ConfusedCutie Posted October 2, 2005 Posted October 2, 2005 Hi, I am a 20 yr old college student, and I REALLY like this guy (yeah, I know, I know, this sort of sounds childish). He is smart, and funny, has an aweome personality, and he's really cute. And I think he likes me, and som do my friends. The problem is, he is sending totally mixed messages. Here, let me explain: We sort of liked each other for a couple of weeks, then, by some strange coincidence, we got randomly paired together to work on a group project. We got to talking a lot....I mean, we found out all sorts of stuff about each other. We hung out for a day, and went to a movie together. We have a few classes together, and he is constantly trying to get my attention now. He used to be really quiet in class, and now he NEVER Shuts up, and he's super sweet to me, and he is starting to be nice to my friends. We are always making eye contact and flirting a lot. He talked about going to the beach and watching the sunset, showing me around town (i'm new to the area), Seeing more movies, my ideas on relationships, etc. He even acted a bit jealous/put off when other guys came up and chatted with me when we were sitting together in the studio. And, one of the first thing he asked me was a question about a picture of a male friend I had hanging on my wall (I am not in a romantic relationship with the said guy in the photo). All of my friends think that this guy is crazy for me, but I am confused now. The thing is, He really hasn't talked to me much at all the past two days, and we were working in the same studio together and everything. I am always friendly towards him, but he seems to be really shy, or maybe uninterested. Now I am unsure if he still likes me/or if he ever did like me. I don't think I did anything to scare him off. Please help, I am so very confused. I do really like this guy, but if he does not share the same feelings, I don't want to embarass myself or waste time on a lost cause. We do have a really large project due on monday, however, would the stress of that cause his flirting to die down? Like I said, I really do like this guy, but he is really confusing me right now. Please Help!
elijahBailey Posted October 2, 2005 Posted October 2, 2005 wow! there could be a zillion and one reasons why he went into hibernation mode. But I think you're lookin' at things from a wrong angle. I always belief if you have feelings for someone, the feelings don't just go south all of a sudden. All the things you described (and of course I assume you described them accurately) is more than enough indication that he's into you. You can't expect a shy guy to suddenly put on a lion's clothing and masquerade around like he's got a lot of balls. He's made his move, so if you like him, go get him. Since he's the shy type, maybe he ran out of balls when you didn't show him sufficient interest? I dunno? Btw, this is the 21st century, so screw the <girls can't move the first move> thingy, know what I mean? And I personally find girls who make the first move pretty appealing.
fusangite Posted October 2, 2005 Posted October 2, 2005 I agree with Elijah. The ball has ended up in your court.
whichwayisup Posted October 2, 2005 Posted October 2, 2005 I do really like this guy, but if he does not share the same feelings, I don't want to embarass myself or waste time on a lost cause Don't just put it on him, YOU need to tell him what you feel. I mean, maybe from where he sits, he sees the picture, wonders and then thinks, oh well, she's taken...Backs off abit. 2 days isn't anything to worry about, but if he still is acting differently in a week, then GO talk to him! If you like him and want him then ask him out again. Tell him how you feel. Many men can't talk about how they feel, so you have to be the one to make the first move. Hopefully he'll open up with you. Ask him to be honest and tell him that you need to know what he feels about you - even if it isn't the answer you're looking for you and it hurts you, you have to know. Good luck!
