alphamale Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 Ha - the key phrase being "in some respects". We're all drama queens in some respects. You included, alpha yuck yuck yuck aren't we just a barrel o' laughs today, LINDYA?
lindya Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 yuck yuck yuck aren't we just a barrel o' laughs today, LINDYA? I don't know. Post a picture and I'll tell you
Outcast Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 when a couple start dating, a man has more of a tendency compartmentalize his life Interestingly, that's how the male brain works all the time. It's absolutely fascinating to read the reports of psych studies on the brains of the men vs women. As for emotion: One major structural difference that Gurian has made clear is that males generally have more activity in the mechanical centers of the brain, while women have more activity in centers of the brain dedicated to verbal communication and emotion. A clear example of this is the hypothetical situation of giving a child a toy. He explains it as such: "That doll becomes life-like to that girl, but you give it to a two-year-old boy and you are more likely, not all the time, but you are more likely than not to see that boy try to take the head off the doll. He thinks spatial-mechanical. He's using the doll as an object." from wikinews
portableversion Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 Is to presume that they DO NOT have feelings. So don't worry about saying the right or wrong things, date other guys and let him know about it, forget his birthday, and in essence, just treat him like 'one of the guys'. I mean, men don't feel so they won't care. AND presume that they are PIGS until they prove to you otherwise. Afterall, if a guys says he's a pig (and so many do) then treat him as one.
elijahBailey Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 , forget his birthday, and in essence, just treat him like 'one of the guys'. uhm, I couldn't care less, really, as long as I'm still gettin' the booty
Cecelius Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 Guys : I was curious as to why you are not emotional yet most posts say women are the emotional ones There are emotions that befit men and those that befit women, and there are some in between. A man's gotta do what a man's gotta do. Can you explain your inner workings so that us women can understand why its not cool for you to profess how important we are to you and how much you enjoy being with us. ? ? 1. Because most/many men have an experience in their past where they DID and then got dumped, LJBF or cheated on or whatever. 2. Because many (not all) women view these things as emotional conquests, and once they know they have you, you are done for 3. Because the best women like something a little unspoken, and are not high maintenance enough to need these things (and because they know that words are not worth as much as actions). Why do you also not call once we are interested ? Because as soon as a man is doing something just because the woman is interested, he's not really a man anymore. I personally find disgust in that and your desire to keep me interested by ignoring and playing the phone game does the opposite effect. I run the other way when not placed in any importance mode . Then you are smart -- clearly smart enough to know that no one can make you feel anything you don't want to.
ReluctantRomeo Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 Is to presume that they DO NOT have feelings. AND presume that they are PIGS until they prove to you otherwise. Sounds like a recipe for happiness to me
whichwayisup Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 Guys : I was curious as to why you are not emotional yet most posts say women are the emotional ones Female here, but I can answer you why...Men like things simple. They don't like to show their feelings, they don't tend to wear their hearts on their sleeves. Takes time to get them to open up, but when that happens, don't push it, let them come to you when they're ready. The more you push or nag, the more they're gonna head for the hills... Can you explain your inner workings so that us women can understand why its not cool for you to profess how important we are to you and how much you enjoy being with us. ? Look for action instead of words. How he is WITH you. Just because his mind doesn't work like a woman's doesn't mean that he doesn't care. The little things are what counts, so those have to be noticed and acknowledged. My husband does lots of things around the house, yeah they have to get done, but in a way it's a sign of how hard he works to please me, doing laundry, helping out etc...It's their own way of saying I care. Just isn't the way you want to hear it sometimes, but try to accept that is what it is. Why do you also not call once we are interested ? Thrill of the chase. We all do this at times. Sometimes it's great to be pursued and desired, but it's also fun to do the chasing and admiring... Let's put it this way, the guy wouldn't be with you if he didn't care. If he didn't like ya, he'd be more or less gone. Just my 2 cents...
elijahBailey Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 WWUI, you just made me understand myself. I agree with everything you said. Awesome. Two thumbs up.
whichwayisup Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 WWUI, you just made me understand myself. I agree with everything you said. Awesome. Two thumbs up. Thanks! I actually have a very ODDBALL friend who is a male and he kinda let me see the "manual" about how to figure out men. He gave me a complete rundown and spilled the beans. Holy s***, I tell ya, makes life so much easier now...f***, sometimes I wanna think like a guy! It's so much lighter and not intense!
