AriesMan83 Posted February 4, 2020 Posted February 4, 2020 (edited) 12 hours ago, lftbehind said: Hi AriesMan83, I'm doing okay. I took today off and went to the mall, saw a movie and ate dinner out. It was a pretty good day. I'm still feeling sort of rough, though. How are you doing? I'm trying to not eat too much cake or chocolate and watch my food intake. I'm trying to eat more vegetables and fruit. I'm doing it myself. xMM is selfish and does stress me out sometimes. He called me today and I told him that I wasn't going to work and he was wanting to see me before work. He had been putting a lot of pressure on me and I do need to do NC. I did tell xMM that we are both married. He insists that he's separated, but I'm not sure. Do you think that he's lying about his marital status and he's not even separated? He texted to me today and made a comment that he would delete the text when we were done texting. If he was separated, he wouldn't need to do that, would he? I also told him that I was afraid of getting caught, when we used to be able to meet after work. I told him that if I got caught, I could lose everything, including a place to live. He didn't seem to care, which I thought was selfish. I didn't meet him much after work and not for too long. I see what you mean with the drinking analogy. He's basically thinking about what he wants, not necessarily what's good for me. What I meant when I said that I had to get over not wanting to hurt him, was that I need to do what's right for me and break it off with him and not worry about hurting him. Iftbehind, I am doing good..How is your health today?? It's good to hear that you had fun on your day off..Which movie did you watch?? Are you taking any medication for your illness??It's been a few days since you have been sick..Pls visit a doctor..Don't neglect your health.. How is your diet plan going on??If possible,consult a nutritionist about your diet..Which goal do you plan to achieve with your new diet??Do you also exercise?? xMM's behaviour and actions show that xMM is selfish..xMM's behaviour and actions add stress to your life..xMM is only concerned with his wants..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for health..Pls take care of your health.. Maybe xMM is saying the truth and is seperated..Maybe xMM is lying and is still married..Whether xMM is married or seperated is not important..The important fact is affairs are a wrong choice..The important fact is making right choices in life..Pls realize that affair is a wrong decision..Pls realize that affair is a fantasy and an escape from reality..Pls understand that xMM is enabling you to make wrong choices and you have to end the affair..Pls start NC.. What is your reason for trying to understand whether what xMM is saying about xMM's marital status is true or false?? Maybe xMM needs to erase as xMM doesn't want his wife to see the SMS..Maybe xMM needs to erase tge SMS for some other reason..The motive of xMM for deleting the SMS is not important here..The important fact is affairs are a wrong choice..The important fact is to lead an authentic life..Pls understand that xMM is enabling you to make wrong choices and you have to end the affair..Pls start NC.. What is your reason for trying to find out as to whether xMM is deleting the SMS so that xMM's wife can't see the SMS or for any other reason?? Let me expand the drinking analogy a bit more-I invite you for drinks and you say no..I say ok but then call you after a few days asking you to join me for drinks..You still say no and ask me not to invite you for drinks again..I still keep on inviting you to bars inspite of you asking me to stop inviting you to bars..You end our friendship when I don't listen to your advice of not inviting you to bars for drinks..Will you endinh our friendship then be wrong??How can you making a right choice(not drinking alcohol) be wrong??Will you think about whether I will feel bad or not while breaking the friendship when I have not accepted your right decision to not drink??Will you feel bad about hurting me by ending the friendship when I don't respect your decision to not drink alcohol and hurt you by repeatedly inviting you to bars inspite of you saying no??You can keep the door on our friendship closed even if I quit drinking and ask you to be my friend again because I can relapse and start inviting you again to drink alcohol.. Pls understand that you will make the right decision by ending the affair..Whether xMM is hurt or not is not your concern..Pls start NC.. Pls look for IC.. Pls take care of your health.. Pls have faith in yourself.. Edited February 4, 2020 by AriesMan83
Author lftbehind Posted February 5, 2020 Author Posted February 5, 2020 13 hours ago, AriesMan83 said: Iftbehind, I am doing good..How is your health today?? It's good to hear that you had fun on your day off..Which movie did you watch?? Are you taking any medication for your illness??It's been a few days since you have been sick..Pls visit a doctor..Don't neglect your health.. How is your diet plan going on??If possible,consult a nutritionist about your diet..Which goal do you plan to achieve with your new diet??Do you also exercise?? xMM's behaviour and actions show that xMM is selfish..xMM's behaviour and actions add stress to your life..xMM is only concerned with his wants..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for health..Pls take care of your health.. Maybe xMM is saying the truth and is seperated..Maybe xMM is lying and is still married..Whether xMM is married or seperated is not important..The important fact is affairs are a wrong choice..The important fact is making right choices in life..Pls realize that affair is a wrong decision..Pls realize that affair is a fantasy and an escape from reality..Pls understand that xMM is enabling you to make wrong choices and you have to end the affair..Pls start NC.. What is your reason for trying to understand whether what xMM is saying about xMM's marital status is true or false?? Maybe xMM needs to erase as xMM doesn't want his wife to see the SMS..Maybe xMM needs to erase tge SMS for some other reason..The motive of xMM for deleting the SMS is not important here..The important fact is affairs are a wrong choice..The important fact is to lead an authentic life..Pls understand that xMM is enabling you to make wrong choices and you have to end the affair..Pls start NC.. What is your reason for trying to find out as to whether xMM is deleting the SMS so that xMM's wife can't see the SMS or for any other reason?? Let me expand the drinking analogy a bit more-I invite you for drinks and you say no..I say ok but then call you after a few days asking you to join me for drinks..You still say no and ask me not to invite you for drinks again..I still keep on inviting you to bars inspite of you asking me to stop inviting you to bars..You end our friendship when I don't listen to your advice of not inviting you to bars for drinks..Will you endinh our friendship then be wrong??How can you making a right choice(not drinking alcohol) be wrong??Will you think about whether I will feel bad or not while breaking the friendship when I have not accepted your right decision to not drink??Will you feel bad about hurting me by ending the friendship when I don't respect your decision to not drink alcohol and hurt you by repeatedly inviting you to bars inspite of you saying no??You can keep the door on our friendship closed even if I quit drinking and ask you to be my friend again because I can relapse and start inviting you again to drink alcohol.. Pls understand that you will make the right decision by ending the affair..Whether xMM is hurt or not is not your concern..Pls start NC.. Pls look for IC.. Pls take care of your health.. Pls have faith in yourself.. Hi AriesMan83, I'm feeling somewhat better than I have been. How are you doing? It was a good day off. I saw Little Women and it was pretty good. I'm not taking any medicine, but Ibuprofen. My diet is going better, I haven't binged in a week. I want to be healthier and wouldn't mind losing a few pounds. I'm on my feet all day and moving around at work. I like to take walks when I can. xMM is selfish and does stress me out sometimes. He didn't bother me today about meeting him before work, which was good. He is enabling me to make wrong choices. He's not a fantasy or escape for me, really. I would like to know his real marital status, because I'd like to know if he's lying to me or not. If I knew he was, it would be easier to go NC. I know that it shouldn't matter. Plus, he's always says that I'm married an he's separated, like I'm the reason we can't have a normal relationship. I told him that he's married until he gets a divorce and it doesn't look like that's happening. I know, the whole thing sounds silly. He told me that he deletes our texts, but didn't say why. I'm pretty sure it's so his wife doesn't see them. I don't know why he told me that, I didn't ask him. I get it in my mind to go NC with him, but I don't know why it's hard to do. He's definitely persistent. I have been trying to avoid him at work and just talk on the phone a little. I know I need to go NC. I get your drinking analogy and thanks for expanding on it more. It makes good sense. 13 hours ago, AriesMan83 said:
