h0000 Posted November 25, 2019 Posted November 25, 2019 Men like this make me scared. Why scared? Men like this are very easy to spot. Stop engaging with them and you wont be hurt, it's that easy. Next time a guy who flirts way too early, who asks you home after 1st date, who tries to have (any kind of) sex after 1st date, is a player, and stay away.
Author Britney25 Posted November 25, 2019 Author Posted November 25, 2019 I think you should be more concerned about Long Distance Relationships/Dating. In my opinion, LDR's have extra challenges because of the distance apart, effort required (to meet) and travel expenses. 1 hour (drive) is my limit. Many years ago, I did try to date someone that lived 4-5 hours away, the drive was just too hard. She had moved to help take care of her aging father and we attempted to continue the relationship. It didn't work. Have you thought about dating someone local?? Omg he just texted hi baby again 1
Happy Lemming Posted November 26, 2019 Posted November 26, 2019 Omg he just texted hi baby again His plan A fell through, now he wants another BJ.
Author Britney25 Posted November 26, 2019 Author Posted November 26, 2019 His plan A fell through, now he wants another BJ. I replied and it's been an hour and he's quiet again. Now I feel like he's playing games.
Happy Lemming Posted November 26, 2019 Posted November 26, 2019 Now I feel like he's playing games. Yes, I believe you are correct. Perhaps you could concentrate your efforts dating someone local to you.
Author Britney25 Posted November 26, 2019 Author Posted November 26, 2019 Yes, I believe you are correct. Perhaps you could concentrate your efforts dating someone local to you. I get what you are saying but I dont have anyone local to me as of right now that I'm interested in. I'm trying to understand what the hell this guy is thinking!?
Happy Lemming Posted November 26, 2019 Posted November 26, 2019 (edited) ... but I dont have anyone local to me as of right now that I'm interested in. Go out and find a new guy... the night is still young. I wouldn't waste any more time or energy with this long distance guy, its not going to turn into anything. Unless you want to have oral sex with him again... If it was fun and you'd like to do it again, text him accordingly. Edited November 26, 2019 by Happy Lemming
Author Britney25 Posted November 26, 2019 Author Posted November 26, 2019 Go out and find a new guy... the night is still young. I wouldn't waste any more time or energy with this long distance guy, its not going to turn into anything. Unless you want to have oral sex with him again... If it was fun and you'd like to do it again, text him accordingly. So he replied and was just asking hows work and what he visited today in my city. No invite no nothing just this. What you think?
Author Britney25 Posted November 26, 2019 Author Posted November 26, 2019 My guess is that is was just looking for a bit of action, OP. It's fine to go however far you want on a first date or to have casual sex if you're into it. You do need to have realistic expectations for what happens thereafter with a dude who's only in town on business, though - especially when he's giving off serious player vibes with "baby" already. He texted me hi baby again today and this time I said Hi and how are you enjoying your time here. This time he replied and said again hi! How was work and how he explored the city a bit and nothing else after I replied. No invite...no good bye....no nothing. I dont get it he keeps in touch but no invite
h0000 Posted November 26, 2019 Posted November 26, 2019 Cant you get it? I said it on the first post. He wants you for sex and only when it's convenient for him. He texts you because he's leaving this door open so he can tap you again when it's convenient for him. You say men like this makes you scared. Yet you keep engaging/obsessing with him. He cant hurt you unless you let him. You really need to stop wasting your time. I know you dont want to accept the truth, but you have to. F with you once, shame on him. F with you twice, shame on you
Author Britney25 Posted November 26, 2019 Author Posted November 26, 2019 Cant you get it? I said it on the first post. He wants you for sex and only when it's convenient for him. He texts you because he's leaving this door open so he can tap you again when it's convenient for him. You say men like this makes you scared. Yet you keep engaging/obsessing with him. He cant hurt you unless you let him. You really need to stop wasting your time. I know you dont want to accept the truth, but you have to. F with you once, shame on him. F with you twice, shame on you I totally understand what you're saying BUT why isn't he then inviting me over for a second round? He is already leaving tomorrow and in the 4 days he has been here we had only 1 date. So yes this is confusing me and doesnt make sense if it's only about sex then he should of tried for another round yet he didnt and is just texting me first. I'm not initiating any contact with him first.
