Bad experience.....why won’t he let it go?

[Cora]

Met a guy several weeks ago on a dating app.  We chatted online for a bit and then exchanged numbers and continued over text.  He said something that I considered inappropriate and it completely turned me off so I blocked his number and blocked him on the dating site.  We hadn’t met in person yet and had only been chatting for one day. 

 

The next day I get this really nasty voicemail from a different number.  It was him demanding to know why I blocked him.   I didn’t reply and just blocked that number as well thinking he’d get the hint.  Throughout the day he kept calling me from different numbers and before I could block the number he’d call again.  At one point I had 30 missed calls within a ten minute timeframe.  He would block his number so it would show up as an unknown number on my end and at one point I thought I was going to have to change my number because he would not give up!

 

Finally two weeks go by with nothing and I figure I finally got rid of him and that he had finally given up.  Well nope, he made a new profile on the dating app and messaged me calling me a spoiled stuck up bitch.  So I reported him.  Why won’t he stop?  Now I normally don’t block people without an explanation, but we hadn’t even met yet and had only been talking for not even a full day so I didn’t think I owed him anything.  And given the fact that I blocked him right after he said something inappropriate I figured an explanation wasn’t needed. 

 

I have never had anything like this happen and now I am just nervous about everyone I meet and talk to.  

[Legatus]

Did you tell him the reason for blocking before you blocked him?

[Tamfana]

52 minutes ago, Cora said:

Now I normally don’t block people without an explanation, but we hadn’t even met yet and had only been talking for not even a full day so I didn’t think I owed him anything.  And given the fact that I blocked him right after he said something inappropriate I figured an explanation wasn’t needed. 

 

You're right, you owe him nothing.  He probably knows that he said something worthy of blocking and is just melting down.  Glad you reported it.  

[preraph]

I know about these kind of people. I just want to tell you up front you just keep blocking him and do not ever have any contact with him or he will just get worse. a friend of mine and even myself went through something like this years ago in the early days of Internet. 

 

What is wrong is that the guy is just really sick and irrational. It has nothing to do with you. You were just unlucky.

 

He said something inappropriate because he's sick and irrational to begin with. 

 

now these two brothers that me and my friend had to deal with kept it up for 3 years. She and I do not live in the same town but she lives on the coast and she agreed to meet one of these brothers after meeting them on a music fan site. 

 

He was different and weird in person, so she just wanted to have that be a one-time meeting and that was it. And he just kept coming at her. They were relentless for 3 years and he would threaten her with some sort of way of humiliating her or lying and saying he had her underwear and that sort of thing. 

 

I eventually did background checks on both of them and they both had assault in their history. They were stalkers. 

 

This guy is also a stalker. the thing I learned about these brothers from dealing with them for so long or refusing to I should say is they imagine that they are having interaction even when you are doing nothing but blocking them. they would see one of us on the internet somewhere and interpret that as us harassing them when it had nothing to do with them and they wouldn't even know we were there if they hadn't been fishing around trying to find us. 

 

It didn't matter what kind of reasoning anyone used on them, because some friends did try to reason with them, they just kept it up and imagined things because they were just sick in the head. 

 

It didn't really stop until one of the brothers wives stumbled upon some of what they'd been doing. and then the other one who was the one she actually met got focused on another person. so basically it didn't stop until they both had somebody more current to focus on in harrass. 

 

Again it's not about you. Do not interact at all. I don't know why he has access to all the phone numbers. Maybe he works at a debt collector or some other call center. One of our stalkers worked in internet communications and so he knew how to make fraudulent emails using other people's email addresses and that sort of thing. 

 

You can try reporting it to your phone company and they can at least permanently block him. I have only had to do that once and it was with an old lady who had just lost her mind and kept calling my number over and over again thinking it was somebody else. 

 

On AT&t you can block up to 100 numbers which is more than most phone providers allow. That is for landlines. For cell phones, I am currently using the hiya app to block numbers. I'm just using the free version so far. 

 

No contact. If you say one word to him he's gotten what he wants and will just keep going and keep going. Good luck.

[kendahke]

you don't owe him anything.

 

This post illustrates exactly why people ghost---because you never know how unhinged someone can be when they can't have their way/fantasy.