Britney25 Posted November 25, 2019 Posted November 25, 2019 So I went on a date with this guy on Friday and it was a nice date, I believe we have a connection. After the date he tells me he wants to see me again. So today he texts me hi baby! and I replied to him hi babe! Several hours late he read it and no reply. I'm confused. Is he checking in? But why no continued conversation? He did mention he wants to meet tomorrow before but still there is no actual plan to meet. Thoughts?
LivingWaterPlease Posted November 25, 2019 Posted November 25, 2019 Wait and see. To text you, "Hi Baby!" and nothing else sounds as if he was really busy or just kind of a flighty type of person. You did fine texting "Hi babe," back, though.
Author Britney25 Posted November 25, 2019 Author Posted November 25, 2019 Wait and see. To text you, "Hi Baby!" and nothing else sounds as if he was really busy or just kind of a flighty type of person. You did fine texting "Hi babe," back, though. Yes I will wait just I'm getting nervous cuz this is the first time he did this today.
h0000 Posted November 25, 2019 Posted November 25, 2019 To me that sounds like a player, to call you babe after 1 date. But I'd proceed with caution 2
Author Britney25 Posted November 25, 2019 Author Posted November 25, 2019 To me that sounds like a player, to call you babe after 1 date. But I'd proceed with caution He called me baby before we had our date as well, of course sometimes he would say my name but mostly baby.
Author Britney25 Posted November 25, 2019 Author Posted November 25, 2019 But it doesn't bother me he is calling me baby.
h0000 Posted November 25, 2019 Posted November 25, 2019 to me that sounds even more like a player, more more so if you met on an app. I feel he will ask you out in a short notice when time is convenient for him. Met lots of guys like that online. Just my opinion.
fred123 Posted November 25, 2019 Posted November 25, 2019 He called me baby before we had our date as well, of course sometimes he would say my name but mostly baby. is it not creepy or frowned upon to call someone baby before a first date? maybe i should do that if it is ok?
Author Britney25 Posted November 25, 2019 Author Posted November 25, 2019 to me that sounds even more like a player, more more so if you met on an app. I feel he will ask you out in a short notice when time is convenient for him. Met lots of guys like that online. Just my opinion. Well our first date was planned way ahead, so I dont think he will give me a short notice for the second date. But why would he just say hi Baby! And after my reply left it on read and nothing back. If he does want to see me tomorrow and will text me an hour before of course I won't go.
Happy Lemming Posted November 25, 2019 Posted November 25, 2019 When I was dating multiple women, I called them all "Sunshine", that way I didn't screw up and use the wrong name. @Britney25 Instead of responding with a "Hi babe" back, why didn't you ask him "What's up?" or "What's new?" or "How is your Sunday going??" Kind of keeps the conversation going and baits a response. 1
h0000 Posted November 25, 2019 Posted November 25, 2019 If he doesnt put in SOME sort of effort for the 1st date, you wouldnt even go see him, where is his chance to have fun with you later? If he is what I think he is,he will show you some effort at the beginning to lure you in and soon after he will only see you when he's free. Usually it only takes a few weeks. But I'd like to be positive so hope im wrong.
Author Britney25 Posted November 25, 2019 Author Posted November 25, 2019 When I was dating multiple women, I called them all "Sunshine", that way I didn't screw up and use the wrong name. @Britney25 Instead of responding with a "Hi babe" back, why didn't you ask him "What's up?" or "What's new?" or "How is your Sunday going??" Kind of keeps the conversation going and baits a response. Well I didn't put in more energy then he did . Why should I elaborate? I replied with an ! So I gave him the same energy back but I dont feel the need to ask him how are you as before he would text me good morning and then after I replied something more.
