2cutetoo Posted December 11, 2019 Posted December 11, 2019 So i’ve been hanging out with a friend group, i’ve always liked this one guy in the group but we’re both pretty shy and its hard to read him so i don’t wanna make the first move. Recently we went to the beach with some of his closer friends and 2 of our mutual friends and everyone had a few drinks. The guy i like wasn’t feeling too good so he went to rest on a bench. Me and one of his friends ended up talking about him and he was telling me all this stuff about how great and smart he is but he lacks confidence. how he needed a girl to just give him a little boost. his friend was pretty intoxicated but this was the first time we had a conversation longer than a minute. after that we went to go check up on him and his other friend told me to sit next to him and rub his back because he wasn’t feeling too good and he needed some affection. The whole day i felt like they were trying to suggest something but i’m not sure if it was just the alcohol. we’re they?
Double D Posted December 11, 2019 Posted December 11, 2019 Initially it sounds like alcohol was at play here. Has he given you any signals he likes you? Like finding ways to be in your presence? Flirting? Texting or phone conversations? If you are interested maybe just sending some signals his way, to peak his interest.
preraph Posted December 11, 2019 Posted December 11, 2019 They were trying to push you on him. Look the guy LEFT the group to go isolate himself! What's wrong with him? Why would you go after that? You want a guy who can FUNCTION!! You don't need to be dragging some guy along who doesn't have the motivation to pull himself up and get there on his own. Tell them if they want him, go get him! He needs to have better skills than he's displaying to be fit for dating.
stillafool Posted December 11, 2019 Posted December 11, 2019 I agree with preraph. Wait until he shows you he's interested, don't listen to his friends. He sounds like he had too much to drink and went away to get himself together. That wasn't the time to do what his friend suggested. Any guy with a sex drive will make some type of move when they want you.
d0nnivain Posted December 11, 2019 Posted December 11, 2019 (edited) In vino veritas. I assumed that the guy left the group because he drank too much & needed to chill, breathe & sober up a bit. If he's shy & his buddies are telling you that he lacks confidence, that puts the ball in your court to make it more apparent to him that you are interested. Men get scared / worry too. Nobody wants to be rejected. Next time you see him, smile. Make a point to talk to him, to sit by him. Flirt. Give the guy clear signals that if he's brave enough to ask you out, you will say yes. Seriously, you have to make it easy on the guy. Shy guys who lack confidence are clueless; you practically have to hit him over the head with a 2x4. Since you probably won't walk up to him & plant a kiss on him, you still need to do things that are almost as obvious. I have recounted this story before here on LS. I was at a singles mixer & I was flirting my tail off with this cute guy, or at least I thought I was. Turns out he was actually in the market for my business services. I had another appointment after the mixer so I handed him my card & told him to call & I'd be happy to help him with his business need but I'd be happier if he called for personal reasons. On our date the guy confessed to me that if I had not said that he never would have called because he didn't believe that I was interested. Moral of the story: you have to be Obvious! Edited December 11, 2019 by d0nnivain
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