Happy Lemming Posted November 26, 2019 Posted November 26, 2019 No invite no nothing just this. What you think? I don't think much of it... Like I said in a previous post, long distance relationships rarely work. You seem to be quite invested in this one night stand. On a side note... Do you date much?? Is this the only encounter you've had in a while??
h0000 Posted November 26, 2019 Posted November 26, 2019 Because he's trying with someone else first. And why do you want him to ask you out for another round of sex anyway? You said you wanted more than that. 1
Author Britney25 Posted November 26, 2019 Author Posted November 26, 2019 I don't think much of it... Like I said in a previous post, long distance relationships rarely work. You seem to be quite invested in this one night stand. On a side note... Do you date much?? Is this the only encounter you've had in a while?? Yes as a lawyer I dont date much. Again he choses to contact me and I would of liked to see him before he left but he didnt invite me at all.
Author Britney25 Posted November 26, 2019 Author Posted November 26, 2019 Because he's trying with someone else first. And why do you want him to ask you out for another round of sex anyway? You said you wanted more than that. Why? Because you said it yourself...its just sex for him so why not? At least I would of known what's on his mind yet he didnt and chose to text today about random things
h0000 Posted November 26, 2019 Posted November 26, 2019 So you think since he hasnt asked you out for sex yet, there is a chance he wanted more with you. No, just ..no..
Author Britney25 Posted November 26, 2019 Author Posted November 26, 2019 So you think since he hasnt asked you out for sex yet, there is a chance he wanted more with you. No, just ..no.. No I'm saying why is he even contacting me at all. What the hell is the point? Hes going back and will have other women. So what's the point?
ExpatInItaly Posted November 26, 2019 Posted November 26, 2019 No I'm saying why is he even contacting me at all. What the hell is the point? Hes going back and will have other women. So what's the point? My honest guest is that you're not the only woman in your area he's hooking up with while he's in town. He keeps chatting to you in case the other one is busy and he wants Round 2 with you. 1
introverted1 Posted November 26, 2019 Posted November 26, 2019 Because he's trying with someone else first. Yep. Maybe he didn't think the sex with you was good enough for it to be his first choice for another go. Or maybe he just enjoys having a new woman each time. Does it matter? No man who is serious about you is going to behave as he has -- half-heartedly chatting you up for a year, having uninspired sex on date #1, and then sending a series of meaningless "hi babe" texts for a couple of days. What are you looking for? What do you think is the best path for achieving it?
introverted1 Posted November 26, 2019 Posted November 26, 2019 No I'm saying why is he even contacting me at all. What the hell is the point? Hes going back and will have other women. So what's the point? Also... there is no point and there doesn't have to be one. Maybe he's bored. Maybe he's sitting on the toilet. Who knows? The bottom line is that nothing he has texted you has taken more than 30 seconds of his time. So maybe, in his calculus. 30 seconds of texting is worth it to keep you on the hook. If this thread is any indication, it seems his math is correct. 1
Art_Critic Posted November 26, 2019 Posted November 26, 2019 My honest guest is that you're not the only woman in your area he's hooking up with while he's in town. He keeps chatting to you in case the other one is busy and he wants Round 2 with you. I think this is the deal.. take what you had with him and call it a learning experience. He won't even give you a decent FWB experience because of all the other women he has in his pool.
stillafool Posted November 26, 2019 Posted November 26, 2019 He wasn't that keen on the sex you had with him the first time and that is why he isn't champing at the bit to do it again.
stillafool Posted November 26, 2019 Posted November 26, 2019 Well that maybe all he really wanted was sex from me? I hope you made him give you oral first. Did you?
Author Britney25 Posted November 26, 2019 Author Posted November 26, 2019 I hope you made him give you oral first. Did you? Yes he gave me oral first and yes I am not very experienced as I am still a virgin never had vaginal sex but he knew that. I told him
kendahke Posted November 26, 2019 Posted November 26, 2019 I replied and it's been an hour and he's quiet again. Now I feel like he's playing games. you texting back is him checking the line. Hook still in cheek? Yep. Now he's off to check his other lines. Pull the hook out of your cheek, block him and move on... unless you like this treatment...
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