mopar crazy Posted October 2, 2005 Posted October 2, 2005 My brother has a co-worker that is a little flirtacious. His co-worker is a MM and I know his W, talk to her all the time but we don't hang out, only if she is at my brother and sister-in-law's parties, ect. There are several times this MM would flirt but I wouldn't do it back, and it honestly made me feel bad for his W. There would be things he would say like: "Your headlights are on." and he wasn't talking about my car lights, if ya know what I mean. He would always come up real close to me, right in my face where we could almost touch and just look me right in the eyes and I would either turn away, or push him away. One day I said something (can't remember what it was about) and he came up to me (real close, face to face again) and put his hand down by his crotch and said "I know where I can stick this." of course, I walked away and told him he was a big perv. The other day H and I were there picking up my car and this MM had the fly swatter killing flies. I leaned over the desk to lay my check on the desk and he swatted me in the a$$ w/ the fly swatter. I looked at H thinking "OMgosh, he is going to be pi$$ed!" H didn't say a word, but I could tell he was pi$$ed. Has this MM gone too far w/ his flirting? Or do you think it's just harmless flirting. I know I wouldn't like it if my H was talking to another woman like this, especailly since he has had an A in the past during our seperation. I feel so sorry for this man's W. I am sure I am not the only one he probably flirts w/. I can't really avoid this MM b/c he is my brother's friend and he is usually at their parties (but he doesn't talk to me when his W is around) when we go. Also, this guy is my mechanic. It's my brother's shop, but this guy is the one that usually works on my car or H's truck. Has his flirting gone too far? I honestly refuse to find anothe mechanic who is going to rip me off so to stop taking my car to my brother is not an option. I don't take breaks there anymore so I don't have to worry about that. Do I just let him have his fun and flirt but not do it back, b/c I don't.
whichwayisup Posted October 2, 2005 Posted October 2, 2005 I can't believe your H didn't say a word! I'm sure his wife knows he's a pig, probably bugs the crap out of her too. Men like that seem to look at women just as sexual objects, and I'm sure he makes comments like that to his wife too. Flirting is fine, but his way is TOO sexual and he seems to invade your personal space. I'd tell him to stop it if he comes that close to you, especially with a fly swatter. If you play back in any way, he'll keep on doing it.
Author mopar crazy Posted October 2, 2005 Author Posted October 2, 2005 I leaned over the desk to lay my check on the desk and he swatted me in the a$$ w/ the fly swatter. LMBO! I didn't realize I put "in" instead of "on", that looks bad, lol WWIU, I don't know what he could of said when he did that. Would your H have said something? Oh, his W knows he is a "pig." She has to tell him all the time to shut up b/c he is always talking nasty when we are hanging out. Sometimes the flirting is fun, but when he gets in my personal space, that is when I become uncomfortable.
whichwayisup Posted October 2, 2005 Posted October 2, 2005 My hubby would probably say something like, come on, show some respect! Or something to that nature.
sugar-rae Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 I think this guy is a pig and if any guy EVER did that to me I'd beat the he!! out of him! As for your H, mine has always let me fight my own battles. Not that I prefer it that way all the time. If I was in the position you were with my H there, I would have expected him to take up for me, not that he would have...any more than you said your's did. Your H might have thought you could handle it yourself. That's what my H always thinks. Grr!!!!!!!!!!! I guess the age of chivalry is out!
Author mopar crazy Posted October 4, 2005 Author Posted October 4, 2005 I think this guy is a pig and if any guy EVER did that to me I'd beat the he!! out of him! As for your H, mine has always let me fight my own battles. Not that I prefer it that way all the time. If I was in the position you were with my H there, I would have expected him to take up for me, not that he would have...any more than you said your's did. Your H might have thought you could handle it yourself. That's what my H always thinks. Grr!!!!!!!!!!! I guess the age of chivalry is out! Hey S!!! I have been trying to get your email off my computer but something is wrong w/ it, big time. I don't know if it's my incredimail or what. I got on it last night and it was sending emails that were last months! I don't know what happened. Since I couldn't get out of that ( I tried) it wouldn't let me get any recieved emails. I am really not avoiding you, ok? I will try again 2nite. If it doesn't work I am going to scream. Ok, for my post, yea, the guy is a pig. He has a different personality that is for sure. Oh believe me, I have pushed and shoved him around for things he has said or did that I did not agree w/. As for beating the s*** out of him, I don't want to go to jail, lol.
sugar-rae Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 Ok, for my post, yea, the guy is a pig. He has a different personality that is for sure. Oh believe me, I have pushed and shoved him around for things he has said or did that I did not agree w/. As for beating the s*** out of him, I don't want to go to jail, lol. No, but you can threaten him with jail, if he doesn't keep his nasty paws off of you. I can't stand guys like that! I get so mad when I hear stuff like this. Men are pigs! Luckily for them around here, if they even think about it I givedthem a look that says, I'll carve your hand off at the wrist! (lol) It works.
New_Wife Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 You assume a new mechanic will rip you off. But tell me this, is it worth your self esteem to save a few bucks? If you simply cannot find your way to go somewhere else, I suggest you talk to your brother. Simply and clearly state that this guy is acting inappropriately, give examples, and ask him to have a "man-to-man" with him. If that doesn't work, next time he does something, say in a very calm but forceful voice "That is not acceptable, and you need to stop." If he tries to play cute, just repeat yourself "That is not acceptable, and you need to stop." Eventually, he will get bored with no response.
sugar-rae Posted October 4, 2005 Posted October 4, 2005 You assume a new mechanic will rip you off. But tell me this, is it worth your self esteem to save a few bucks? If you simply cannot find your way to go somewhere else, I suggest you talk to your brother. Simply and clearly state that this guy is acting inappropriately, give examples, and ask him to have a "man-to-man" with him. If that doesn't work, next time he does something, say in a very calm but forceful voice "That is not acceptable, and you need to stop." If he tries to play cute, just repeat yourself "That is not acceptable, and you need to stop." Eventually, he will get bored with no response. I like New Wife's idea, J. Very good advice there!
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