AriesMan83 Posted February 5, 2020 Posted February 5, 2020 (edited) 10 hours ago, lftbehind said: Hi AriesMan83, I'm feeling somewhat better than I have been. How are you doing? It was a good day off. I saw Little Women and it was pretty good. I'm not taking any medicine, but Ibuprofen. My diet is going better, I haven't binged in a week. I want to be healthier and wouldn't mind losing a few pounds. I'm on my feet all day and moving around at work. I like to take walks when I can. xMM is selfish and does stress me out sometimes. He didn't bother me today about meeting him before work, which was good. He is enabling me to make wrong choices. He's not a fantasy or escape for me, really. I would like to know his real marital status, because I'd like to know if he's lying to me or not. If I knew he was, it would be easier to go NC. I know that it shouldn't matter. Plus, he's always says that I'm married an he's separated, like I'm the reason we can't have a normal relationship. I told him that he's married until he gets a divorce and it doesn't look like that's happening. I know, the whole thing sounds silly. He told me that he deletes our texts, but didn't say why. I'm pretty sure it's so his wife doesn't see them. I don't know why he told me that, I didn't ask him. I get it in my mind to go NC with him, but I don't know why it's hard to do. He's definitely persistent. I have been trying to avoid him at work and just talk on the phone a little. I know I need to go NC. I get your drinking analogy and thanks for expanding on it more. It makes good sense.. Iftbehind, I am doing good..How are you today??How is your health today??It's good to hear that you are feeling better.. It's good to know that you had fun on your day off..Was the movie good?? Pls be attentive towards your health..Pls visit a doctor if you feel any sickness..Health is important..Pls take care of it.. It's good to hear that you are making progress on your diet..Which foods did you binge eat on earlier??Is walking helping you?? You know xMM is selfish and enabling you to make wrong decisions..You know affairs are wrong choices..You know that the affair is causing you stress..You know that you want to lead an authentic life..Why are these reasons not good enough for you to end the affair??Pls start NC..Pls take care of your health.. Why will it be easier to go NC if xMM is married and not seperated?? How will knowing as to whether xMM is lying or not help you in going NC??Why the facts that affairs are wrong and you want to lead an authentic life important enough to go NC??You know that knowing whether xMM is lying or not is not important..Pls understand that trying to know xMM's marital issues is not important..Pls understand that trying to know xMM's matital status is stopping you from going NC..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for health.. What will you do if xMM is seperated??Will you not go NC then?? According to your post,xMM stated that normal relationship is not possible because xMM is seperated and you are married..But it was OK for xMM to have an affair with you..It shows xMM's selfishness..Why didnt xMM start a relationship with a single woman then instead of having an affair??Pls realize that xMM is selfish,xMM is also not concerned about your marriage and is also enabling you to make wrong choices..Pls start NC..Pls take care of your health.. Pls dont try to find the meaning in xMM's statement about xMM deleting his texts..xMM's choices and actions are xMM's concerns..Pls start NC.. Maybe it is hard for you to go NC because maybe you still romanticize the affair or maybe because the affair is an escape for you or maybe because affair is a habit/part of your daily life..Irrespective of the reason or the difficulty in going NC,you have to start NC.. Affairs are a wrong choice..Pls start NC..Stress in not good for health.. Pls start NC.. Pls look for IC.. Pls have faith in yourself.. Edited February 5, 2020 by AriesMan83
AriesMan83 Posted February 5, 2020 Posted February 5, 2020 10 hours ago, lftbehind said: Hi AriesMan83, I'm feeling somewhat better than I have been. How are you doing? It was a good day off. I saw Little Women and it was pretty good. I'm not taking any medicine, but Ibuprofen. My diet is going better, I haven't binged in a week. I want to be healthier and wouldn't mind losing a few pounds. I'm on my feet all day and moving around at work. I like to take walks when I can. xMM is selfish and does stress me out sometimes. He didn't bother me today about meeting him before work, which was good. He is enabling me to make wrong choices. He's not a fantasy or escape for me, really. I would like to know his real marital status, because I'd like to know if he's lying to me or not. If I knew he was, it would be easier to go NC. I know that it shouldn't matter. Plus, he's always says that I'm married an he's separated, like I'm the reason we can't have a normal relationship. I told him that he's married until he gets a divorce and it doesn't look like that's happening. I know, the whole thing sounds silly. He told me that he deletes our texts, but didn't say why. I'm pretty sure it's so his wife doesn't see them. I don't know why he told me that, I didn't ask him. I get it in my mind to go NC with him, but I don't know why it's hard to do. He's definitely persistent. I have been trying to avoid him at work and just talk on the phone a little. I know I need to go NC. I get your drinking analogy and thanks for expanding on it more. It makes good sense. Iftbehind, Have you looked into IC?? How is your job search going on?? Pls start NC.. Pls take care of your health..
Author lftbehind Posted February 6, 2020 Author Posted February 6, 2020 13 hours ago, AriesMan83 said: Iftbehind, I am doing good..How are you today??How is your health today??It's good to hear that you are feeling better.. It's good to know that you had fun on your day off..Was the movie good?? Pls be attentive towards your health..Pls visit a doctor if you feel any sickness..Health is important..Pls take care of it.. It's good to hear that you are making progress on your diet..Which foods did you binge eat on earlier??Is walking helping you?? You know xMM is selfish and enabling you to make wrong decisions..You know affairs are wrong choices..You know that the affair is causing you stress..You know that you want to lead an authentic life..Why are these reasons not good enough for you to end the affair??Pls start NC..Pls take care of your health.. Why will it be easier to go NC if xMM is married and not seperated?? How will knowing as to whether xMM is lying or not help you in going NC??Why the facts that affairs are wrong and you want to lead an authentic life important enough to go NC??You know that knowing whether xMM is lying or not is not important..Pls understand that trying to know xMM's marital issues is not important..Pls understand that trying to know xMM's matital status is stopping you from going NC..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for health.. What will you do if xMM is seperated??Will you not go NC then?? According to your post,xMM stated that normal relationship is not possible because xMM is seperated and you are married..But it was OK for xMM to have an affair with you..It shows xMM's selfishness..Why didnt xMM start a relationship with a single woman then instead of having an affair??Pls realize that xMM is selfish,xMM is also not concerned about your marriage and is also enabling you to make wrong choices..Pls start NC..Pls take care of your health.. Pls dont try to find the meaning in xMM's statement about xMM deleting his texts..xMM's choices and actions are xMM's concerns..Pls start NC.. Maybe it is hard for you to go NC because maybe you still romanticize the affair or maybe because the affair is an escape for you or maybe because affair is a habit/part of your daily life..Irrespective of the reason or the difficulty in going NC,you have to start NC.. Affairs are a wrong choice..Pls start NC..Stress in not good for health.. Pls start NC.. Pls look for IC.. Pls have faith in yourself.. Hi AriesMan83, I'm okay, but I've been feeling rough. Yesterday was my day off, so I took it easy. How are you? The movie was good that I saw the other day. I'm thinking about seeing a doctor, but I don't know any good ones. I had some tests done not too long ago and nothing was found. I binge on mostly sweets and carbs. The diet is an ongoing thing and it's hard to stick to when you're hungry a lot. I've been doing okay, though. I don't have a chance to take walks much. I'd like to know if xMM lied to me, but I may never know. His marital status doesn't affect me doing NC and doesn't really matter. I guess if I found out that he had been lying to me for 2 years, I would definitely know that he's not my friend. I'd just like to know the real story. I know I need NC and things are headed that way. I want to live an authentic life, which includes NC, but I feel like I'm living a lie at home. I don't care about H like I used to, because of his abusiveness and I don't want to leave and be poor. I feel like I'm in limbo. It's been like this for years. The stress of all of it is bad and is bad for my health.
