Man went GHOST before it got good

[Pink86]

So this dude was talking to me for a good month every single day. Texting all day long. Then he pulls this hot and cold BS recently and pulls away. I told him about the amazing sex we would have together once we met up. Was all ready to fly out and meet him but then he just ignored my message altogether. So my question is, if a man seemed so into having sex, why would he ghost before he even got any? Seems counterproductive to me. Kinda funny when I think the bullet I dodged. We didn’t have a fight. He was just gone but is still my friend on FB and I always see him online.

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

You think you are the only person he is sexting with?

[smackie9]

Ya you are just an option at this point. It's possible he got a better deal somewhere else.....like closer to home.

[elaine567]

Many people have a fantasy life online.
They deliberately find people just out of reach so that real life and fantasy never mix.
You were all ready to fly out to see him, he went "OMG! NO!" and then stopped speaking.
Why on earth would you want to fly out to meet a stranger? Madness.

[K.K.]

So true! ^ 

[GeorgiaPeach1]

Women offering sex is a dime a dozen these days. It's not enough to capture a man's attention and effort.

[basil67]

I'm assuming this is the guy you were playing games with?  The one who you told you wouldn't care about after sex?  He wrote you off then and there. 

 

But the bigger question isn't why he walked away, but rather, why would you go to the effort of getting on a plane just for what may or may not be great sex?  Is there really nothing local for you?   The fact that you had some great sexting going on won't necessarily translate to great sex in person.  I'm sure I'm not the only one here who's had a great build up and then found that sex was really disappointing.  

 

Also, going hot and cold isn't BS.  It's about losing interest.   And I think it's fair to say that he probably also thinks he dodged a bullet.

Edited December 15, 2019 by basil67