guy45 Posted November 28, 2019 Posted November 28, 2019 I've been talking to this woman from Thailand for about two years, and yesterday she told me that I should find someone closer to me. I felt a little hurt by that. I do understand that she's probably right, I just always had this hope in my mind that I could be with her. Just talking to her during these years gave me some peace of mind that at least someone could understand me, and now I just feel like I have nothing left. I've had probably the worst luck meeting women locally, maybe once in a blue moon I will meet someone but its rare. What can I do now?
basil67 Posted November 28, 2019 Posted November 28, 2019 (edited) I'm sorry you're feeling so lonely. However, the situation doesn't make sense when taken in context with your other recent posts about dating other women. How is it that you call the Thai girl a 'girlfriend' but are also actively dating? Also, a hope to be with her isn't sufficient to maintain a relationship. What concrete plans did you make to have this become a reality? And how much time had you spent with her face to face? Edited November 28, 2019 by basil67
Author guy45 Posted November 28, 2019 Author Posted November 28, 2019 A hope to be with her isn't sufficient to maintain a relationship. What concrete plans did you make to have this become a reality? I was hoping to find a well paying job so I can go visit her, and hopefully someday marry her in the future.
d0nnivain Posted November 29, 2019 Posted November 29, 2019 Oh you poor broken hearted romantic man. Your head is filled with romantic dreams. It's time to be more practical. I'm sorry that you are hurting but your pen pal from Thailand is correct -- you, her & happily ever after is an unrealistic pipe dream that will not come to fruition. It may have been fun & comforting while it lasted but between the distance, the costs & the immigration issues it was never going to work. So now, you lick your wounds. When you are finished grieving you close your phone & shut off your computer. Then you double down on finding somebody local you can actual spend time with, hold, touch & kiss. 2
Mr. Lucky Posted November 29, 2019 Posted November 29, 2019 Long distance gf left me Calling her your GF problematic on many levels. I get she’s someone you enjoyed talking to, but it takes so much more than that for a real relationship. Why not use meetup to find the same thing closer to home? Set the romantic aspirations aside, just start with someone who’s company you enjoy. As was said, got to get out from behind the screen to do so... Mr. Lucky 1
Author guy45 Posted November 29, 2019 Author Posted November 29, 2019 Calling her your GF problematic on many levels. I get she’s someone you enjoyed talking to, but it takes so much more than that for a real relationship. Why not use meetup to find the same thing closer to home? Set the romantic aspirations aside, just start with someone who’s company you enjoy. As was said, got to get out from behind the screen to do so... Mr. Lucky You're right, thank you
ExpatInItaly Posted November 29, 2019 Posted November 29, 2019 You need to meet women in person, OP. Online relationships are not the real deal, and rarely amount to what people hope. This was not a wise investment of your time, energy and feelings. If you are going to use OLD, you really should stick to women in your area and not a random stranger on the other side of the world with whom the chances of a real relationship are nearly zero. 1
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