AriesMan83 Posted February 6, 2020 Posted February 6, 2020 (edited) 10 hours ago, lftbehind said: Iftbehind, I am doing good..How are you??Are you feeling well today?? It's good to know that you enjoyed the movie..It's good that you got to relax on your day off..Did you also have any fun on your day off?? Please go and see a doctor for your illness..You can ask your husband or family members or your friends or colleagues for a reference..You can do a search for doctors in your city on the ineternet..Pls dont ignore your health..Taking care of your health is important.. Changing food habits is difficult but possible..You can try to replace sweets with healthy foods whenever you are hungry..You have stopped binge eating and thrown out the sweets which are good changes... Let me expand the drinking analogy-You will break friendship with me because I encourage you to make a wrong choice of consuming alcohol..Will you try to find out if I used to drink earlier or started drinking recently before breaking the friendship??How will knowing whether I am a relapsed alcoholic or recent alcoholic help you in breaking the friendship????Will you break up the friendship with me because I am an alcholic or because I am encouraging you to make a wrong choice??How will knowing the true story about xMM's marital status help you in going NC??xMM's marital status is irrelevant..What is important to know is that xMM is selfish and is enabling you to make wring choices..What is important to know is that you have to go NC..Pls start NC..Pls take care of your health.. Let me expand the drinking analogy a bit more-I was a friend of yours as long as I supported your right decisions and helped you in making right decisions...The day I supported you to make the wrong choice of consuming alcohol is the day I stopped being a friend of yours..I stopped becoming a friend of yours on that day because I put my selfish choice of having a drinking partner above your right to lead a healthy life..Our friendship was not based on the facts that we were both non alcoholics..Our friendship was based on love for music or love for sports or love for books or other reasons..You will not break friendship with me if I shift to a different cit or support a rival sports team..You will end our friendship when I encourage you to make a wrong decision of consuming alcohol....As far as xMM being a friend of yours is concerned,xMM was a friend until xMM started enabling you to make wrong choices by having an affair...You didn't become friends with xMM based on xMM's marital status..So you going NC shouldn't be based on xMM's marital status..You going NC with xMM should be based on you making right choices and leading a life of authenticity..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health.. Pls start NC..Once you have complete NC and have developed indifference with xMM,you will then be able to look at your marriage objectively and make decisions accordingly reagarding your marriage...You can lead a life of authenticity.. How is your relationship with your husband?? Pls start NC.. Pls look into IC..It can help you.. How is your job search going on?? Stress is not good for health.. Take care of your health.. Always have faith in yourself.. Edited February 6, 2020 by AriesMan83
Author lftbehind Posted February 7, 2020 Author Posted February 7, 2020 12 hours ago, AriesMan83 said: Iftbehind, I am doing good..How are you??Are you feeling well today?? It's good to know that you enjoyed the movie..It's good that you got to relax on your day off..Did you also have any fun on your day off?? Please go and see a doctor for your illness..You can ask your husband or family members or your friends or colleagues for a reference..You can do a search for doctors in your city on the ineternet..Pls dont ignore your health..Taking care of your health is important.. Changing food habits is difficult but possible..You can try to replace sweets with healthy foods whenever you are hungry..You have stopped binge eating and thrown out the sweets which are good changes... Let me expand the drinking analogy-You will break friendship with me because I encourage you to make a wrong choice of consuming alcohol..Will you try to find out if I used to drink earlier or started drinking recently before breaking the friendship??How will knowing whether I am a relapsed alcoholic or recent alcoholic help you in breaking the friendship????Will you break up the friendship with me because I am an alcholic or because I am encouraging you to make a wrong choice??How will knowing the true story about xMM's marital status help you in going NC??xMM's marital status is irrelevant..What is important to know is that xMM is selfish and is enabling you to make wring choices..What is important to know is that you have to go NC..Pls start NC..Pls take care of your health.. Let me expand the drinking analogy a bit more-I was a friend of yours as long as I supported your right decisions and helped you in making right decisions...The day I supported you to make the wrong choice of consuming alcohol is the day I stopped being a friend of yours..I stopped becoming a friend of yours on that day because I put my selfish choice of having a drinking partner above your right to lead a healthy life..Our friendship was not based on the facts that we were both non alcoholics..Our friendship was based on love for music or love for sports or love for books or other reasons..You will not break friendship with me if I shift to a different cit or support a rival sports team..You will end our friendship when I encourage you to make a wrong decision of consuming alcohol....As far as xMM being a friend of yours is concerned,xMM was a friend until xMM started enabling you to make wrong choices by having an affair...You didn't become friends with xMM based on xMM's marital status..So you going NC shouldn't be based on xMM's marital status..You going NC with xMM should be based on you making right choices and leading a life of authenticity..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health.. Pls start NC..Once you have complete NC and have developed indifference with xMM,you will then be able to look at your marriage objectively and make decisions accordingly reagarding your marriage...You can lead a life of authenticity.. How is your relationship with your husband?? Pls start NC.. Pls look into IC..It can help you.. How is your job search going on?? Stress is not good for health.. Take care of your health.. Always have faith in yourself.. Hi AriesMan83, I'm okay. I've been feeling rough, but somewhat better. I think that I'm still recovering from my last eating disorder incident. It made my body out of balance. How are you doing? I didn't do much on my day off, but I did go out to eat for dinner. I still eat sweets, but just not too many. I see what you mean with the analogy. His marital status shouldn't have anything to do with NC, but I would still like to find out what his status is. I'd like to know if he's been lying to me. It would make it easier to not talk to him at all, if he was. Yesterday after my break at work, I saw xMM. We have uniforms and hairnets that we put on, because I work with food. I was putting mine on and he came up next to me and started getting ready and said that I hadn't called him when I was on my break. I told him that I was sick, I was feeling bad before break. He said okay in an annoyed way and walked about 10 feet away from me and got ready over there. He was acting like a child. I guess he was more worried about himself, than how I was feeling. I wonder if he cared at all. I blocked him on my phone again and didn't talk to him the rest of the day. I want to have him blocked, but I feel a little guilty. I realize that he's always making me feel guilty about something and I really don't need it. It does cause me unnecessary stress. I don't look forward to seeing him at work and I'll try to avoid him. My relationship with my H is the same as it has been. I haven't been doing the job search right now.
AriesMan83 Posted February 7, 2020 Posted February 7, 2020 (edited) 11 hours ago, lftbehind said: Hi AriesMan83, I'm okay. I've been feeling rough, but somewhat better. I think that I'm still recovering from my last eating disorder incident. It made my body out of balance. How are you doing? I didn't do much on my day off, but I did go out to eat for dinner. I still eat sweets, but just not too many. I see what you mean with the analogy. His marital status shouldn't have anything to do with NC, but I would still like to find out what his status is. I'd like to know if he's been lying to me. It would make it easier to not talk to him at all, if he was. Yesterday after my break at work, I saw xMM. We have uniforms and hairnets that we put on, because I work with food. I was putting mine on and he came up next to me and started getting ready and said that I hadn't called him when I was on my break. I told him that I was sick, I was feeling bad before break. He said okay in an annoyed way and walked about 10 feet away from me and got ready over there. He was acting like a child. I guess he was more worried about himself, than how I was feeling. I wonder if he cared at all. I blocked him on my phone again and didn't talk to him the rest of the day. I want to have him blocked, but I feel a little guilty. I realize that he's always making me feel guilty about something and I really don't need it. It does cause me unnecessary stress. I don't look forward to seeing him at work and I'll try to avoid him. My relationship with my H is the same as it has been. I haven't been doing the job search right now. Iftbehind, I am doing good..How are you today?? It's been a few days since you have been ill..It would be good if you do visit a doctor..Did you talk to your family or friends for information about doctors??Don't ignore your health...Pls take care.. What happened during your last eating disorder that you are still recovering from it??How can you be sure that your illness is connected to your last eating disorder??Did a doctor say that??Pls take care of your health.. It's good to know that you got to have some rekaxation as well as fun on your day off..Did you go for dinner alone or with family?? How is your diet planning going on?Have you added more vegetables or meat to your diet??Do you plan on quitting sweets completely?? What will you achieve by knowing xMM's marital status??Can you pls explain it a bit?? What will you do if xMM is seperated??It wont be easier for you to go NC if xMM is seperated..How will you go NC if xMM is seperated??Will you continue the affair if xMM is seperated?? Trying to know xMM's marital status is stopping you from going NC..Your concern should be your own health..Your concern should reducing stress in your life..Your concern should be about going NC and continuing it..Pls start NC...Pls dont add stress in your life.. Why do you feel guity??What does xMM make you feel guilty about??What does xMM say or do to make you feel guilty? ? As I have mentioned in my earlier posts,xMM's issues are for xMM to deal with ..Don't feel guilty about blocking xMM..You know that xMM is selfish and is enabling you to make wrong choices...xMM is responsible for his own wrong choices..Pls start NC..Pls dont add stress to your life.. Now that you have blocked him on phone,continue it...Avoid him at work..Don't talk to him or think about him..Block him on social media and email...Make continuation of blocking and not talking and not thinking about him your goal for a day..Stick to your goal for the day..Once you complete your goal for a day,make it your goal for the next day and so on..With NC, you will be able to achieve indifference... Why have you stopped your job search?? Pls take care of your health.. Pls dont add stress in your life.. Pls continue NC.. Pls look into IC.. Always have faith in yourself... Edited February 7, 2020 by AriesMan83
