almostthere Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 I have known the guy I am seeing for 5 months. We decided to be exclusive 4 weeks ago. He has been divorced for 1 1/2 years. But his exwife is so in the way still. She of course didnt care when he and I were just friends but the second she found out we decided to give it a go...that was the end of that. I have had to leave his house 3 times now because she was coming whether we liked it or not. And I had to literally hide in his bedroom while his children were awake because she doesnt want me to meet them yet. So Saturday morning I wake up to find my two passenger side tires flattened...which turned out they had been slashed. My car was infront of his house. He paid for the new tires and put them on (I wasnt going to because we both knew it was his exwife or someone she had asked to do it). I dont think he should of had to either. but one of us had to and I thought it was respectable that he did without even asking who was going to. So, basically I am hidden from the children, asked to leave whenever she wants to come over and yell at him and now this. Am I stupid for staying with this guy? I have to park my car in his garage now. They (he and his exwife) are making me feel like the OW, a mistress when there is no reason for me to feel like this. He wants me to meet his children and we planned a zoo day which got canceled due to our busy clashing schedules as friends and I was to have my 2 kids and he would bring his 3 kids. But now that his exwife is jealous and wants him back I have to hide. This is really ridiculous to me. I want to say something but I dont know if I have a place yet since we have only been official for 4 weeks.
Art_Critic Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 I would seriously be thinking about losing this drama driven relationship. Do you want your children to be around that kind of a life and anger ? I dated a girl quite a few years ago that her ex smashed in her windshield of her car one night after he found out she was dating me. I broke up with her immediatly.. I figured that there wasn't much differnce between her windshield and my business front door and I didn't want to bring that kinda crap to my work and employees. I never spoke to her again.. I suggest you rethink what it is you want out of him.. She..As it seems is going to be a thorn in his life for a long time to come yet.
morrigan Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 If your boyfriend willingly lets his ex wife interfere with his private life and scream at him, it's going to be your problem as well as long as you date him. It's up to him to call the police and talk to a lawyer about her harassment. It's not going to be much a relationship if he continues to allow her to dictate his life. I agree with Art Critic, do you really want your children involved in this mess? Be careful.
Lishy Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 She sounds like a nut who wants her man back and wont stop until she gets him. She slashed your tyres, that is pretty serious. Dont forget he is pandering to her and LETTING her do this and it wont stop as long as he doesn't stop it! Get out if you can (think of your kids getting involved with this) You are putting yourself and your kids in a situation that could get out of control. Good luck hon
basscatcher Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 Slashing tires, smashing out windows is regarded as terristic threats to ones life. If any aggressive action against your property can be proven as to who did it, they can be charged with terroristic threats and it will go on their record. The laws view those kinds of actions as ithreats to someones health and possibly their lives.
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