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Ok, so I have a problem I could do with some advise about. I moved into my house about 6 years ago and have pretty much kept myself to myself, I have only had a fall out with one neighbour about his and his wife’s inconsiderate parking of cars and caravans which made it difficult for me to leave and enter my property.

Anyway, about 12 months ago my partner left for work early in the morning and rang me to say there was a problem with her car, something was on the windscreen and she used the wipers and it smeared to the point she could not see and had to stop.

 

Luckily I had one month before this installed CCTV, and quickly set about watching it back to see what had happened.  To my disbelief  the night before as soon as it had gone dark one of my neighbours (whom I have never spoken to up to this point)  6 doors or so up the street came into view walking his dog, 10 minutes later he returned and could be clearly seen to throw something up the windscreen. To this day I don’t know what it was but it did no long term damage. Then on my other camera he could be clearly seen going back into his house.

After considering what to do about it that evening I went to a few neighbours houses and showed them the footage and they all said straight away who it was and they all seemed to have different views on this guy, some said they’d never had a problem with him, some didn’t like him and said he’d done similar things before.

 

I decided to confront him that night so I end and knocked on his door, his wide answered so I asked for him and  he came down stairs (a 60 odd year old man, skinny) as soon as he saw my a look of terror was on his face. I calmly said what had happened and if he knew anything about it, no he answered. Then I showed him the footage and lit literally took his breath away, and at that point his wife who had been listening behind the door came out shouting and saying I was accusing him.

I said I’m accusing no one and asked her to look at the footage, they both denied they knew who it was. So I said look, iv got the footage of the person coming into this house and all I want is an apology and a reason why this had been done.

 

Still to this day I have had no apology or anything, but my problem is this….Every time I now see this idiot (which is often as he has to walk past my house to get out of the street) he locks eyes with me and literally stares until he has gone right past. This is annoying me to the point I am about to snap and finish this guy with one punch to the nose. The only thing holding me back from this is I have a good job and a family to support.

 

Can anyone give me some advice on what they would do about it?

Thanks in advance.
 

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Pray that they move houses!

My ex-hubby was a terrible neighbour, he used to make loud noises into the early hours and yell abuse over the fence. When we split up, I stayed in the house for 9 months without him until we'd settled the finances and then I moved out, before I shifted I told the neighbours that my ex was shifting back in, both neighbours were very upset about that, one built a 6ft fence right away, and the other one sold her property, the other neighbour also sold about 6 months later.

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Well he is aware you have Cctv and I would be satisfied this is enough of a deterrent to stop him annoying you again,

 

Personally I would switch off from this now, get on with your life and channel your mental energy into more productive avenues. 

 

 

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Look his address up on the local appraisal district and see if he owns his house.  If not, he's renting and you can contact the landlord whose name will be on the home.  

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Do you know if he is friendly with the people you had a parking disagreement with? If he was getting revenge for them, it would make sense as to motive. I can't think of anyone who hasn't had a jerk neighbor. Come to think of it, I may have been the jerk neighbor many years ago.

 

I think your direct confrontation was a good move. I would hint about talking to the police. Maybe that will put a hold him. Do you have a home owners association? That may possibly be another avenue. Your only other choice it Tit for Tat. 

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Get the police involved, show them the footage and make sure to document your future interactions with this person.

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On 12/23/2019 at 8:01 PM, schlumpy said:

Do you know if he is friendly with the people you had a parking disagreement with? If he was getting revenge for them, it would make sense as to motive. I can't think of anyone who hasn't had a jerk neighbor. Come to think of it, I may have been the jerk neighbor many years ago.

 

I think your direct confrontation was a good move. I would hint about talking to the police. Maybe that will put a hold him. Do you have a home owners association? That may possibly be another avenue. Your only other choice it Tit for Tat. 

Well, obviously i have wondered what the motivation for it would have been, and i have come to that conclusion, he must have done it because of the parking to help the other guy out.

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On 12/22/2019 at 11:12 PM, Foxhall said:

Well he is aware you have Cctv and I would be satisfied this is enough of a deterrent to stop him annoying you again,

 

Personally I would switch off from this now, get on with your life and channel your mental energy into more productive avenues. 

 

 

I think this is possibly my only option for now, as anything else like revenge could potentially jeopardise my job and family 

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15 hours ago, CAPSLOCK BANDIT said:

Get the police involved, show them the footage and make sure to document your future interactions with this person.

I got the police involved, i sent them the footage of it happening, even of him walking back into his house after......They did nothing. Police in the UK are understaffed and unless its serious crime it mainly goes un punished

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6 hours ago, pioneer said:

I got the police involved, i sent them the footage of it happening, even of him walking back into his house after......They did nothing. Police in the UK are understaffed and unless its serious crime it mainly goes un punished

The whole point of doing that was to create a precedence between you and this individual with the police incase anything else happens you can reference this as well.

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