NTB Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 Guys : I was curious as to why you are not emotional cause were not suppose to be i can still hear my dad...."get up wipe, that tear away and get back out there don't come back unless you have lost an arm" this was pee wee football
Mz. Pixie Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 Ha! You guys are so funny and I was busy so I missed your jokes! No, I didn't say no sex for a month. FYI- I want sex just as often or more than my H does! I didn't buy him a NFL ticket. But, I do sit down and watch and enjoy sports with him on a regular basis. He's a teacher and has this crazy parent giving him trouble. I wrote him a note about how much I loved him and how he is a fantastic husband, coach, teacher, and dad. He loves that kind of stuff. I was telling him mom about it later and she said, "Oh, he loves that kind of stuff" so he wasn't just acting like it for my sake.
Author Mary3 Posted October 3, 2005 Author Posted October 3, 2005 Thanks everyone that posted and gave their own view on my question. Great stuff !!. I have been with men that were quiet and non demonstrative ( which later becomes frustrating because it leaves you guessing but still preserves that strong male side ) I have been with men that were touchy feeling lovey dovey flowers moon stars the universe ...and that was fun ! After awhile though it appears they had read it all in a book.. and once their fantasy was over , they reverted back to the quiet barely -call -you- stuff. But now I can come back to LS and understand you guys better ! Thanks for HONEST answers everyone. For us girls who might wonder what this action or that one really means....we are GETTING the TRUTH here. !
housebaby Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 3. Because the best women like something a little unspoken, and are not high maintenance enough to need these things (and because they know that words are not worth as much as actions). Then you are smart -- clearly smart enough to know that no one can make you feel anything you don't want to. These two comments are exactly how my mind works! I am in control of my emotions and won't allow anyone to control them. I am responsible for my reactions to situations (good and bad) I would much rather not hear how a man "feels" about me - I would rather see the gestures of affection...and yes, the little things count (more than ppl know). I'd rather be shown that he loves me than told ---- because really, what are words? Usually heavy words are lightly thrown anyways. I would like a man to be straight-up...but if he starts blubbering like a baby or telling me more than I want to hear, I will close down my emotional shop. Then again, I am not one to let on too much. I don't really trust people enough to "wear my heart on my sleeve"....it takes me a very long time to open up (and even then, it's awkward for me). Women are very complicated, and hard it's to feel secure in showing weakness (even as a woman myself - I wouldn't show my weakness' to any woman in fear that she will use it against me ... and it's HAPPENED MORE THAN THREE TIMES: "best-friends" my ass). So, ya, I'm bitter and have a hard time trusting women too ---- so- my nearest and dearest friends whom I can trust are men. It's all so complicated!
Author Mary3 Posted October 3, 2005 Author Posted October 3, 2005 Hey I like that one baby ! Close down emotional shop I have learned so much. I think the biggest thing I learned is that you should keep your heart and feelings close to you, protect them. Because some people like to manipulate and mess with you in that respect. I will continue to learn
RecordProducer Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 I don't find men to be un-emotional. I just LOVE 'em the way they are!
JS17 Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 Those were tears of JOY not emotion.. She just bought him the NFL ticket on DTV One of my guy friends once told me that he wasn't emotional but if the Jets ever won the superbowl he'd probably break down and cry.
slubberdegullion Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 One of my guy friends once told me that he wasn't emotional but if the Jets ever won the superbowl he'd probably break down and cry. Looks like he won't be needing the Kleenex box anytime soon.
JS17 Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 Looks like he won't be needing the Kleenex box anytime soon. TRUST ME, I HEARD ALL ABOUT IT can't live with em, can't live without em
Woggle Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 Is to presume that they DO NOT have feelings. So don't worry about saying the right or wrong things, date other guys and let him know about it, forget his birthday, and in essence, just treat him like 'one of the guys'. I mean, men don't feel so they won't care. AND presume that they are PIGS until they prove to you otherwise. Afterall, if a guys says he's a pig (and so many do) then treat him as one. This is a nice attitude to have. NOt! Men are more complex than people give us credit for. My advice is just be real with a guy. Just be yourself and let the chips fall where they may. If a woman started doing the things you suggest she would not be with me anymore.
elijahBailey Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 Men are more complex than people give us credit for No way we're complex. Most of us puppies do pretty well with just food and sex.
Woggle Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 No way we're complex. Most of us puppies do pretty well with just food and sex. That is you not me. We are not one dimensional neanderthals.
whichwayisup Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 Just read the manual dammit! Ahh, it's good to know someone who shares in the 'inside' information...
RecordProducer Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 That is you not me. We are not one dimensional neanderthals. As long as the dimensions are good, who cares about your emotions?
Woggle Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 As long as the dimensions are good, who cares about your emotions? You are the type of women I stay away from.
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