Author lftbehind Posted February 8, 2020 Author Posted February 8, 2020 12 hours ago, AriesMan83 said: Iftbehind, I am doing good..How are you today?? It's been a few days since you have been ill..It would be good if you do visit a doctor..Did you talk to your family or friends for information about doctors??Don't ignore your health...Pls take care.. What happened during your last eating disorder that you are still recovering from it??How can you be sure that your illness is connected to your last eating disorder??Did a doctor say that??Pls take care of your health.. It's good to know that you got to have some rekaxation as well as fun on your day off..Did you go for dinner alone or with family?? How is your diet planning going on?Have you added more vegetables or meat to your diet??Do you plan on quitting sweets completely?? What will you achieve by knowing xMM's marital status??Can you pls explain it a bit?? What will you do if xMM is seperated??It wont be easier for you to go NC if xMM is seperated..How will you go NC if xMM is seperated??Will you continue the affair if xMM is seperated?? Trying to know xMM's marital status is stopping you from going NC..Your concern should be your own health..Your concern should reducing stress in your life..Your concern should be about going NC and continuing it..Pls start NC...Pls dont add stress in your life.. Why do you feel guity??What does xMM make you feel guilty about??What does xMM say or do to make you feel guilty? ? As I have mentioned in my earlier posts,xMM's issues are for xMM to deal with ..Don't feel guilty about blocking xMM..You know that xMM is selfish and is enabling you to make wrong choices...xMM is responsible for his own wrong choices..Pls start NC..Pls dont add stress to your life.. Now that you have blocked him on phone,continue it...Avoid him at work..Don't talk to him or think about him..Block him on social media and email...Make continuation of blocking and not talking and not thinking about him your goal for a day..Stick to your goal for the day..Once you complete your goal for a day,make it your goal for the next day and so on..With NC, you will be able to achieve indifference... Why have you stopped your job search?? Pls take care of your health.. Pls dont add stress in your life.. Pls continue NC.. Pls look into IC.. Always have faith in yourself... Hi AriesMan83, I'm okay. How are you doing? I'm still not feeling the best. I haven't been able to get a doctor reference. I went to a GP that my H has gone to, but he didn't help me. I have Bullimia, but I don't do it very much. I need to not do it again. It can hurt many parts of your body. I eat meat, but I haven't been eating enough vegetables. I'm not going to quit sweets completely. I went out for dinner with my H on my day off. I would like to know xMM's marital status, because I'd like to know if he told me the truth or not. It doesn't affect my going NC. xMM tries to make me feel guilty for not meeting him before work and for not calling him at my breaks and lunch. That does cause stress on me. NC is hard when you see the xAP at work and I see xMM there. I'm not actively looking for another job right now, because I'm not ready to start something new right now and I would have to start working days again.
AriesMan83 Posted February 8, 2020 Posted February 8, 2020 (edited) 10 hours ago, lftbehind said: Hi AriesMan83, I'm okay. How are you doing? I'm still not feeling the best. I haven't been able to get a doctor reference. I went to a GP that my H has gone to, but he didn't help me. I have Bullimia, but I don't do it very much. I need to not do it again. It can hurt many parts of your body. I eat meat, but I haven't been eating enough vegetables. I'm not going to quit sweets completely. I went out for dinner with my H on my day off. I would like to know xMM's marital status, because I'd like to know if he told me the truth or not. It doesn't affect my going NC. xMM tries to make me feel guilty for not meeting him before work and for not calling him at my breaks and lunch. That does cause stress on me. NC is hard when you see the xAP at work and I see xMM there. I'm not actively looking for another job right now, because I'm not ready to start something new right now and I would have to start working days again. Iftbehind, I am doing good..How are you?? Did you try to search for a doctor on internet??Maybe you can talk to your friends and colleagues to find out about a doctor..Why didnt your husband's doctor help you??Pls take care of your health.. How is your diet going on??Have you started eating enough vegetables??Are you able to control your binging now??Pls take care of your health.. If knowing the truth about xMM's marital status doesn't affect you going NC then why haven't you started NC yet??What will be achieved by knowing the truth about xMM's marital status??Trying to find out xMM's marital status is only stopping you from going NC..How do you plan on finding out the truth about xMM's marital status??How will you know that what you found out about xMM's marital status is the truth?? Maybe you feel guilty when you don't call or meet xMM is because you feel you are letting down xMM..Maybe you feel guilty because you feel that you are not helping a friend with his issues when you don't call or talk to xMM..Pls understand that xMM is selfish and xMM's issues should be taken care of by xMM himself..Pls understand that it is stressful for you..Pls go NC..Pls take care of your health..Stress is not good for health... NC is hard when xAP is at the same office but it is possible..Pls go NC..Take one day at a time...Make a plan to go NC for a day..Stick to it..Once you successfully complete a day,plan for the next day..The more further you will be from the affair,the more indifference you will develop..Pls remember you will also have to have mental NC...Pls take care of your health.. Is xMM still blocked on your phone?? Pls look for a new job..A new job will help you get away from xMM.. Pls go NC... Pls look into IC... Stress is not good for health.. Always believe in yourself.. Edited February 8, 2020 by AriesMan83
Author lftbehind Posted February 9, 2020 Author Posted February 9, 2020 14 hours ago, AriesMan83 said: Iftbehind, I am doing good..How are you?? Did you try to search for a doctor on internet??Maybe you can talk to your friends and colleagues to find out about a doctor..Why didnt your husband's doctor help you??Pls take care of your health.. How is your diet going on??Have you started eating enough vegetables??Are you able to control your binging now??Pls take care of your health.. If knowing the truth about xMM's marital status doesn't affect you going NC then why haven't you started NC yet??What will be achieved by knowing the truth about xMM's marital status??Trying to find out xMM's marital status is only stopping you from going NC..How do you plan on finding out the truth about xMM's marital status??How will you know that what you found out about xMM's marital status is the truth?? Maybe you feel guilty when you don't call or meet xMM is because you feel you are letting down xMM..Maybe you feel guilty because you feel that you are not helping a friend with his issues when you don't call or talk to xMM..Pls understand that xMM is selfish and xMM's issues should be taken care of by xMM himself..Pls understand that it is stressful for you..Pls go NC..Pls take care of your health..Stress is not good for health... NC is hard when xAP is at the same office but it is possible..Pls go NC..Take one day at a time...Make a plan to go NC for a day..Stick to it..Once you successfully complete a day,plan for the next day..The more further you will be from the affair,the more indifference you will develop..Pls remember you will also have to have mental NC...Pls take care of your health.. Is xMM still blocked on your phone?? Pls look for a new job..A new job will help you get away from xMM.. Pls go NC... Pls look into IC... Stress is not good for health.. Always believe in yourself.. Hi AriesMan83, I'm okay, worked yesterday and off today. How are you doing? My H's doctor wasn't very good. I went to him with a list of things that were bothering me and he only addressed 1 of them. I will look around for another one. I haven't been eating enough vegetables, but I have been controlling the bingeing. I guess there is no way to find out xMM's marital status, just his word. I know that we can't be together and it wouldn't work, but it's hard to let go of him and not talk to him at all. I do care about him and he is selfish, but I think he cares about me in his own way. I do feel guilty when I don't meet him or call him, because I feel like I'm letting him down. For some reason, I don't think it's right to meet him before work, given our situations. I try to explain it to him, but he doesn't seem to understand why we shouldn't meet. I call him sometimes during my breaks, just not all the time. The whole thing is stressful frequently. I have been feeling like I'm ready for NC and I think that it will happen. They changed our work hours from 3:30 p.m. to 1:00 a.m. We have been getting off work at 12:00 a.m. xMM's wife picks him up at the bus stop after work, so now she will have to pick him up at 1:40 a.m. and I don't know if she will be able to do it. She works during the day and they live twenty minutes away from the bus stop. I guess we'll see what happens.