dreamsite23 Posted October 2, 2005 Posted October 2, 2005 The thing is, He really hasn't talked to me much at all the past two days, and we were working in the same studio together and everything. I am always friendly towards him, but he seems to be really shy, or maybe uninterested. Now I am unsure if he still likes me/or if he ever did like me. I don't think I did anything to scare him off. Please help, I am so very confused. I do really like this guy, but if he does not share the same feelings, I don't want to embarass myself or waste time on a lost cause. We do have a really large project due on monday, however, would the stress of that cause his flirting to die down? Like I said, I really do like this guy, but he is really confusing me right now. Please Help! Hey confused cutie, You sound like you are in my situation as well. I like this guy too and I think he likes me, my friends say in their OP (own opinion) that he does like me, but I think he doesn't want to ruin the friendship. I don't want that either. My friendship with him is so important to me. Here's my background on the guy I've known for 3 years. If anyone can give ME advice I would appreciate it as well! I met him at prom in 2002, and since then we have been friends. However, last year things changed. He started asking me over to his house to hang out and he even made me french toast, and his sister came in saying that he never did that unless it was someone special. I was really flattered. at he Never did that to anyone unless they were special. Then when we all hung out at main event, he sat next to me and put his head on my shoulder. We kissed in the parking lot for a long time, umm he swung me in the air when we got to my house. He stayed with me at my house up in Houston while my parents were here in Fort Worth. We went bowling, and watched movies. I buried my head in his shirt cause we were watching Gladiator and he started putting his arm around me, but hesistated, and then when i got up to check my email, its like he scooted over cause when i came back to sit next to him on the couch, we were closer than before. We spend a lot of time together just playing video games, catching up on stuff. This past week we were talking online and we were just talking, and then I mentioned saying "do you miss hanging out with all of us?" (meaning his friends and mine). He said, "yes". What really surprised me was that he texted me the next day when I got out of class, and asked if I had eaten yet and if i wanted to get something to eat with him? Of course I said sure, and so we met up and had lunch. We talked the whole time which is kind of surprising to me cause when I'm online with the guy I don't talk much with him (maybe i get bored idk), but just now i like talking to him more. But, i have to wonder Did he ask me out on that date or was it just to "hang out" again? Our other friends well they moved to other places, so basically it's just Me and Him. We tend to continue talking incessantly. Like yesterday we were constantly texting each other and he was waiting for a call, and then I said, "Well then I guess we better stop texting so you can get that call." he said, "haha, i guess." Then he continued the conversation and we didn't stop texting. It's like Did he want to continue talking? I'm guessing he did, and here's some more little hints I guess. It was back it was like january, and him and I were talking and then I said, "Was there ever a point in time you liked me?" get this this is the STRANGE and Confusing part: I saw him typing out a message because you have a preference to see if your friend is typing, well anyway it was 3 MINUTES later that it took him to say a simple sentence like this one: I like you as a friend". I Mean HELLO, if you DON'T Like someone as more, guys/girls would automatically say that in like 3 seconds flat. But 3 MINUTES? I don't know, it's just he and i flirt a lot even online, which is pretty strange. Everytime we see each other we hug for the longest time, and he rubs my back and well i don't know if he is giving me signals or not, but it's just crazy. And then like a few weeks back, we were talking again online and we had talked for maybe 3 hours and then I said, "Well i better get going i have to head to the DPS." I thought that was the end of the conversation, but turns out, he said, "oh ok. Why you goin?" Did he sound disappointed that i was ending the conversation so early?" So I stayed and we talked for another 2 hours. This guy is so nice, cute, fun to be with...problem is he smokes. BUT, he asks first off when he is around me, if he can smoke? I don't want to be rude and say No. I don't mind if he does, i've kissed him twice, and so it doesn't really bother me. But, he's the kind of guy who will always be there for you, to listen, to provide feedback,and is protective. He already said that he is bad for me, and I know it too. Just from all these little things he does for me and from what my friends say, we both secretly like each other, but don't want to ruin the friendship. We always make eye contact when talking, and everytime I see him we hug for a long time, and smile. Sometimes we let our hands linger behind each other's back or waist or w/e. Oh and he talks a lot. Oh and when I talk about other guys, then how come if this guy likes me he is pushing me to hang out with other guys, and get to know them better? I don't know what to do. In your case: I agree with whichwayisup- Men can't open up as much to their feelings towards a woman, like women can do with men. It's what we call, "Mystery". Every woman wonders what is going on in their crushes head, "Does he like me, or not?" "Should I make the first move?" You know all those questions arise unless you do something about it. If he hasn't come around after 5 days then I would go up to him and just talk to him. Be straight up about it, and if he feels a little tort with the conversation, then I would back off and not waste my time on him. But again, like whichwayisup said, he probably thinks you are taken cause you have a pic of a guy in your locker. But, yeah just talk to him see what's up? Talk to him about the project, which I hope you do well in. Good Luck!
Author ConfusedCutie Posted October 3, 2005 Author Posted October 3, 2005 hey, thanks for all of your perspectives on this. He seemed in a real rush to get somewhere today. I am not sure what is up with him. I will try and talk to him tomorrow and see what's going on. Wish me luck! -ConfusedCutie
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