morgannie Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 I am one of those girls who can be a bit insecure in realtionships. I can be a bit aloof and not straight forward with the guy I am dating. I get a bit scared when it comes to opening myself up and being vulnerable. I have no idea if this impacts what always seems to be happening to me, but that is why I am seeking advice. After my last couple of relationships have ended, it seems my ex finds "the one" with the next girl he dates and they get married. Is this a reflection on me?
Razorback05 Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 Nope, it's not a reflection on you. It is merely an expression and realization of a personal preference: You weren't the one for them. A more refreshing way to look at it, is that they left your life so that you could find the one that is for YOU! If you could go into more detail about how you feel your insecurity and/or fears play a role in your interaction with your mates, we could offer better support/advice.
Author morgannie Posted October 3, 2005 Author Posted October 3, 2005 Whenever I begin a new relationship it always great, but then I let insecurities seep in. For example, I feel like the guy i'm with deserves better than me and I just wait for him to realize that. It's at that point I try to mask those feelings by being aloof and acting like I can't be hurt and that I'm in control. I hate it because I've definitely messed up three perfectly good relationships because of it.
Art_Critic Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 Sounds like an ex of mine.. I think you just haven't found the right guy yet.. If you find him you know right away and you might be scared but you will also get alot of comfort from him.. If this guy your with now is someone you don't want to lose .. Then you need to sit him down and share your secrets about your past relationships and your feelings when you are vulnerable.. If he is a decent guy then he will do all he can to aliviate any feelings your are having.
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