Dating a students parent ....is it feasible or am I crossing a line?!! ***Updated***

[OatsAndHall]

1 hour ago, CallingBeau said:

Blimey! That'd creep me out too! What a weird thing to do!!

Yeah yeah I get that, thats a conversation I'm very keen not to have if at all possible either! She's never been a bad kid, a bit chatty, a bit over excitable, but never a bad kid, so I'm just really hoping her behaviour will settle down!

 

With all of that being said, I am very careful to keep my professional life and personal life separate. But, there's a different culture surrounding education in the U.S. and I've seen and had many small things thrown back in my face over the years. Teachers are generally under a microscope in the U.S. and current culture has enabled parents and community members to attack teachers they take issue with. And, any "scandal" (real or perceived) involving a teacher gets blown way out of proportion. There was a high school teacher in this state that got busted with weed and LSD in his car a few months ago; it made statewide news just because of his profession. I have acquaintances outside of teaching who have done far worse and never had to worry about the media.One guy picked up his fifth DUI with weed in the car and it only showed up on the arrest reports. It would've been front page news if he was a teacher.

[preraph]

Look she lost her dad at a very difficult age to deal with it and an age when she really needs a dad. So she's already been traumatized. She's already a raw nerve emotionally. It's like being sunburned and then someone touching you. 

 

And she did use you as a confidant, and that is both good and bad, but she probably feels betrayed.. the good news is if you are ever able to work it out, at least she used to have a rapport with you and might again sometime. 

 

No kid and especially teen lights for their parent to date anyone besides their  father or mother. Remember that teenagers are still young and naive and idealistic. She probably it's still trying to believe in fairytsle love and probably thinks you can only love one person. 

 

So this shakes her whole foundation which is already crumbled. It wouldn't surprise me if the mother didn't in the relationship just to end the carnage at home, but that probably won't do anything to help you at school..

 

Unless she just wants to it wouldn't be fair to send her to some other school because she needs what little stability she has. If you want to stay together and the mother wants to stay together, maybe it's you who needs to take a different position either at a different School or teaching something that she does not have to take.

[Robert]

thread jack deleted, let's keep the posts about the topic please, thanks