftbehind said:

Why is a page missing from my thread?

All my comments have been removed.