Magicmontazzle Posted December 23, 2019 Posted December 23, 2019 Hey guys Just some opinions please Met a guy from OLD - he is in the same field as me but much more junior. We are same age. He lives an hour away but his plan is to move to my city in the Summer for work anyway - all planned before meeting me. Met him for nice dates x 3; over period of about a month. Met him fourth time on Saturday night when we were both out - I had been drinking lots with girlfriend. He came back to my flat And stayed the night but did not have sex or even foreplay - did not want first time to have been fuelled by alcohol. He is always online using his Tinder though - active in my city then active in his after he leaves. He was active on Sunday after he left mines. I have not discussed any relationship stuff as just enjoying getting to know him. My question to the masses is - is this a red flag his ongoing use of Tinder after a month or so? Thanks
JTSW Posted December 23, 2019 Posted December 23, 2019 No, it's not a red flag. You are not exclusive, only known him for 4 weeks and only been on 3 dates. You barely know each other.
hercules22 Posted December 23, 2019 Posted December 23, 2019 he is just keeping his options open but it seems there could be potential as you have now had 3 dates maybe as more time passes he will forget about others and end up deleting the app you just never know these days who is going to stick around or continue to see you
Cersei Posted December 23, 2019 Posted December 23, 2019 Well you must be online just as much as he is if you are aware how much he is online. 2
JTSW Posted December 23, 2019 Posted December 23, 2019 He may even be thinking the same thing as you, that you are still active allot on the app. 1
CAPSLOCK BANDIT Posted December 23, 2019 Posted December 23, 2019 For me, when I say "I am going to delete the app" this is me saying the woman that I am into being exclusive; thing is, half the time, I end up just reinstalling to check and there they are, especially after she leaves. After a while, I learned that going out of my way to extend the relationship branch is just a waste of time, when it happens it will happen and until that time, you just keep doing your thing.
PegNosePete Posted December 23, 2019 Posted December 23, 2019 Personally if I were dating someone for a month and they were still looking around for other options, I would move on. 1
kendahke Posted December 23, 2019 Posted December 23, 2019 Quote is this a red flag his ongoing use of Tinder after a month or so? No. The red flag is you being logged into Tinder yourself to clock him when there has been no talk about exclusivity.
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