AriesMan83 Posted February 9, 2020 Posted February 9, 2020 (edited) 9 hours ago, lftbehind said: Hi AriesMan83, I'm okay, worked yesterday and off today. How are you doing? My H's doctor wasn't very good. I went to him with a list of things that were bothering me and he only addressed 1 of them. I will look around for another one. I haven't been eating enough vegetables, but I have been controlling the bingeing. I guess there is no way to find out xMM's marital status, just his word. I know that we can't be together and it wouldn't work, but it's hard to let go of him and not talk to him at all. I do care about him and he is selfish, but I think he cares about me in his own way. I do feel guilty when I don't meet him or call him, because I feel like I'm letting him down. For some reason, I don't think it's right to meet him before work, given our situations. I try to explain it to him, but he doesn't seem to understand why we shouldn't meet. I call him sometimes during my breaks, just not all the time. The whole thing is stressful frequently. I have been feeling like I'm ready for NC and I think that it will happen. They changed our work hours from 3:30 p.m. to 1:00 a.m. We have been getting off work at 12:00 a.m. xMM's wife picks him up at the bus stop after work, so now she will have to pick him up at 1:40 a.m. and I don't know if she will be able to do it. She works during the day and they live twenty minutes away from the bus stop. I guess we'll see what happens. Iftbehind, I am good..How are you?? What are your plans for the day off?? Pls find out another doctor..Don't ignore your health..Pls take care of your health.. How is your diet plan going??It's good to know that you have been resisting binging..Don't you like vegetables?? Why is it hard for you start NC with xMM when xMM is enabling you to make hard choices??Why do you care about xMM or need xMM to care about you when xMM is enabling you to make wrong choices?? If I tell you that it is hard for me to quit smoking as it is the only thing that helps me relax,then will you agree with me??Will you encourage me to continue smoking as it helps me relax or will you ask me to quit it as it is damaging my health??Pls start NC.. Why do you feel guilty when you don't meet or talk to xMM??Why do you even have to explain to xMM that you don't want to meet or talk to xMM??Whether xMM understands your reason or not is not relevant..It is already stressing you out..Pls start NC...Stress is not good for health.. I am a bit confused so can you pls explain as to why do you think NC will happen now after your work schedules have been changed??How has the change in schedule made NC possible??Pls start NC..Pls take care of your health.. Have you unblocked xMM in your phone?? Have you started looking for a new job??A new job will help you maintain NC.. Pls start NC.. Pls look for IC.. Take care of your health.. Always believe in yourself.. Edited February 9, 2020 by AriesMan83
Author lftbehind Posted February 10, 2020 Author Posted February 10, 2020 13 hours ago, AriesMan83 said: Iftbehind, I am good..How are you?? What are your plans for the day off?? Pls find out another doctor..Don't ignore your health..Pls take care of your health.. How is your diet plan going??It's good to know that you have been resisting binging..Don't you like vegetables?? Why is it hard for you start NC with xMM when xMM is enabling you to make hard choices??Why do you care about xMM or need xMM to care about you when xMM is enabling you to make wrong choices?? If I tell you that it is hard for me to quit smoking as it is the only thing that helps me relax,then will you agree with me??Will you encourage me to continue smoking as it helps me relax or will you ask me to quit it as it is damaging my health??Pls start NC.. Why do you feel guilty when you don't meet or talk to xMM??Why do you even have to explain to xMM that you don't want to meet or talk to xMM??Whether xMM understands your reason or not is not relevant..It is already stressing you out..Pls start NC...Stress is not good for health.. I am a bit confused so can you pls explain as to why do you think NC will happen now after your work schedules have been changed??How has the change in schedule made NC possible??Pls start NC..Pls take care of your health.. Have you unblocked xMM in your phone?? Have you started looking for a new job??A new job will help you maintain NC.. Pls start NC.. Pls look for IC.. Take care of your health.. Always believe in yourself.. Hi AriesMan83, I'm okay. I didn't do much on my day off, just went out to eat for dinner. How are you? Did you have a good weekend? My diet is going okay. I like vegetables okay, I eat dinner at work and just don't end up taking them there. I do care about xMM, but I know that I need to do NC. I think I romanticize things and think that he really loves me, so I shouldn't end things for good. I'm sure that my take on things may be skewed and look totally different to someone on the outside. He does want to meet before work and he's said something about wanting to go somewhere in my car and make out and then go to work. I told him that we can't be doing that. I'm sure that he wants that physical contact and who knows, that may be why he keeps talking to me. I'm definitely not going to meet him. I need to just tell him again that we're both married, so I can't be talking to him. With the new schedule, I'm not sure that his wife will want to or be able to pick him up after 1:30 a.m. She works in the morning. He may have to get another job. The money is good, so she probably won't want him to quit. I know it's not my concern, I just thought about it. I did unblock him, because I felt guilty. I haven't talked to him on the phone much and not at all tonight. I'm not ready for another job yet. It doesn't have anything to do with him.
AriesMan83 Posted February 11, 2020 Posted February 11, 2020 22 hours ago, lftbehind said: Hi AriesMan83, I'm okay. I didn't do much on my day off, just went out to eat for dinner. How are you? Did you have a good weekend? My diet is going okay. I like vegetables okay, I eat dinner at work and just don't end up taking them there. I do care about xMM, but I know that I need to do NC. I think I romanticize things and think that he really loves me, so I shouldn't end things for good. I'm sure that my take on things may be skewed and look totally different to someone on the outside. He does want to meet before work and he's said something about wanting to go somewhere in my car and make out and then go to work. I told him that we can't be doing that. I'm sure that he wants that physical contact and who knows, that may be why he keeps talking to me. I'm definitely not going to meet him. I need to just tell him again that we're both married, so I can't be talking to him. With the new schedule, I'm not sure that his wife will want to or be able to pick him up after 1:30 a.m. She works in the morning. He may have to get another job. The money is good, so she probably won't want him to quit. I know it's not my concern, I just thought about it. I did unblock him, because I felt guilty. I haven't talked to him on the phone much and not at all tonight. I'm not ready for another job yet. It doesn't have anything to do with him. Iftbehind, I had a good weekend..How are you?? Its good that you had some fun on your day off..Why didnt you go for a movie?? How is your health??Did you find a doctor??Pls take care of your health.. Why dont you eat vegetables during your dinner??Start with small portions of vegetables during your dinner and with time you can increase it.. Pls stop romanticizing the affair and xMM..Romanticizing stops you from going NC..Affairs are a wrong choice..Affairs add stress to your life..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health.. Who will pick up xMM if xMM's wife stops picking him up??What will you do if xMM asks you to drop him at the bus stop or home?? Pls stop worrying about xMM and xMM's issues.. Start NC with blocking him on the phone..Pls dont feel guilty about blocking him..Pls start NC.. Why are you not ready for another job?? Pls start NC.. Always believe in yourself. .
