Belle23 Posted November 18, 2019 Posted November 18, 2019 Do your exes check your social media (I.e., watching social media stories)? My one ex never misses a story. If I post a selfie, he’s the first to watch it. I even caught him watching my stories on the his wedding day! What are they so interested in?
Cersei Posted November 18, 2019 Posted November 18, 2019 No because I block therm. Don't need them knowing my business!
Mrin Posted November 18, 2019 Posted November 18, 2019 I guess some do. I very rarely block exes. I haven't block a significant ex. They routinely check my social media. But then again I'm on good terms with them. Doesn't bother me. They're just curious I imagine. 1
basil67 Posted November 18, 2019 Posted November 18, 2019 Given that the whole point of having someone on your social media is to allow access and view updates from each other, this seems like an odd question. Do you also see their stories? If not, why have them as friends? 1
ExpatInItaly Posted November 18, 2019 Posted November 18, 2019 No, because I am not friends with any exes on social media.
LivingWaterPlease Posted November 18, 2019 Posted November 18, 2019 How do you know he reads your stories and how do you know he read it on his wedding day? 1
Mrin Posted November 18, 2019 Posted November 18, 2019 Given that the whole point of having someone on your social media is to allow access and view updates from each other, this seems like an odd question. Do you also see their stories? If not, why have them as friends? Sure. I seldom seek them out but if they come into my feed I see them. In fact just the other day one of my exes announced her engagement. We messaged back and forth a few time sharing wedding plans. I do recognize I am abnormal in this regard. I'm on good terms with all of my exes. I guess the other thing that makes me somewhat unusual is that when an ex becomes and ex I'm done done with them. No chance at any other feelings others than friendship - with the exception of one particular ex. But she's an unusual case. I happen to also be marrying her. Lol.
JuneGirl Posted November 18, 2019 Posted November 18, 2019 Yes. After I broke up with him, on social media he kept updating his status to clearly post break up lyrics every week, sometimes everyday. Sometimes he would block and then unblock me, depending on his feels. Then I blocked him for good. 1
Mr. Lucky Posted November 18, 2019 Posted November 18, 2019 What are they so interested in? In monitoring his activity on your feed, aren’t you doing the same dance he is? Why not block him, especially now he’s married, and be done with it? Mr. Lucky
Author Belle23 Posted November 18, 2019 Author Posted November 18, 2019 I’ve never blocked exes because I’m on good terms with most of them. I unfriended one ex, but not block. I wasn’t really checking to see if he was checking my stuff, but I noticed his name and sudden interest in my life. I was just curious what makes exes do it.
basil67 Posted November 19, 2019 Posted November 19, 2019 I was just curious what makes exes do it. Both hubby and I have an ex each on social media. We allow them into our feeds because we didn't break up on bad terms and remain distantly interested in what they are doing as we would be with any other friend. We see them get new partners, marry, have children and are happy for them. Being interested in what an ex is doing is hardly orbiting. Orbiters are those who hang around waiting for an opportunity to make a move. 1
Kitty Tantrum Posted November 21, 2019 Posted November 21, 2019 I'm friends with my ex-husband on Facebook because he's my kids' dad and it's pretty much the only way I communicate with him. I mostly ignore him and don't follow his posts, but he'll like or comment on pretty much anything I post. He also wanted to come to my wedding, and threw a little fit when I told him no, that would be weird. I don't get it. I want to have as little to do with him as possible, but he wants to be all friendly and stuff - even though he was REALLY volatile when we split. It's uncomfortable. In his case, I think he doesn't like to come to terms with the fact that he lost part of his sphere of influence. I honestly don't think it's because he'd want to get back together. He just likes to imagine that he's an important person to everyone. Narcissist.
TheFinalWord Posted November 27, 2019 Posted November 27, 2019 (edited) Do your exes check your social media (I.e., watching social media stories)? My one ex never misses a story. If I post a selfie, he’s the first to watch it. I even caught him watching my stories on the his wedding day! What are they so interested in? I used to notice they watched my stories, but once they figured out you can see who watches, they stopped Before that, I didn't think they cared about me or followed me. But once I found that they were watching my stories, it made me realize exes check up, maybe moreso if they're uncertain if the break up was the right move. People often want to see if you found someone better, if your life looks happy, etc. We all kind of wonder from time to time, what if you tried to make it work, or what not. But, with one of these women, she watched my stuff so much, I reached out just because I thought maybe she wanted to be friends (she ended things), or even try again, but felt embarrassed since she broke it off. Well, she barely responded and doesn't seem interested in talking even as friends. So, try not to read more into it than them wanting to see who is doing better, or curious. Not that they are still interested or anything. But this does get into the psychology of why we keep exes on social media. Especially if there is no interaction. You don't talk or interact, but both are on each other's friends list. Even creepier if that's the case and they watch your stories. To me, it indicates both are leaving the possibility of a door open. In some cases, a lot of scenarios would have to occur before a door would open. But if both were on friendly terms and truly 100% over each other, they would have no problem interacting on social media on occasion, because both would know you're only friends, no romantic interest at all. So, I do think it's a way to keep the door open, even if it's 99.999% closed. Edited November 27, 2019 by TheFinalWord
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