ZA Dater Posted December 15, 2019 Posted December 15, 2019 My mumblings on here often elicit really good advice so I try, despite what some may say to actually use some of this advice and I think I might be getting just a little tiny bit better as perhaps this experience proved. I went to quite a fancy dinner last night, on my own, which was fine, the subject was dinner was one I quite enjoyed and the environment was pretty much all like minded people. It was a fairly formal dinner. Few friend and I sat together, none had partners actually which was unusual but nevertheless. I had the speaker sign a subject related book I had brought along and later in the evening I had a top on the shoulder "my sister would really like to look at your book, may we" ok so I took on look at these two attractive blond ladies and didn't take me long to get them chairs and they sat down. I had seen them looking at me earlier in the evening so I basically knew this was a form of ice breaker so a certain poster from NYC here often suggests good advice so I got a chance to implement this 1: keep a cool calm persona 2: positive body language, but not too over eager. Eventually I realised the one sister was married, the other who was chatting to me is not and it was one of those rare time where I could just chat, started on one topic and the conversation just worked, I will say she is older than me and one of the things was "well you look 22" "well I am actually 35, do you think its a good thing I look 22" "yes most definitely". The conversation was light hearted and I decided to offer up my number "yes please may I have it" at which point I asked for her number, which I got. She was leaving with her sister but I got a nice hug and was even offered the opportunity to make use of these holiday house in future. I think I played this situation quite well, I will msg her a bit later and see what sort of conversation follows. Look she probably had kids but maybe this time that wont bother me as much and even if nothing at all comes of this I do pat myself on the back for having the confidence to have this conversation and to steer it the way I did. She seemed really interested in me which was also nice. Overall I think a bit of a win here so I have a extra spring in my step today. 2
Saracena Posted December 15, 2019 Posted December 15, 2019 Well done. Just goes to show how you can meet someone when you least expect it! Met all of my boyfriends this way and more usually so when it was the last thing on my mind. Good luck!
Author ZA Dater Posted December 15, 2019 Author Posted December 15, 2019 So I sent her a msg and no response. Ok well that's ok, I am quite happy with what I did and how I actually tried. I must add that a great deal of the attraction here is, although she is older she has a certain degree of class, well spoken, easy to communicate with and she is in shape. I have been very critical of single moms here BUT there is only ONE scenario where I would even consider dating one and it would be if she was in good shape, carried herself with class and was conversationally good.
Author ZA Dater Posted December 15, 2019 Author Posted December 15, 2019 Well I don't think I am going to get a response. Again I am kinda ok with it, would have been nice to see her again but I am ok with having had a nice time. Again my own limitations are very obvious so this was me enjoying punching above my weight.
Author ZA Dater Posted December 16, 2019 Author Posted December 16, 2019 Well I did indeed get a reply. She said it was great meeting me to and it was a great evening. Lots of wink emoticons. Not a bad start I think.
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