van smack Posted December 12, 2019 Posted December 12, 2019 I've talked to a girl on tinder for a few months. We started texting in the fall and we live about 90 minutes apart. I tried to meet her twice and she couldn't get a babysitter for her son. Yes she's divorced with one kid. I've been talking with her a few times a week but it seems like its going nowhere. Should I ask her to meet one last time or just drop the whole thing?
Lotsgoingon Posted December 12, 2019 Posted December 12, 2019 Move on. If someone wants to meet with us, they will shake the earth to do so. If they want to meet with us and they temporarily can't do so ... then you still want to move on ... because likely they simply don't have time or the life that allows for dating. If this woman were really into you, she would be reassuring you and you wouldn't be asking the question or should you contact her again. She would loudly let you know that she wants to see you. She'd initiate with you! ... So ... either she's not interested ... or she doesn't have a life right now (can't get babysitter, can't afford a babysitter, has an odd schedule) that doesn't allow for dating. Either way, she's not available. Move on.
smackie9 Posted December 12, 2019 Posted December 12, 2019 (edited) This girl has been yankin yer chain all this time. She doesn't mind the attention but she had absolutely no intention of meeting you. Here's a tip: If you get anything but a YES when you ask them out, they are not interested. Don't bother with them, block delete move on. If they say the can't but OFFER another time, then yes they are interested. Don't waste your time talking with them for weeks or months. You message a few times, ask them out, they give you the ol' song and dance about how busy they are, blah blah blah, you quit it, and next them. Edited December 12, 2019 by smackie9 1
Twizzlestick Posted December 12, 2019 Posted December 12, 2019 Hey OP I can echo the above advice just from experience. I’ve found those that have excuse after excuse like your case, just end up falling off the radar. Its a pointless exercise staying in touch. I’ve just found a “ok, drop me a line when you’re free if you fancy meeting up” at best. It also says you’re not around to chat as I’ve found what happens is they end up just sending you boring “how’s you” messages. Or you could just delete such texts. Basically you want to get off the merry go round of chatting to her as it’s not going to go anywhere. 1
Inspire Posted December 12, 2019 Posted December 12, 2019 You've been talking for "months" and haven't met yet? Either the ship has sailed or she was never really invested. Most women would have moved on, or asked where all of this is going by this point. Since she hasn't, I'm inclined to believe that she enjoys the attention or really doesn't take you seriously. 1
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