Winter1708 Posted December 10, 2019 Posted December 10, 2019 I’m at my wits end. I’m sitting hear crying my eyes out. I’ve just got my 5 month old daughter to sleep. My relationship has been awful lately. I feel like I’m invisible. My partner barely listens when I speak, I’m not taken seriously, he never keeps his promises or does what he says he will do. I feel so broken right now. is anyone free to talk? I could use someone to talk to.
d0nnivain Posted December 10, 2019 Posted December 10, 2019 I'm so sorry. I am not a mom. I don't know how much if any of this is part of post partum. Can you make a short list of 5-6 things you need from the baby daddy that will help you. Does he need to do more house work? Could you use more sleep? A compliment? A bubble bath? Sometimes men just don't know what to do so they do nothing. If you give him specific tasks & don't make him guess, most men will step up. 1
preraph Posted December 10, 2019 Posted December 10, 2019 You must be so overwhelmed, and now you feel like you really don't have a good partner to get through having this child -- and maybe you don't. Without knowing anything about the baby's dad, it's hard to give advice, but I would say one universal truth is that men need to be told what you need from them. For whatever reason, whether they are not educated on the subject of parenthood or they don't WANT to be, you need to sit him down and tell him, I need this from you because I am overwhelmed and feel like I have no support, help me! Then be specific. I need you to take the baby for an hour so I can get a nap. I need you to help change the baby and do your part. I need you to understand that I'm tired and not always up for sex, so you need to help out more because I'm that exhausted. Whatever it is. I need you to get a second job until the baby is old enough that I can go back to work, because we need more money. You need to communicate. And if he's just not a good partner, well, you file for child support from him and boot him out. 2
GeorgiaPeach1 Posted December 10, 2019 Posted December 10, 2019 Is he your husband? Is this a child he wanted to have with you and made plans for ahead of time? If not, he may be emotionally disconnected from the whole thing. I would get into therapy and figure out if the relationship can be saved, or if you'd be better off as a single parent who can hopefully collect child support. 1
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