Author Britney25 Posted November 25, 2019 Author Posted November 25, 2019 If he doesnt put in SOME sort of effort for the 1st date, you wouldnt even go see him, where is his chance to have fun with you later? If he is what I think he is,he will show you some effort at the beginning to lure you in and soon after he will only see you when he's free. Usually it only takes a few weeks. But I'd like to be positive so hope im wrong. I dont think you understand. We already had our first date on Friday. Today he just texted me hi baby with nothing more after I replied. So technically he should ask me out again for a second date
h0000 Posted November 25, 2019 Posted November 25, 2019 (edited) I do understand. I dont think you understand me. You say you had your first date well planned ahead, so thinking he would always be like that. Im saying he was only putting effort in the beginning to lure you in, doesnt guarantee he will take you seriously. And Im not saying that because he didnt reply to your text. He could be busy. It doesnt mean anything. Im saying that because he called you babe before even met you. That smells player. Dont mean you should dump him. I would just keep that in mind and proceed with caution. Edited November 25, 2019 by h0000 1
Happy Lemming Posted November 25, 2019 Posted November 25, 2019 Well I didn't put in more energy then he did . I replied with an ! So I gave him the same energy back Wow a whole exclamation point... You put in the effort to text a whole additional character. With a "tit for tat" attitude, he probably didn't feel you were worth further effort, (at this point) and he continued on with his day. 2
Author Britney25 Posted November 25, 2019 Author Posted November 25, 2019 Wow a whole exclamation point... You put in the effort to text a whole additional character. With a "tit for tat" attitude, he probably didn't feel you were worth further effort, (at this point) and he continued on with his day. I'm sorry but dont you understand he didnt look at my text until 3 hours later?!! Why are you hanging on my reply? I replied excitingly. All he said was hi. Not hi how are you? He's the one not continuing.
Author Britney25 Posted November 25, 2019 Author Posted November 25, 2019 I do understand. I dont think you understand me. You say you had your first date well planned ahead, so thinking he would always be like that. Im saying he was only putting effort in the beginning to lure you in, doesnt guarantee he will take you seriously. And Im not saying that because he didnt reply to your text. He could be busy. It doesnt mean anything. Im saying that because he called you babe before even met you. That smells player. Dont mean you should dump him. I would just keep that in mind and proceed with caution. Ok sorry now I understand what you're saying. On the date we did heavily make out with tongue but the chemistry was very strong. I couldn't help it.
Optimystic Posted November 25, 2019 Posted November 25, 2019 To me that sounds like a player, to call you babe after 1 date. But I'd proceed with caution IA, this is a huge red flag. No telling how many other "babies" he has..
Happy Lemming Posted November 25, 2019 Posted November 25, 2019 I replied excitingly. But you did nothing to show interest... It's like if you are at work, and someone says "Good Morning"; you say "Good Morning" back. You acknowledge them, but don't really care to talk to them any further.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 25, 2019 Posted November 25, 2019 Eh, a guy throwing around "baby" when you barely know him has never been a positive sign for me. That is telling. I have yet to meet a man with gentlemanly characteristics and more sincere intentions who pulls out "baby" this early on. You can see if he tries to continue the conversation, or you could simply ask him how he's doing, but I don't think I'd put all my eggs in this basket. 2
Versacehottie Posted November 25, 2019 Posted November 25, 2019 I agree with Happy Lemming. I think he got bored by your text. His was an opening you did nothing with it, exclamation mark doesn't really count. It's all boring AF. That said, my guess is that his intention either before he went on first date with you or SINCE he has been on a date with you are of low interest. No one is a mind reader but it looks like that to me.
stillafool Posted November 25, 2019 Posted November 25, 2019 IA, this is a huge red flag. No telling how many other "babies" he has.. This is what my ex player brother would do. He called all of the girls "baby" to keep from mixing up their names. He actually told me this.
Author Britney25 Posted November 25, 2019 Author Posted November 25, 2019 I agree with Happy Lemming. I think he got bored by your text. His was an opening you did nothing with it, exclamation mark doesn't really count. It's all boring AF. That said, my guess is that his intention either before he went on first date with you or SINCE he has been on a date with you are of low interest. No one is a mind reader but it looks like that to me. Did I mention we had oral sex after?
Author Britney25 Posted November 25, 2019 Author Posted November 25, 2019 I agree with Happy Lemming. I think he got bored by your text. His was an opening you did nothing with it, exclamation mark doesn't really count. It's all boring AF. That said, my guess is that his intention either before he went on first date with you or SINCE he has been on a date with you are of low interest. No one is a mind reader but it looks like that to me. So why keep texting me then? He should just ghost. Also he doesnt live in my state. He is here on buisness.
stillafool Posted November 25, 2019 Posted November 25, 2019 Did I mention we had oral sex after? What does that have to do with anything?
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