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This guy is an idiot and has zero understanding of women. Women want to be chAsed, perused, courted. Once you are exclusive , then yes there needs to be more equality to both persons putting out effort.

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mortensorchid Established Member

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He is saying he is not interested in you. He may apply this rule to all women he encounters, but a man who wants to be with you will make an effort of some kind. He may say a lot of excuses (I'm shy, I don't want a relationship, I don't have time, I need to focus on work, etc.), but chances are he is not like this with his career prospects or other things he is involved in. If you told him he would have millions of dollars if he calls you back, he would do it in a second.

 

Move on. You can do better.

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HopefullyLove Established Member

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This guy is an idiot and has zero understanding of women. Women want to be chAsed, perused, courted. Once you are exclusive , then yes there needs to be more equality to both persons putting out effort.

 

Yes! he is a bonehead, not sure if it is because he is a police officer lol.

thefooloftheyear Established Member

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Too many generalizations here....

 

Couple of things....

 

Sure...some guys don't like chasing women down...Some women feel like if a guy isn't "moving mountains" he's not interested or worth her time...You know what?? That's horse shyt…

 

Some guys are like this for a couple of reasons and not all of them are because he's being a dick...For one, maybe he's just busy...My life has calmed a bit as I have gotten older, but for a good chunk of my adult life, I was very driven and would never have the time, desire or energy to chase down women...Tt would have to be the thing where there was no expectation of constant contact...Doesn't mean that the guy is an a-hole...

 

Another thing...Some women, unfortunately, think nothing of making guys jump through hoops for them, even if they themselves aren't all in...Wanna end that nonsense game? don't bury your head up her ass for no reason...Let her do the lifting...You will find out early the game players from the serious...The game players go away if you don't play along..

 

Thirdly, and this is borderline jerky...Guys with a lot of options may not want to chase because they have been conditioned not to have to chase...

 

All I am saying is a guy saying he doesn't chase isn't always as much of a red flag as people are making it out to be....It could be, but not necessarily so..Cops are generally cocky and have a lot of women chasing them to get in on their pension or they just may be uniform groupies,..They also have horrible track records for marriages and relationships in general ...Bear that in mind, btw..

 

TFY

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SumGuy Established Member

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I agree.

 

I feel cared about when a guy IÂ’m seeing takes a little time out his day to call or text. It doesnÂ’t mean we have to talk for hours.

 

Now that I think about it, he told me early on he doesnÂ’t like being on the phone and he is an introvert.

 

I’m not a fan of being on the phone until we get to know each other (maybe half dozen dates) and an introvert. Neither are an excuse or reason for him never reaching out.

 

You can do better.

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Grumpybutfun Established Member

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I don’t chase women is code for I’ve been hurt before so now I need my ego stroked by having women chase me. Don’t bother. This one needs therapy, not a gf.

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elaine567 Established Member

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I don’t chase women is code for I’ve been hurt before so now I need my ego stroked by having women chase me. Don’t bother. This one needs therapy, not a gf.

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Agreed.

That was my thoughts too he is likely a bitter 50 yo guy who now subscribes to the emotionally unavailable club.

 

He told me that he "does not chase women" and is not my "gay best friend"

 

He is also too old for you and kisses like a horny teenager.

Next!

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SumGuy Established Member

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Agreed.

That was my thoughts too he is likely a bitter 50 yo guy who now subscribes to the emotionally unavailable club....

 

Likely. A good way to avoid rejection, how can you be rejected if you never wanted them :). After a couple years of this he can then talk about how awful modern western women are then join the MGTOW club.

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Grumpybutfun Established Member

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Likely. A good way to avoid rejection, how can you be rejected if you never wanted them :). After a couple years of this he can then talk about how awful modern western women are then join the MGTOW club.

 

Sadly, you are probably more on the nose than you think!

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Ruby Slippers Established Member

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This guy is a dud. Next!

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Inspire Established Member

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Honestly, I don't think that term means what he thinks it means lmao.

 

Chasing women refers to a man going out of his way for a women that isn't putting up some, a lot or equal effort.

 

What he is doing is just saying I am not willing to put out the effort, if you want to be with me, this is how it is but don't expect me to go out of my way for you. If I want to see you I'll ask, if you ask I might be inclined if I feel like it.

 

See how selfish and one sided that is. He is either a total jerk or just not into you.

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HopefullyLove Established Member

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I don’t chase women is code for I’ve been hurt before so now I need my ego stroked by having women chase me. Don’t bother. This one needs therapy, not a gf.

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seriously!

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HopefullyLove Established Member

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Agreed.

That was my thoughts too he is likely a bitter 50 yo guy who now subscribes to the emotionally unavailable club.

 

 

 

He is also too old for you and kisses like a horny teenager.

Next!

lol yeah that was bad.

Likely. A good way to avoid rejection, how can you be rejected if you never wanted them :). After a couple years of this he can then talk about how awful modern western women are then join the MGTOW club.

those pesky mgtow guys lol

Honestly, I don't think that term means what he thinks it means lmao.

 

Chasing women refers to a man going out of his way for a women that isn't putting up some, a lot or equal effort.

 

What he is doing is just saying I am not willing to put out the effort, if you want to be with me, this is how it is but don't expect me to go out of my way for you. If I want to see you I'll ask, if you ask I might be inclined if I feel like it.

 

See how selfish and one sided that is. He is either a total jerk or just not into you.

 

Yeah he is a character for sure.

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Chasing women refers to a man going out of his way for a women that isn't putting up some, a lot or equal effort.

 

 

I'm seeing a lot of women doing the chasing these days. Men seem to not have to chase too much anymore.

spiderowl Established Member

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He has pretty much said up front that he will not be making any effort for you. Whatever reasoning is behind this in his part, you deserve better.

 

You are doing the chasing at the moment and he is leaving you to do that. He can't be bothered.

 

It could be that he is insecure and needs women to chase him. It could also be that he has been unsuccessful with women in the past and so has 'given up' making any effort.

 

Another possibility is that he is using pick-up artist techniques: by saying he does not chase he might think he is making himself more desirable and that you will rise to the challenge and chase him - which you are doing.

 

Whatever he is doing, it does not seem to be of benefit to you. He sounds negative, bored and lazy.

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Allupinnit Established Member

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Oh please. If he were smitten he'd be all up your a$$. They always are in the beginning.

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CollinW Established Member

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This guy is an idiot and has zero understanding of women. Women want to be chAsed, perused, courted. Once you are exclusive , then yes there needs to be more equality to both persons putting out effort.

He clearly doesn't give a damn what women want, as he shouldn't. He cares about what he wants and lives life on his own terms. She can either adopt or keep it moving.

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Zinging Member

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He clearly doesn't give a damn what women want, as he shouldn't. He cares about what he wants and lives life on his own terms. She can either adopt or keep it moving.

 

Well and good if he was living his own life, and girls were interjecting themselves into it of their own volition. Lol.

 

But when a guy willingly enters the mutual-sport of planned outings & dates, and then refuses to participate in any of the generic rules, even with genuine partners who're looking for a good time... well...

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