Asked her out but wants to date in January ?

[slimshade1]

Hello all,

 

So I asked out a girl about 2 weeks ago and see said yes but not until mid January, I presume because it's after the exams period. We are both in the last year at university and I just want to now be in a relationship with someone, instead of the other.

 

Since she said that, I have given her space to breath and we haven't spoken since. Your thoughts, cheers.

[ExpatInItaly]

Maybe she's already got some holiday dates lined up and wants to see how those go first. For example, she might have a date for NYE already and knows she can't very well start accepting dates from other guys at the same time. If it were because she wants to wait until exams were finished, or because she was traveling over the holidays, she likely would have mentioned that.

 

You can reconnect in mid-January and see where she's at, but I am not sure I'd hold my breath for her. You likely would have had a more enthusiastic reply to your date invitation if she were interested but genuinely busy with other things.

[healing light]

Holidays can be really busy for a lot of people and they are usually spent with serious significant others, imo. Maybe she wants to concentrate on family and her studies without having to navigate things seeming prematurely advanced by spending major holidays with someone she's just getting to know?

[Art_Critic]

I would just move on and not conact her anymore.. she said sure..in 2 MONTHS

She isn't interested

[salparadise]

Exactly. Don't let her occupy any real estate in your head. She's holding you at arm's length even before the first date. Lose her number.

[slimshade1]

I know she likes me, she seemed quite interested in just going out, but not a relationship and she is obviously going out over the x-mas period. I feel she wanted to have fun other the x-mas period and then come back after the fun had ended? So maybe I should show a clear message back ?

 

Thank you, all. 

Edited December 12, 2019 by slimshade1

[GoreSP]

Leave it for now and reconnect in mid-january. Exam period is hella stressful and so are the holidays.  Unless she has pulled this kind of thing before, I see no reason to doubt her explanation.

 

you’ll see soon enough in january if she isnlt interested... 

[FMW]

Wait til mid January.  You don't know each other that well, it's a very busy time of year, and I don't think it's unreasonable to wait.  It doesn't mean she's not interested, it just means she's not going to set everything aside during this extra busy time for someone she doesn't really know yet.    

 

If she puts you off again, then I'd move along.  

[fromheart]

This isn't relationship material.

Date other women, have fun with this one if she calls.  She may be saying she's up for fun after exams, but not a relationship with you. 

[Inspire]

I might not necessarily be a sign of no interest. If you really like her stay in light contact so you're still on the radar. Her responses or lack thereof will be a better indicator if she's interested. In the meantime, keep your options open and if you're still interested in January ask her again.

[smackie9]

Stop holding your breath and exhale.........she's not interested.