Brennan72 Posted December 24, 2019 Share Posted December 24, 2019 3 minutes ago, lana-banana said: "I trust myself, just not women." The "sweetheart" is just the icing on the cake. Good work convincing anybody you aren't a Neanderthal. If I worked in your office I wouldn't be alone with you either. And your response is the exact reason I have the policy as outlined above: aka, to prevent women like you from trying to wreck my carer through false allegations or other methods. I can see you getting angry at a male co-worker you think is a Neanderthal because he used the microwave for two long, and then telling his boss that he pinched your ass. Not all men these days are stupid Link to post Share on other sites
lana-banana Posted December 24, 2019 Share Posted December 24, 2019 (edited) 34 minutes ago, Brennan72 said: And your response is the exact reason I have the policy as outlined above: aka, to prevent women like you from trying to wreck my carer through false allegations or other methods. I can see you getting angry at a male co-worker you think is a Neanderthal because he used the microwave for two long, and then telling his boss that he pinched your ass. Not all men these days are stupid You are the one who jumped at the chance to call an internet stranger "sweetheart", bragged about how you're scared to be left alone with women, and insisted that #metoo (which has no relevance to this topic) is about destroying men's lives. I'm done with this thread and ignoring you but you're really telling on yourself here. If you are so frightened of women thinking you're a harasser and/or predator maybe it's because you act like one. Edited December 24, 2019 by lana-banana Link to post Share on other sites
Author Fridita Posted January 10, 2020 Author Share Posted January 10, 2020 Well, thank you all for your insights. The situation is getting unbearable for me and I'm considering to leaving the job after finishing one important project there. actually everytime I see him and we have to discuss something, I end up crying after, because of the fact that I have to control my feelings so much. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 10, 2020 Share Posted January 10, 2020 Fridita under those circumstances it's probably better that you change jobs. Best wishes 2 Link to post Share on other sites
lasalsa Posted February 16, 2020 Share Posted February 16, 2020 As someone who was in exactly the same situation, I did tell him eventually. Against all advice, but I don't regret it. Nothing happened between us, he didn't declare his love for me, I didn't ask him to and I didn't expect him to, considering his situation. Still, just letting him know helped me to let it go. He never blamed me for it, he didn't treat me differently afterwards. We worked together for quite some time afterwards, still as close coworkers. So, judge the situation yourself and be realistic. Telling him can help you get rid of the intensity of your feelings, but don't expect him to return your feelings. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted February 17, 2020 Share Posted February 17, 2020 (edited) Just wondering what you mean to accomplish by telling a guy who is in a relationship that you like him other than him ignoring it? He leaves his so for you or becoming his side chick? . In both cases, the guy has a weak will/character, monkey-branches, and will probably do it again down the road if it suits him . Not appealing wither scenario imo. Edited February 17, 2020 by Cookiesandough 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted February 17, 2020 Share Posted February 17, 2020 On 1/10/2020 at 6:46 PM, d0nnivain said: Fridita under those circumstances it's probably better that you change jobs. Best wishes Either this or try therapy. Probably just better to quit if you can't handle it. Link to post Share on other sites
LuckyM Posted March 7, 2020 Share Posted March 7, 2020 I feel sorry for you and know how it might feel. I say no. Unless you plan on quitting soon or have already quit. Telling him will change the relationship completely and he might avoid you, or even worse, lead you on. I have been there and it sucks! Link to post Share on other sites
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