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started talking to her months ago then unfortunately her father passed way so she pretty much didn't want to talk to anyone went off the radar. weeks went by i got in touch again we started talking more at that point in time i think 5 or 6 weeks went by since her father passed away , eventually i asked her out on a date we met spent 2 hours together it seemed positive our interactions  as i got home i let her know i had a good time she liked that .The next day i had a festival i was going to and she had wedding o go to  so we didn't talk the next day but let each other know to have a good time .

 

at this point i figured there was a good chance i was going to get a 2nd date i ended up asking her out for a second date only to be turned down she said there was nothing wrong with the date but i was the opposite to what she was looking for then said i was a nice guy and thanked me for the date. At first i didnt know how to respond to that as i felt dissapointed so i just said thought we had potential all i can do is thank you for your time also thanked her for not ghosting me .

 

she didnt respond to my last message i been in no contact mode yet she always watches my instagram stories still whenever i put something up we havnt talked for like 3 weeks now i put up a new photo which she liked which made me want to see what she was putting on her stories i had her on mute as i was focusing on moving on . cant really take what they do on social media to seriously ayye?  her last story which i watched was sad vibes like her mind not in the right place i feel bad cause i want to be there for her but cant cause im worried i might become attached to her we never talked about being friends and it not something i want from her as i will always see her as more then a friend. do you think there any chance she maybe turned me down cause she feels she not ready to date or something that perhaps she would be a burden for me . i always thought if she changed her mind about me or something that she would contact me or something 

 

i am either thinking she is not interested or she still grieving the social media behavior odd though most of the time when the girl wasnt interested they would stop interacting all together with me

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She rejected you, go into your instagram followers list and delete her from it and move on

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Why did you pursue her when she disappeared?

You keep chasing and chasing and wonder why she's gone off the radar.  She didn't want to talk, yet you reached out to her.  Then you wonder why it didn't work out.

Check out Corey Wayne ASAP.
Also 'No More Mr Nice Guy,' by Robert Glover.

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8 hours ago, fromheart said:

Why did you pursue her when she disappeared?



You keep chasing and chasing and wonder why she's gone off the radar.  She didn't want to talk, yet you reached out to her.  Then you wonder why it didn't work out.

Check out Corey Wayne ASAP.
Also 'No More Mr Nice Guy,' by Robert Glover.

I didnt right away i was still trying to talk to other women when she came back online i didnt talk to her right away when i eventually did ask her out the other women that i was trying to pursue wasnt  to responsive try talk to them yet get ignored.

 

Like they talk a bit then just  ignore me so i didnt bother double texting or chasing the other ones who were showing low or half assed interest.

 

Figured ill try talk with this one again maybe she fine to put herself out there i did ask her at the same time when i got around to asking her out for a date if she was ready to put herself out there for dating she said it was okay. So whos knows thought ill get someone else opinion see what they think 

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It may be easier for her right now to just patrol on IG and like pictures than it is for her to gear up for a relationship when emotionally, she is still wrecked from her father's unplanned passing.

 

I know for myself, my mother passed away early in the year and still today, I'm not emotionally interested in having to deal with someone and their feelings, but I will go on IG, FB and Twitter because I don't have to deal with anyone face to face and can put the phone down without someone's feelings getting twisted and weird because I want to focus elsewhere.

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