Author lftbehind Posted February 12, 2020 Author Posted February 12, 2020 On 2/11/2020 at 3:12 AM, AriesMan83 said: Iftbehind, I had a good weekend..How are you?? Its good that you had some fun on your day off..Why didnt you go for a movie?? How is your health??Did you find a doctor??Pls take care of your health.. Why dont you eat vegetables during your dinner??Start with small portions of vegetables during your dinner and with time you can increase it.. Pls stop romanticizing the affair and xMM..Romanticizing stops you from going NC..Affairs are a wrong choice..Affairs add stress to your life..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health.. Who will pick up xMM if xMM's wife stops picking him up??What will you do if xMM asks you to drop him at the bus stop or home?? Pls stop worrying about xMM and xMM's issues.. Start NC with blocking him on the phone..Pls dont feel guilty about blocking him..Pls start NC.. Why are you not ready for another job?? Pls start NC.. Always believe in yourself. . Hi AriesMan83, That's good you had a nice weekend. How are you doing? I'm okay. I was going to go to a movie, but didn't get around to it. I may see one today, since I'm off. I'm feeling better, but tired with this new schedule and working more hours. I stop by the grocery store before work to get a small salad at the salad bar. I just need to make sure that I do it more often. I know that I need to stop romanticizing the A and xMM and NC I guess I do it, because he's always telling me that he loves me. His wife says that she's okay picking him up at the bus stop at the new time. I told him the other day that I couldn't meet him before work, because we're both married and he still acted like he didn't understand why we couldn't meet. When I saw him at work, he looked sad. On reason I'm not ready for another job, because I would have to work days and see my husband every night. I think spending time with him stresses me out more than anything.
AriesMan83 Posted February 12, 2020 Posted February 12, 2020 (edited) 3 hours ago, lftbehind said: Hi AriesMan83, That's good you had a nice weekend. How are you doing? I'm okay. I was going to go to a movie, but didn't get around to it. I may see one today, since I'm off. I'm feeling better, but tired with this new schedule and working more hours. I stop by the grocery store before work to get a small salad at the salad bar. I just need to make sure that I do it more often. I know that I need to stop romanticizing the A and xMM and NC I guess I do it, because he's always telling me that he loves me. His wife says that she's okay picking him up at the bus stop at the new time. I told him the other day that I couldn't meet him before work, because we're both married and he still acted like he didn't understand why we couldn't meet. When I saw him at work, he looked sad. On reason I'm not ready for another job, because I would have to work days and see my husband every night. I think spending time with him stresses me out more than anything. Iftbehind, I am OK..How are you?? Enjoy your day off..Maybe go for a movie or/and for some dinner..Which is your favourite cuisine?? How is your health now??Are you still feeling sick??Did you consult a doctor about your sickness??Are you able to sleep properly??Why there is a increase in your working hours?? How is your diet plan going on??Do you have a salad everyday before work??Do you eat vegetables during your meals?? If I say a friend that I love and care about him and encourage him to consume alcohol with me,do you think it means that I love him or that I am selfish and need a partner for drinking sessions??Do you think it means that I mean well for him or do you think it means that I am concerned only about myself?? xMM is selfish and is encouraging you to make wrong choices..The affair is stressful for you..You have to stop romanticizing the affair and xMM..Pls stop talking to xMM and thinking about xMM..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health.. xMM's inability to understand or xMM's sadness or any other issues are xMM's issues..It's not yours to solve or feel guilty about..Pls stop feeling guilty about not being of help to xMM..Pls start NC.. Pls understand that affairs are a wrong choice..Pls understand that affairs are stressful..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health.. What will you do if the management of your current job decides to shift you to a day routine?? A job change can help you with NC.. Pls start looking for IC.. Pls start NC.. Always have faith in yourself.. Edited February 12, 2020 by AriesMan83
Author lftbehind Posted February 13, 2020 Author Posted February 13, 2020 13 hours ago, AriesMan83 said: Iftbehind, I am OK..How are you?? Enjoy your day off..Maybe go for a movie or/and for some dinner..Which is your favourite cuisine?? How is your health now??Are you still feeling sick??Did you consult a doctor about your sickness??Are you able to sleep properly??Why there is a increase in your working hours?? How is your diet plan going on??Do you have a salad everyday before work??Do you eat vegetables during your meals?? If I say a friend that I love and care about him and encourage him to consume alcohol with me,do you think it means that I love him or that I am selfish and need a partner for drinking sessions??Do you think it means that I mean well for him or do you think it means that I am concerned only about myself?? xMM is selfish and is encouraging you to make wrong choices..The affair is stressful for you..You have to stop romanticizing the affair and xMM..Pls stop talking to xMM and thinking about xMM..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health.. xMM's inability to understand or xMM's sadness or any other issues are xMM's issues..It's not yours to solve or feel guilty about..Pls stop feeling guilty about not being of help to xMM..Pls start NC.. Pls understand that affairs are a wrong choice..Pls understand that affairs are stressful..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health.. What will you do if the management of your current job decides to shift you to a day routine?? A job change can help you with NC.. Pls start looking for IC.. Pls start NC.. Always have faith in yourself.. Hi AriesMan83, I'm okay. How are you doing? I went to happy hour at a bar and out to dinner. We go out to bars sometimes on Wednesdays. I drank too much and feeling rough from it. It's funny you used the drinking analogy with xMM, when it might apply for H. He is drinking and getting high a lot. He seems sort of self-destructive. I know there's nothing I can do about it, though. I like American cuisine the best. What kind of cuisine do you like the best? I ate more yesterday and will have to go back to my diet today. I try to get a salad a few times a week, but don't always. I eat it on my 1st break. It would sound like you need a partner for drinking and are concerned about yourself, if you encouraged a friend to drink with you. xMM has been helping me make bad decisions. I do need to stop romanticizing and feeling guilty over him. I need to not let him make me feel guilty. It's hard not to want to help him, but I know it's not my place to. He needs to get help from his wife. The A has been a wrong choice and has caused me stress. I'm not talking to him much at all now
AriesMan83 Posted February 13, 2020 Posted February 13, 2020 (edited) 10 hours ago, lftbehind said: Hi AriesMan83, I'm okay. How are you doing? I went to happy hour at a bar and out to dinner. We go out to bars sometimes on Wednesdays. I drank too much and feeling rough from it. It's funny you used the drinking analogy with xMM, when it might apply for H. He is drinking and getting high a lot. He seems sort of self-destructive. I know there's nothing I can do about it, though. I like American cuisine the best. What kind of cuisine do you like the best? I ate more yesterday and will have to go back to my diet today. I try to get a salad a few times a week, but don't always. I eat it on my 1st break. It would sound like you need a partner for drinking and are concerned about yourself, if you encouraged a friend to drink with you. xMM has been helping me make bad decisions. I do need to stop romanticizing and feeling guilty over him. I need to not let him make me feel guilty. It's hard not to want to help him, but I know it's not my place to. He needs to get help from his wife. The A has been a wrong choice and has caused me stress. I'm not talking to him much at all now Iftbehind, I am OK..How are you doing?? How is your health now??Did you go to a doctor??Are you able to have a good sleep now??Are you taking any kind of medication?? It's good that you got to enjoy your day off..Are you still feeling rough now??I like any food which has chicken or lamb or egg in it..Which dishes do you like in American cuisine??What kind of alcohol do you prefer??Is it beer or wine?? How is your diet plan going on??Do you eat veg salad or fruit salad??Is it possible and healthy to make it a daily routine?? As you have mentioned in your post that if I encourage someone to drink that will mean that I am concerned about myself,then pls understand that xMM is only concerned about himself and is encouraging you to make wrong choices.. Pls start NC.. You know that xMM is selfish..You know that xMM is enabling you to make wrong choices..You know that xMM makes you feel guilty.You know that the affair causes you stress.Pls start NC..Pls understand that stress is not good for your health.. Why are you talking to xMM even a little bit??Why havent you started full NC?? What will you do if the company management decides to shift you to a day routine?? Pls start NC.. Pls look for IC.. Always have faith in yourself.. Edited February 13, 2020 by AriesMan83
Author lftbehind Posted February 14, 2020 Author Posted February 14, 2020 21 hours ago, AriesMan83 said: Iftbehind, I am OK..How are you doing?? How is your health now??Did you go to a doctor??Are you able to have a good sleep now??Are you taking any kind of medication?? It's good that you got to enjoy your day off..Are you still feeling rough now??I like any food which has chicken or lamb or egg in it..Which dishes do you like in American cuisine??What kind of alcohol do you prefer??Is it beer or wine?? How is your diet plan going on??Do you eat veg salad or fruit salad??Is it possible and healthy to make it a daily routine?? As you have mentioned in your post that if I encourage someone to drink that will mean that I am concerned about myself,then pls understand that xMM is only concerned about himself and is encouraging you to make wrong choices.. Pls start NC.. You know that xMM is selfish..You know that xMM is enabling you to make wrong choices..You know that xMM makes you feel guilty.You know that the affair causes you stress.Pls start NC..Pls understand that stress is not good for your health.. Why are you talking to xMM even a little bit??Why havent you started full NC?? What will you do if the company management decides to shift you to a day routine?? Pls start NC.. Pls look for IC.. Always have faith in yourself.. Hi AriesMan83, I'm doing okay. How are you doing? I've been having some headaches again. I'm sleeping okay. I take Ibuprofen when I get the headaches. I didn't go to a doctor yet. I guess I need to do some research online to find a good one, I haven't had the time. I like chicken dishes, too and eat it more that any other meat. I like steak, too and macaroni and cheese . I like Italian food a lot. I drink Sangria when I go out. I don't have to drink a lot of it and I feel the effects of it fast. I get a good buzz from it. Do you like beer or wine? I've just been getting vegetables from the salad bar. I need to incorporate fruits, too. I think getting it everyday would be too much and it would be expensive. Do you think that xMM is only concerned about himself? I know he is selfish and helps me make bad decisions. He still talks about meeting up. I want NC, but I do like him as a friend and it's hard to stop talking to him at all. If I didn't see him at all, I could do NC. I don't think that the company will change me to day shift, they need people on 2nd shift. They changed us back to our regular schedule, so I'll get off work at 12:00 a.m., instead of 1:00 a.m. I'm glad, that was too late to get off work.
