LeojDon Posted December 2, 2019 Posted December 2, 2019 Hey guys! so long-story short: We met in Thailand in March '19, I'm living at home in UK whilst she is from/lives in Rome, Italy. We travelled together and enjoyed so many beautiful moments together during April/Part of May and grew really close but stayed cautious. Once we returned home we evaluated everything and missed each other so much. We then met in another part of Italy for week in June, then the Netherlands and then Croatia for a week in July (where we both first told each other we loved one another). In September she moved to my city in England. She'll be here from September - January for her masters degree; things are going amazing. I've never felt so close to someone in my life, the love and feelings really intensified and we love having each other in our day-to-day life. I'm about to meet her parents/sister/grandma who are flying here to see her in December! Now this is where I get a little scared. We're both 23. In January 2020 as part of her course she moves to Copenhagen for 5 months. We went long-distance in the summer for 4 months which we managed, however we didn't have much else going on since we were back from our travels so had the time to talk all the time and we also now won't have the same prospect of her moving to my city of vice versa. Now it'll be different with her doing her studies etc. I'm worried we'll become distant, and I fear for what we do after she completes her studies in June 2020. The ideal is to get a job in the same city in Europe however it's easier said than done. I can honestly see myself marrying her but I'm a little scared that I'm so deep into it that when it comes to this time next year we'll still be apart and not have a plan (or not be able to create a plan due to just life) which closes the distance. Am I being stupid to overthink the future when it's not even here yet? I feel its clouding my thoughts when I should be totally enjoying our time together living in the same city right now 24/7.
Mrin Posted December 2, 2019 Posted December 2, 2019 Worrying is paying interest on a debt not yet due
CAPSLOCK BANDIT Posted December 3, 2019 Posted December 3, 2019 (edited) As human beings, we tend to gravitate towards whatever is convenient for us. LDR is not convenient. LDR is very far from convenient. Her family? They have no understanding of her need for convenience; in the families mind, she should be grinding and keeping it steady, but her need for convenience is something completely outside of their scope. In fact, her families approval is another thing of convenience; if they approve of you, but not the guy she will meet elsewhere, their thoughts on that will not trump the level of convenience she is getting from not being in an LDR. Typically, people rooted in lifestyles of instant gratification cannot avoid the conveniences that they are surrounded by in an LDR. I would pay attention to her lifestyle and see if she truly has the ability to go without. Most do not. Edited December 3, 2019 by CAPSLOCK BANDIT Grammar
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