BrianK Posted November 21, 2019 Posted November 21, 2019 So I recently got a husky and during walking him ran into a girl that also walks her dog. Not just here and there the odd time either, we seemed to run into each other every single time. She's attractive but initially I didn't think much of it as it was really just about the dogs as ours liked to play with each other. Then we began meeting up at the same time after work to walk them (with other people usually) and then she asked to exchange numbers so we could meet up at the same time over the weekends at the dog park which we've done just the two of us. I am single, she's single, same age. Now I know how this sounds but she hasn't really given me any blatant signs that she's looking for more than a dog walking partner. We've been at this for about 3 weeks. I have a good sense of when a woman likes me but this one I have no clue. On the other hand ALSO, walking my dog I run into multiple women and I've found it a great way to meet them, so the absolute last thing I need is a girl-friend with me 90% of the time. I guess I'll just keep doing it until I know for sure but figured I'd throw it out there to see what other thought or if anyone else had been through anything similar.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 21, 2019 Posted November 21, 2019 Why not ask her out on an actual date if you're interested in her? Then you will know.
Author BrianK Posted November 21, 2019 Author Posted November 21, 2019 Why not ask her out on an actual date if you're interested in her? Then you will know. I don't want to get denied and then have to avoid her
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted November 21, 2019 Posted November 21, 2019 I don't want to get denied and then have to avoid her We don't have a crystal ball . I think you have to take the risk if you want to get to know her on a deeper level, sans dogs. The fact that she asked for your number is a good sign. Most women wouldn't want to send the "wrong message" to a man they were not into by doing that. 1
ajequals Posted November 21, 2019 Posted November 21, 2019 she sounds interested to me, ask her if she would like to go to dinner , if she declines it doesn't mean you don't have to see her. time spent together makes all the difference
schlumpy Posted November 21, 2019 Posted November 21, 2019 On the other hand ALSO, walking my dog I run into multiple women and I've found it a great way to meet them, so the absolute last thing I need is a girl-friend with me 90% of the time. Then why worry about her? She doesn't fit into your plan. 1
Mr. Lucky Posted November 21, 2019 Posted November 21, 2019 I have a good sense of when a woman likes me On the surface, not sure I agree with this self-assessment . She's managed to show up at the same place you do on multiple occasions AND has asked for your number? Not sure what else she has to do. For you, assuming you're interested in a relationship, nothing ventured, nothing gained... Mr. Lucky 1
greymatter Posted November 21, 2019 Posted November 21, 2019 “On the other hand ALSO, walking my dog I run into multiple women and I've found it a great way to meet them, so the absolute last thing I need is a girl-friend with me 90% of the time.” If you are still looking to meet other women and aren’t truly interested in her, and don’t want a girlfriend to ruin your chances with other women, then what does it matter what is going on? Are you just seeking an ego boost from her?
smackie9 Posted November 21, 2019 Posted November 21, 2019 I don't want to get denied and then have to avoid her Then you never ask her out. Asking people out is all about taking risks. If you don't take risks then there will be very little gained in your ability to date someone you are interested in. Confidence wins the girl, and I can't stress that enough. Think about it....why would she give you her number? Obviously she likes you enough to do so. If she didn't then no one's number would ever be exchanged, she would just kept up the pleasantries on your walks. So what if she rejects you. Doesn't mean you have to crawl under a rock to hide from her. Just don't give a flimm-flamm, and continue on enjoying her company as per usual. Like you said, you meet plenty of other women on your walks, that means plenty of other opportunity elsewhere. Change your attitude, change your life. 1
vla1120 Posted November 21, 2019 Posted November 21, 2019 By your mention of not needing a "girl-friend" with you, I assume you meant a friend who is a girl because it might interfere with your chances of meeting other women? That's understandable. Just limit your interactions to a couple times a week. I suspect she is interested since she turns up quite a bit when you happen to be walking your dog. If you enjoy spending time with her, ask her out. Even a "no" isn't the end of the world. You could both agree to just remain dog-walking buddies since your dogs get along. If it gets awkward or you decide you don't want to walk with her all the time, just change up your schedule a bit.
Grey40 Posted November 22, 2019 Posted November 22, 2019 You're not as great at reading the singals as you think. This girl has pretty much done a lot to show her interest. She's showing up every time you do, wants to see you on the weekends at the park and volunteered her phone number to you. She's probably up every night wondering why the hell you haven't asker her out yet. If you don't do it soon she's going to just stop talking to you altogether probably, she's going to feel rejected. Also, grow some balls man. Worried that you'll get denied and have to see her again? Who cares? There's nothing wrong with showing interest, if she says no, no big deal. Just act like nothing happened. She's just one of many women as you said. 1
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