AriesMan83 Posted February 14, 2020 Posted February 14, 2020 (edited) 2 hours ago, lftbehind said: Hi AriesMan83, I'm doing okay. How are you doing? I've been having some headaches again. I'm sleeping okay. I take Ibuprofen when I get the headaches. I didn't go to a doctor yet. I guess I need to do some research online to find a good one, I haven't had the time. I like chicken dishes, too and eat it more that any other meat. I like steak, too and macaroni and cheese . I like Italian food a lot. I drink Sangria when I go out. I don't have to drink a lot of it and I feel the effects of it fast. I get a good buzz from it. Do you like beer or wine? I've just been getting vegetables from the salad bar. I need to incorporate fruits, too. I think getting it everyday would be too much and it would be expensive. Do you think that xMM is only concerned about himself? I know he is selfish and helps me make bad decisions. He still talks about meeting up. I want NC, but I do like him as a friend and it's hard to stop talking to him at all. If I didn't see him at all, I could do NC. I don't think that the company will change me to day shift, they need people on 2nd shift. They changed us back to our regular schedule, so I'll get off work at 12:00 a.m., instead of 1:00 a.m. I'm glad, that was too late to get off work. Iftbehind, I am OK..How are you?? How is your health now??How is your headache now??Pls do meet a doctor..Pls take out some time and do an online research about doctors in your city..Pls dont neglect your health..It's good to know that you are sleeping well.. I like chicken and egg a lot..I like spicy dishes of chicken a lot..I can eat egg in any form such as hard boiled eggs or omelette etc..I can eat chicken and eggs in all 4 meals of a day..I like pizza a bit in Italian Food..Although I prefer beer or whiskey but I can have any kind of alcohol if these two are not available..Never had any Sangria but if I am not mistaken Sangria is a cocktail??Which dishes of Chicken do you like??Do you like fish?? How is your diet plan going on??Which fruits do you like?? Let me expand the drinking analogy in a different way-I have a friend who is an alcoholic and a drinking partner of mine..He tells me that he wants to quit alcohol..I have 2 choices-1.Encourage him to continue consuming alcohol..2.Encourage him to quit alcohol..Can you pls tell me out of the 2 mentioned choices,which choice shows that I am concerned about him and which choice shows that I am concerned about me.. xMM is selfish and enabling you to make wrong choices..Pls start NC.. The affair is stressful for you..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health.. Why do you like xMM as a friend??How can xMM be a friend when xMM is enabling you to make wrong choices??Do friends encourage each other to make wrong choices??Will you consider me a friend if I encourage you to become an alcoholic like me??Pls start NC.. NC while being in the same company is difficult but possible..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for you.. Pls look for a new job...It can make NC easier for you.. Pls start NC.. Pls look for IC.. Always have faith in yourself.. Edited February 14, 2020 by AriesMan83
Author lftbehind Posted February 15, 2020 Author Posted February 15, 2020 20 hours ago, AriesMan83 said: Iftbehind, I am OK..How are you?? How is your health now??How is your headache now??Pls do meet a doctor..Pls take out some time and do an online research about doctors in your city..Pls dont neglect your health..It's good to know that you are sleeping well.. I like chicken and egg a lot..I like spicy dishes of chicken a lot..I can eat egg in any form such as hard boiled eggs or omelette etc..I can eat chicken and eggs in all 4 meals of a day..I like pizza a bit in Italian Food..Although I prefer beer or whiskey but I can have any kind of alcohol if these two are not available..Never had any Sangria but if I am not mistaken Sangria is a cocktail??Which dishes of Chicken do you like??Do you like fish?? How is your diet plan going on??Which fruits do you like?? Let me expand the drinking analogy in a different way-I have a friend who is an alcoholic and a drinking partner of mine..He tells me that he wants to quit alcohol..I have 2 choices-1.Encourage him to continue consuming alcohol..2.Encourage him to quit alcohol..Can you pls tell me out of the 2 mentioned choices,which choice shows that I am concerned about him and which choice shows that I am concerned about me.. xMM is selfish and enabling you to make wrong choices..Pls start NC.. The affair is stressful for you..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health.. Why do you like xMM as a friend??How can xMM be a friend when xMM is enabling you to make wrong choices??Do friends encourage each other to make wrong choices??Will you consider me a friend if I encourage you to become an alcoholic like me??Pls start NC.. NC while being in the same company is difficult but possible..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for you.. Pls look for a new job...It can make NC easier for you.. Pls start NC.. Pls look for IC.. Always have faith in yourself.. Hi AriesMan83, I'm hanging in there. How are you doing? I had a headache all day yesterday and took ibuprofen all day to try and get rid of it. I have it today, too. I'll do some research on doctors tomorrow, when I have the day off. I like eggs, too. I like chicken sandwiches, chicken casserole, chicken parmesan, fried chicken and other dishes. I don't care for fish too much. Do you like it? Sangria is red wine with fruit and some sweetener. My diet is okay. I like most fruits, there's just a lot of sugar in them. What fruits do you like? If you encouraged your friend to quit alcohol that would show that you are concerned about him and his choices and not about yourself. That makes sense. Thank you for taking your time to help me understand how xMM has his own interests in mind more that mine. He is selfish and is causing me stress. I see what you say when you say xMM doesn't seem like a friend. He is still getting upset when I'm not meeting him before work. I told him that we're both married. I saw him when I got to work yesterday and he looked upset and he didn't say hi to me. I saw him later and he talked to me. I tried to avoid him, but he came up to me. The whole thing is tiring and I am tired of dealing with him. I shouldn't feel guilty. I do need NC.
