SurDeFil Posted December 3, 2019 Posted December 3, 2019 Hello All, I am dating a guy, we went out 4 times. He's nice but we don't have this intellectual connection. First 2 dates were great but afterwards I was dating him only to get to know him better and see if anything will improve. I simply was not sure if I want to keep seeing him. Now I had birthday and he bought me quite expensive gift. And I don't know what to do. I don't want to string him along but I also don't want to commit. Should I refuse to accept the gift? Accept and the ask him out myself?
PegNosePete Posted December 3, 2019 Posted December 3, 2019 Don't let the gift make that decision for you. If you don't want to see him again, then don't. If you don't then it would be polite to return the gift.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted December 3, 2019 Posted December 3, 2019 Oh man, this is cringy. But, I agree, don't let the gift dictate your decision! You did not ask for it!
d0nnivain Posted December 3, 2019 Posted December 3, 2019 Give him the expensive gift back. Tell him it's too soon for such an extravagant thing. If he got you a little something I would have told you to be gracious. On a 1st date near my birthday some guy bought me the small box of 4 Godiva chocolate for about $5. That was sweet even if bordering on over the top. Anything more then $20 is too much too early. 1
Happy Lemming Posted December 3, 2019 Posted December 3, 2019 Give him the expensive gift back. Tell him it's too soon for such an extravagant thing. Anything more then $20 is too much too early. 100% Agree... If I may expand upon your post. It was inappropriate for him to do that and put you in this position. I was dating this one woman for about 3 weeks when her birthday rolled around. We went to dinner (nothing extravagant, her favorite Mexican Food Place) & I got her a bottle of wine that was about $25. She enjoyed red, so that made gift buying quite easy. 2
smackie9 Posted December 3, 2019 Posted December 3, 2019 You already knew he wasn't intellectually stimulating (damn don't you just hate that!)...like anything will improve after that. Lesson learned: If he ain't got it he ain't gonna have it. I have a feeling he knows your interest has begun to wilt, so he got desperate with an expensive inappropriate gift to hoover you back. ick! Time to be honest with him. Give back the gift, and send him on his way. 1
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