InductedHades Posted December 12, 2019 Posted December 12, 2019 Some of you might remember back in Feb 2018. Some of you might not. I'm sure if you do a search you can find my threads and read up. As some of you might remember, I came on here due to the fact I have never been in no relationship ever. So last year March 2018, I traveled the world, and got back to Canada mid Nov. It was a nice time. Much needed. Here I will be using fake name to show which woman i'm talking about. Tina *current woman*, Karen *trying to mess up my relationship* Now i'm in need of help once again. On Nov 20 I reactivated my PoF account. On Nov 21, I had a woman names Tina msg me. Now, mind you, I did have some mixed feelings about msging her back. After 1.5 hours, my gut told me to msg her back. So I did. And lets say, we hit it off really. But then 3 days later Nov 24, I had another woman names Karen msg me on there. Asking me a bunch of questions. I polity told her, I'm already talking with someone else and we are planning a meet up. So I have to kinda decline your offer. I'm sorry. She msgs me back, you'll regret this. I never thought much of it at the time. So Nov 27 comes, and my PoF is acting up. So I msg Tina asking we could swap numbers as my PoF isnt working properly. So she glady gave me her number. I then proceed to remove my profile pic and description with a bunch of ...... as they want you to have 140 chars or something like that. So come Thursday Nov 28, we set a date to meet up for Nov 30. Tina lived out of town, about an hour away. I had no issues driving for this date. Well, all I can say it, we both hit it off really well and about mid way through the date, she already wanted another date. So we set to have another one on Dec 5. But here is a nasty turn around, that really messes up with Tina and I. As I mentioned on Nov 27th, my PoF was acting up. I never thought too much of it as the time. I was at the mall at this time connected to the public WiFi, and without my knowledge, someone at the mall had accessed my phone and put a tracker on it. On Nov 30 when I got home, Tina and I are talking about our date and can't wait til Thursday Dec 5th for our 2nd date. Come Dec 1, Tina gets a PoF msg from some randon guy asking for sex. She says no, as she tell the guy thats she's kinda seeing someone already. That was is for that convo and she tells me about it. I'm thinking thats weird. Come Dec 3, Tina texts me saying oh I guess we are cancelling our date for the 5th now. I replied what do you mean. She says, well you PoF account is up and running again. Your pic is up and full description. I replied with, I haven't been on PoF since we exchanged numbers on the 27th. So I hop on and there it was, up and running. So I deleted my PoF account. Tina never said anything else that night. Come next morning Dec 4, I get a text from Tina saying i've been up all night and can't get your pof out of my mind. So i'm cancelling our date for the 5th. Good Luck. I said I never put my account back up. Someone hacked me. She never replied back to me. Then on Dec 6th Tina gets another msg on PoF from another weird msg that said, sorry I ruined your relationship. I hacked his phone and pof account, so thats how I know he was contacting you. I then get a text from Tina saying she has no idea wtf is going on but she screenshoted the msg and text me it. I'm thinking WTF is going on. So now, it was clear why my pof was up and running and having issues. Thats all I hear from Tina til Dec 8th. She texts me, asking how I was and that and wants to give this another go as she said she was wrong and shouldn't have jumped into a conclusion right away. I said, Yeah, we can get this another go. Well come Dec 9th, I get a nice text from an unknown number. A burner phone if you will. That morning, this person had claimed they hacked my phone and hacked my PoF account, all because I rejected her. This was all Karens doing. She texts me, I told you you'll regret this. You rejected me, so I'm going to screw up your relationship with Tina. And it seems I have succeed. Good day. My number was blocked. I screenshoted this and showed Tina. She felt somewhat relived but uneasy. So Dec 9th, I went to get a new phone and new number. I contacted Tina with and told her that this phone and number will only be used to contact you and no wifi will be connected to it. We talked and I said I know we both said that we are willing to make this work, lets see how this week goes and make sure that Karen doesn't get in contact with us. And if everything goes good until lets say Friday, or Saturday, you willing to start making plans again? She agreed. But here is the issue now, Tina is having paranoid issues due to all this while she's at work, shopping and that. She does have anxiety, which is making it worse for her. I'm also paranoid due to me being Bipolar. I almost took my life on Dec 7th due to it being so over bearing and stressful. But, I had Tina's pic on my phone which helped me calm down and was able to contact my counselor. I'm not sure what to do here. This all started because I rejected Karen and picked Tina instead. And now Tina is saying well apparently you should have picked her. And I said, I don't regret picking you at all. I wouldn't change it for the world. She hasn't said anything and I don't know what to do. I don't know why someone would want to ruin a relationship this. Tina and I were quite happy. She was giving me hints to ask her to be her partner. Which I was gonna do on our 2nd date. But now, I think this relationship is just so damaged, I don't know if we can fix it. Is there anything I can do, or is this just too damaged to repair? I don't know why this always happens to me. But I have a nice trip. Finally met something and this happens. It is possible that I was meant to be single?