AriesMan83 Posted February 15, 2020 Posted February 15, 2020 (edited) 6 hours ago, lftbehind said: Hi AriesMan83, I'm hanging in there. How are you doing? I had a headache all day yesterday and took ibuprofen all day to try and get rid of it. I have it today, too. I'll do some research on doctors tomorrow, when I have the day off. I like eggs, too. I like chicken sandwiches, chicken casserole, chicken parmesan, fried chicken and other dishes. I don't care for fish too much. Do you like it? Sangria is red wine with fruit and some sweetener. My diet is okay. I like most fruits, there's just a lot of sugar in them. What fruits do you like? If you encouraged your friend to quit alcohol that would show that you are concerned about him and his choices and not about yourself. That makes sense. Thank you for taking your time to help me understand how xMM has his own interests in mind more that mine. He is selfish and is causing me stress. I see what you say when you say xMM doesn't seem like a friend. He is still getting upset when I'm not meeting him before work. I told him that we're both married. I saw him when I got to work yesterday and he looked upset and he didn't say hi to me. I saw him later and he talked to me. I tried to avoid him, but he came up to me. The whole thing is tiring and I am tired of dealing with him. I shouldn't feel guilty. I do need NC. Iftbehind, I am OK. .How are you?? How is your headache now??Pls take care of your health..Pls don't neglect it..Pls visit a doctor.. What are your plans for your day off?? I like fish a lot..Why dont you like fish??Chicken sandwiches and fried chicken are amazing to eat..Which dishes of egg do you like??Any particular brand of beer that you prefer?? How is your diet plan going on??Have you started adding fruits to your meals??Mango is the only fruit that I like..Which are your favourite fruits?? Thanks for giving me an opportunity to help you..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health.. Why are you still talking to xMM when you know xMM is selfish and the affair is causing you stress??What is stopping you from going full NC??Why do you feel guilty??Why is it hard for you to avoid xMM at work??NC can be difficult but is also possible at workplace..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health.. Pls understand that the affair is a wrong choice..Pls understand that the affair is causing you stress..Pls start NC.. Have you started looking for a new job??Pls start looking for a new job..It can help you with NC.. Pls start NC.. Pls start looking for IC.. Always have faith in yourself.. Edited February 15, 2020 by AriesMan83
Author lftbehind Posted February 16, 2020 Author Posted February 16, 2020 18 hours ago, AriesMan83 said: Iftbehind, I am OK. .How are you?? How is your headache now??Pls take care of your health..Pls don't neglect it..Pls visit a doctor.. What are your plans for your day off?? I like fish a lot..Why dont you like fish??Chicken sandwiches and fried chicken are amazing to eat..Which dishes of egg do you like??Any particular brand of beer that you prefer?? How is your diet plan going on??Have you started adding fruits to your meals??Mango is the only fruit that I like..Which are your favourite fruits?? Thanks for giving me an opportunity to help you..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health.. Why are you still talking to xMM when you know xMM is selfish and the affair is causing you stress??What is stopping you from going full NC??Why do you feel guilty??Why is it hard for you to avoid xMM at work??NC can be difficult but is also possible at workplace..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health.. Pls understand that the affair is a wrong choice..Pls understand that the affair is causing you stress..Pls start NC.. Have you started looking for a new job??Pls start looking for a new job..It can help you with NC.. Pls start NC.. Pls start looking for IC.. Always have faith in yourself.. Hi AiresMan83, I'm doing okay. How are you doing? My headache is better. I'll research doctors online. I'll probably take it easy today and rest up. What are you doing today? It's good that you like fish, it's good for you. I just don't care for the taste I like omelettes, spaghetti carbonara and egg sandwiches. I don't drink much beer, but if I do I drink a light beer. What kind of beer do you like? My diet is going okay. I haven't been eating fruits, though. I like most fruits. Pineapple, melon and oranges are my favorites. Talking to xMM has been stressing me out some. He still wants to meet me before work. I can usually avoid him at work, but sometimes I'll see him in the hall. I used to work in the same immediate area and I had to see him all day. I basically have LC with him, but I know that I need NC. It doesn't seem like an affair anymore, because there's nothing physical with him or really emotional. When I try and talk to him about about things he either doesn't understand or acts like he doesn't understand He also doesn't have empathy for me in times where I feel he should. In that way, he's not even a good friend. I know there's no reason for me to keep talking to him.
AriesMan83 Posted February 16, 2020 Posted February 16, 2020 (edited) 1 hour ago, lftbehind said: Hi AiresMan83, I'm doing okay. How are you doing? My headache is better. I'll research doctors online. I'll probably take it easy today and rest up. What are you doing today? It's good that you like fish, it's good for you. I just don't care for the taste I like omelettes, spaghetti carbonara and egg sandwiches. I don't drink much beer, but if I do I drink a light beer. What kind of beer do you like? My diet is going okay. I haven't been eating fruits, though. I like most fruits. Pineapple, melon and oranges are my favorites. Talking to xMM has been stressing me out some. He still wants to meet me before work. I can usually avoid him at work, but sometimes I'll see him in the hall. I used to work in the same immediate area and I had to see him all day. I basically have LC with him, but I know that I need NC. It doesn't seem like an affair anymore, because there's nothing physical with him or really emotional. When I try and talk to him about about things he either doesn't understand or acts like he doesn't understand He also doesn't have empathy for me in times where I feel he should. In that way, he's not even a good friend. I know there's no reason for me to keep talking to him. Iftbehind, I am OK..How are you?? Its good to know that you are feeling better..Did you do the online research on doctors??Pls dont neglect your health.. I plan on meeting a couple of friends..Are you going to take rest for the whole day or you will go out for dinner and a movie in the evening?? I like omelette a lot..Easy to prepare ,doesn't require much time to cook.I like fish as they are extremely delicious in taste..I like every kind of beer,strong,light everything..Any particular brand of light beer you prefer??Have you tried the other versions of alcohol such as Whiskey,Vodka etc?? It's good to know that your diet is going okay..Do you like fruit juice??Do you like energy drinks??Don't you like mangoes?? Why don't you avoid him in the hall when you know the affair is stressing you out??What is stopping you going from LC to NC when you know that you have to go NC??Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health.. xMM is selfish and enabling you to make wrong choices..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health.. Can you pls explain as to why do you try to explain your views to xMM??Can you pls explain as to why do you want xMM to have empathy for you?? You know xMM is selfish and enabling you to make wrong choices..You know that xMM is not even a friend..You know that xMM is only concerned about his needs..You know that xMM doesn't understand your views..Then what is stopping you from starting NC??Pls start NC.. Are you looking for a new job??Pls start looking for a job.. Pls start NC.. Pls look for IC.. Always have faith in yourself.. Edited February 16, 2020 by AriesMan83
Author lftbehind Posted February 17, 2020 Author Posted February 17, 2020 12 hours ago, AriesMan83 said: Iftbehind, I am OK..How are you?? Its good to know that you are feeling better..Did you do the online research on doctors??Pls dont neglect your health.. I plan on meeting a couple of friends..Are you going to take rest for the whole day or you will go out for dinner and a movie in the evening?? I like omelette a lot..Easy to prepare ,doesn't require much time to cook.I like fish as they are extremely delicious in taste..I like every kind of beer,strong,light everything..Any particular brand of light beer you prefer??Have you tried the other versions of alcohol such as Whiskey,Vodka etc?? It's good to know that your diet is going okay..Do you like fruit juice??Do you like energy drinks??Don't you like mangoes?? Why don't you avoid him in the hall when you know the affair is stressing you out??What is stopping you going from LC to NC when you know that you have to go NC??Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health.. xMM is selfish and enabling you to make wrong choices..Pls start NC..Stress is not good for your health.. Can you pls explain as to why do you try to explain your views to xMM??Can you pls explain as to why do you want xMM to have empathy for you?? You know xMM is selfish and enabling you to make wrong choices..You know that xMM is not even a friend..You know that xMM is only concerned about his needs..You know that xMM doesn't understand your views..Then what is stopping you from starting NC??Pls start NC.. Are you looking for a new job??Pls start looking for a job.. Pls start NC.. Pls look for IC.. Always have faith in yourself.. Hi AriesMan83, I'm doing okay? Did you have a good weekend? I hope so. The only thing I did was go out to eat for dinner. There's no particular brand of light beer that I prefer. I used to drink Rum drinks, but I don't drink any other kind of liquor. I like fruit juices okay, but don't drink them. I drink 1 Red Bull everyday. It's how I get caffeine, I don't drink coffee or tea. I drink some soda, too. Mangos are okay. Do you like fruit juices or energy drinks? I try to avoid xMM at work. I have tried to explain my views to xMM, because I've been thinking that he is a friend. I have wanted for him to have empathy for me for the same reason and I have empathy for him. I wanted to feel that someone was there for me, but I never have totally got that feeling from him. I have gotten lonely, too. I try to be self-sufficient and not count on anyone, but sometimes it's hard to do.The stress isn't good for me. Working towards NC. I'm not ready for another job yet.
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