Alpha999 Posted November 28, 2019 Posted November 28, 2019 Hi there, Just another quick question... It probably goes without saying that if a relationship ended just before a major event or occasion the dumpee would suffer through that time - and possibly the dumper too. But I wonder... Most people on here seem to be in a post BU state from days, weeks to a few months down the line. Where that is the case and a big occasion comes about - let's say Christmas as it's nearly here - did that heighten any separation anxiety or other feelings towards your ex - whether you are the dumper or the dumpee? Christmas for me this year will be tinged by sadness as it will provoke memories of years gone by with my now ex and I wonder if she will think the same. She lives alone with little family and will most likely wake up Xmas day alone. Although an independent person who enjoys their own space, not that it matters now but I find it unreal that people aren't affected at least in some way when these occasions occur in the relatively short time after a break up. In my own experience I have only spent 1 Christmas out of the last 15 or so outside of a relationship...and it was probably the worst of my life. Friends and family are all great but I found missing that special someone on the big day to be a horrible feeling - and as above was flooded by memories of years gone by. I guess that natural and something for me to work on - but your own thoughts would be interesting as it's not something I have seen discussed on here very often. Thanks
d0nnivain Posted November 29, 2019 Posted November 29, 2019 I guess I never had the experience of being dumped right before the holidays. Although one guy dumped me In early November once ON my parents' wedding anniversary. I ruined their whole dinner because I cried my way through it. While I can't speak to break ups, it's been 8 years since my mom died & 7 since my dad died & I still miss them. At this point I hate the holidays because I feel so alone. My husband has been incredibly understanding but the sense of isolation remains. To those suffering I share this: You will live to love again, so hang in there.
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