chillii Posted December 12, 2019 Posted December 12, 2019 Maybe your self centered. First you make some big announcement returning, that alone suggests big me me me syndrome , then bang on about how people will remember you , out of 3million others, ahh, why , you a president of something , then write an encyclopedia , which l ain't reading , but you do sound very very self centered from that, which will ruin most relationships.
Lotsgoingon Posted December 12, 2019 Posted December 12, 2019 Don't make this complicated. Your phone got hacked. Yes, it's surprising and shocking to Tina ... but if she can't trust you and accept your story, if you can't get her relaxed, then move on. 1
Author InductedHades Posted December 21, 2019 Author Posted December 21, 2019 So today was the 1st time that Tina has texted me since the 9th. She did apologize to me admitting she was wrong into jumping into a conclusion. She then asked what I was doing and wanted to know if I wanted to have supper with her, since she was doing some xmas shopping in town. We live an hour apart, so she comes to my town to shop. I told her I'm at work and have about 1.5 hours left. She waited until I was off, even tho she had to get home. Got off and we had supper. While walking from her vehicle to the restaurant and when leaving, she let me put my arm around her waist. Didn't think she would let me, after what we have been through. I even made her blush, when I told her to text me when she got home as the weather is horrible right now. And right before we split, she aggressively grabs me and pulls me in for a hug. So I'm guessing this is a good sign. She has calmed down and has no issues being in public again. Is there still a chance we can fix this?
smackie9 Posted December 21, 2019 Posted December 21, 2019 Hah there is nothing to fix with her, But you need to contact pof and let them know someone is using your account/profile and photos illegally. Request to have it removed, and to block this person's IP address. Here's a tech tip....don't save PWs or use the same PW for everything. And if possible use the two step sign in process: PW and cel phone verification code. Don't use banking apps, or apps to things like email, fb, or anything that uses your identity. I know apps are convenient but it's a hacker's dream.
PinkFlamingo Posted December 21, 2019 Posted December 21, 2019 I'm dumbfounded how someone can mention so casually that they nearly killed themselves, while other aspects of the story seem blown out of proportions. 4
Calmandfocused Posted December 21, 2019 Posted December 21, 2019 First and foremost op: concentrate on getting your mental health stable and under control, including your suicidal thinking. Your op is suggesting that your thoughts , logic and self perception are all over the place. This is way too much blown out of proportion drama. All you need to do is be honest with Tina, explain what has/ has not happened and hope she believes you. If she’s in the same situation that shouldn’t be hard. To the poster above: way too harsh. Please shown some empathy to our fellow posters whose mental health problems are being exacerbated by the mental torture that goes hand in hand with dating at the best of times. 1
CAPSLOCK BANDIT Posted December 21, 2019 Posted December 21, 2019 PoF is rife with hacking, definitely be careful
Author InductedHades Posted December 22, 2019 Author Posted December 22, 2019 16 hours ago, smackie9 said: Hah there is nothing to fix with her, But you need to contact pof and let them know someone is using your account/profile and photos illegally. Request to have it removed, and to block this person's IP address. Here's a tech tip....don't save PWs or use the same PW for everything. And if possible use the two step sign in process: PW and cel phone verification code. Don't use banking apps, or apps to things like email, fb, or anything that uses your identity. I know apps are convenient but it's a hacker's dream. My PoF was deleted. In my OP, I explained what has happened. My phone was hacked while I was connected to our malls public WiFi. 10 hours ago, Calmandfocused said: First and foremost op: concentrate on getting your mental health stable and under control, including your suicidal thinking. Your op is suggesting that your thoughts , logic and self perception are all over the place. This is way too much blown out of proportion drama. All you need to do is be honest with Tina, explain what has/ has not happened and hope she believes you. If she’s in the same situation that shouldn’t be hard. To the poster above: way too harsh. Please shown some empathy to our fellow posters whose mental health problems are being exacerbated by the mental torture that goes hand in hand with dating at the best of times. I'm a Mixed Bipolar of 13 years. I was diagnosed with severe Type 1 and Type 2. Suicidal thoughts are always running through my mind. Even with being on meds, it doesnt always help but keeps me in control. Until I hit my breaking point. I was honest with her and didn't believe me at first. So I left her alone. And if she wanted to talk, she can text me 1st. Took 11 days. In which she did and that's when she apologized she was wrong for jumping to conclusions.
