I am so angry annoyed. Am I out of line?

[whatwhit]

My boyfriend and I have been together 5 months. For the most part things are great. But 20% of the time they’re not.

 

I don’t feel like he respects me

- he’s voiced concerns about me that I do. And I’ve corrected them. But he still yet accused me of doing them. Even he at the same time said he notices the changes. Confusing I know.

 

- if there’s a serious conversation I give him my undivided attention. I don’t care how late or how long the conversation is. I’ll stay up all night til he feels better. Whereas with him he almost feels annoyed. Sometimes he’ll ask me what’s wrong and I give him a honest answer. And he still seems annoyed. Goes to sleep annoyed that the conversation goes into the night.

 

- everything is on his terms. I remember when we were planning to visit his family I said anytime was good except EOM cause I’m in sales and I can’t take off. And he seemed annoyed about that.

 

All of this is popping up again because it’s the eve of Thanksgiving. He’s new to Texas his aunt and uncle live here. And they’re doing thanksgiving. He went last year. We’ve been discussing about doing it at my families like for the past month. It’s the first time he’s going to meet them so it’s a big deal to me. I told him if he wanted to go to theirs instead I get it. But I can’t miss mine cause I see my family only once a year. He texts me asking if we can try to do both. Which isn’t possible both of them do it at lunch. My family lives two hours away. I understand he wants to see his family. But he can see his any weekend he wants too I can’t.

 

I don’t want to cause an argument. I know I’ll feel bad once he’s like no we can go to yours. Cause that’s just how I am. But now I feel like he’s disrespecting my families time. And that really pisses me off.

Edited November 27, 2019 by whatwhit

[smackie9]

Sooooo you are saying he's going to be all over you about you wanting to just see your family and not be with his. Well suck it up my dear and tell him how it's gonna be. If he's going to bully you on it, then it just proves this relationship is on it's way out. You can't change him, but you can change your situation....and that is not to put up with it anymore.

[elaine567]

Why do you see your family only once a year?

[basil67]

20% bad is a fairly high number, it's only five months together and you've painted a picture of incompatibility. Why are you still with him?

[preraph]

I just don't see why you'd consider staying with someone when it's always his way or no way and when he gets annoyed with your needs. Seriously. That's for a short-term boyfriend, nothing beyond that. I mean, he's not going to change. That's his personality. Go see your parents. Let him do what he wants, and then break up because he sounds like a pain.

 

You know what they say: You never really know someone until they're not getting their way or things aren't going their way.

[MsJayne]

If you feel like he doesn't respect you, it's because he doesn't. Never mind about whose family you see for Thanksgiving, your main concern should be this....."He's voiced concerns over things that I do, and I've corrected them." Say what??? So, if he doesn't like you the way you are....why is he with you? I'll tell you why, because a lot of girls he'd rather be with wouldn't put up with his crap, but you do. He thinks if he just 'corrects' a few things about you, you'll be passable. Please think hard about this. This guy has issues within himself. He needs to spend more time working on correcting his own behaviour and less time finding fault with other peoples. There are billions of men in the world, don't date one of the dud ones.