Silver_star Posted November 25, 2019 Posted November 25, 2019 I am finally feeling ready to get back into the dating scene, and so I have gone online to meet some guys. I met a guy that I find very attractive. I am not looking for hookups, and he says he is not either...but early into our first date I found that it is unlikely we would be compatible for a serious relationship due to cultural differences/expectations and his future plans for moving around after his degree. He seems a bit shy physically, but indicated his attraction to me after I was direct with him and asked. haha. Since the first date we went out again and spent many hours learning about each other. I still don't think we are compatible long term. I think he does like me, and I enjoy his company and conversation but I dont want to waste his time and mine either. I could just say Bye and not see him again...but I think there is chemistry and I am curious and want to explore the fun times a bit more. I think if I liked a guy I would maybe be insulted at him asking me to just have fun after a couple of dates because he didnt see it working out long term. Would a guy be insulted if a girl was direct about her intentions after a couple dates?
preraph Posted November 25, 2019 Posted November 25, 2019 Not unless they had already caught feelings, as long as they understood the reasoning.
snowboy91 Posted November 25, 2019 Posted November 25, 2019 I think if I liked a guy I would maybe be insulted at him asking me to just have fun after a couple of dates because he didnt see it working out long term. Would a guy be insulted if a girl was direct about her intentions after a couple dates? I'm curious - why would you be insulted if he said that to you? If a girl was direct about her intentions with me and didn't want long term, I'd only be upset if I wanted something long term. But I wouldn't feel insulted - not everyone is looking for the same thing, and that says nothing about your value as a romantic partner (or a person in general). I'd much rather someone be direct and upset me than lead me on - I get over it more quickly that way.
Foxhall Posted November 25, 2019 Posted November 25, 2019 Well given his plans to move around, I imagine your proposed fun dates will suit him just fine.
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