PinkFlamingo Posted December 22, 2019 Posted December 22, 2019 20 hours ago, Calmandfocused said: First and foremost op: concentrate on getting your mental health stable and under control, including your suicidal thinking. Your op is suggesting that your thoughts , logic and self perception are all over the place. This is way too much blown out of proportion drama. All you need to do is be honest with Tina, explain what has/ has not happened and hope she believes you. If she’s in the same situation that shouldn’t be hard. To the poster above: way too harsh. Please shown some empathy to our fellow posters whose mental health problems are being exacerbated by the mental torture that goes hand in hand with dating at the best of times. You yourself said as well that things were blown out of proportions here, you even called it "way out". And yes, casually mentioning that you wanted to kill yourself will seem shocking to most people, but obviously not to most people who commented on this thread, because nobody else mentions it. Or maybe nobody really bothered to properly read the post.
smackie9 Posted December 22, 2019 Posted December 22, 2019 (edited) 14 hours ago, InductedHades said: "My phone was hacked while I was connected to our malls public WiFi". Used a VPN. I use surf easy on all my devices. Edited December 22, 2019 by smackie9
Author InductedHades Posted January 7, 2020 Author Posted January 7, 2020 On 12/22/2019 at 1:54 PM, Vespil said: So this girl Karen who you only know by one or two exchanged messages on POF, somehow hacked into your phone by being on the same wifi as you were, in the same mall at the same time? Unfortunately yeah. I live in a small town, so it's not that difficult to run into people. And being the only mall. Plus, this Karen person, didn't hack just my phone. She hacked about 22 other phones as well. The police did finally catch her. But I blew things off with Tina. She started playing those typical mind games women like to play. I said F this, you're not worth my time anymore. This was on new years day. Haven't heard from her since. Probably for the better.
kendahke Posted January 8, 2020 Posted January 8, 2020 17 hours ago, InductedHades said: Unfortunately yeah. I live in a small town, so it's not that difficult to run into people. And being the only mall. Plus, this Karen person, didn't hack just my phone. She hacked about 22 other phones as well. The police did finally catch her. make sure you give the police the screen shots both Tina and Karen sent you and insist upon pressing charges against Karen. Make sure she goes through the process, even if it amounts to nothing---she shouldn't escape from this with a lash from a soggy noodle.
smackie9 Posted January 8, 2020 Posted January 8, 2020 It's all about perception....Tina doesn't really know you, and like a lot of women that are using OLD, they have heard it all, and so it's hard to believe anything. Just chalk it up as a unfortunate incident, and carry on.
Author InductedHades Posted January 9, 2020 Author Posted January 9, 2020 14 hours ago, kendahke said: make sure you give the police the screen shots both Tina and Karen sent you and insist upon pressing charges against Karen. Make sure she goes through the process, even if it amounts to nothing---she shouldn't escape from this with a lash from a soggy noodle. She has been sentenced to 7-10 years in prison.
Angelflower Posted January 9, 2020 Posted January 9, 2020 6 hours ago, InductedHades said: She has been sentenced to 7-10 years in prison. If all this just happened in Dec how did she get sentenced to 7-10 years in prison already? For what crime? Pleading guilty to hacking? No trail? Where is this at? I know the court systems here in America don't operate that fast... maybe in a small town... I don't know.
Author InductedHades Posted January 9, 2020 Author Posted January 9, 2020 6 hours ago, Angelflower said: If all this just happened in Dec how did she get sentenced to 7-10 years in prison already? For what crime? Pleading guilty to hacking? No trail? Where is this at? I know the court systems here in America don't operate that fast... maybe in a small town... I don't know. I don't know the details. That's what the police officer who was working on the case told me.
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