RicBoy Posted December 18, 2019 Posted December 18, 2019 Been in No contact for a month. My ex knew my son was spending holidays with me and she reached out and asked if he could go over to spend the night with her daughter as they are friends. She didn't ask anything about me. Should I ask her out for a date? Or should I wait she first contacts me for other reason than kids? We exchanged 2 emails, she is picking up the kid Friday.
Stercrazy Posted December 19, 2019 Posted December 19, 2019 Without knowing too much, I would say hold back and take it for what it is. If she's interested in you she will let you know. Don't read too much into it.
schlumpy Posted December 23, 2019 Posted December 23, 2019 If she was decided against you, I doubt the overnighter would happen so I think there is hope if that is what you are looking for.
scooby-philly Posted December 23, 2019 Posted December 23, 2019 Stay NC! There's no reason to institute it and then break it!
Marc878 Posted December 23, 2019 Posted December 23, 2019 Nothing here says anything has changed. You are wanting to jump back in for no reason. No no contact means no contact. you aren't there. It only works if you fully apply it. like most I doubt you'll listen.
mark clemson Posted December 23, 2019 Posted December 23, 2019 First step IMO is to decide what you want. Second step is to recognize what you can actually have. Then act accordingly. Consider doing the following: If you want to reconcile with her, then IF she sends you an email or other contact with overtures of friendship or emotional connection, then I would suggest insisting on either reconciliation (attempting it) or nothing. No "friends" or other stuff if you want her back fully as she needs to agree to try reconciling with you. If you don't want to reconcile with her, then go about the business of moving on - full NC as Marc878 said. Either way, SHE may have no interest. So it behooves you to patch yourself up emotionally if needed and begin the moving on process on that assumption. Else you're wasting time that probably should be spent building a new life, esp. if that's what you're going to be getting anyway. Generally it's better to make her play your game rather than having you playing hers (not that any of it's a game, really). Recognize that all of the above, including step one, is easier said than done, .
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