ZA Dater Posted November 8, 2019 Posted November 8, 2019 I decided a few weeks ago to completely change how I did OLD and the results have been different but I also made a conscious decision to adjust how I related to dating and how I viewed it. What did I do? In short I decided to not take it too seriously, decided not to heap the pressure on my shoulders when I go on a date, decided to meet a variety of people and most important I had no expectations at all. My view is I don't need a girlfriend so that's helped me take a much lighter approach to the whole thing. Met about 4 people and chatting to some others but again chatting to them isn't something I dedicate time to, if she doesn't chat to me today, then so be it, wait till tomorrow, in short I am no longer running after women. Is there any potential, not really, sure some were very nice but none realty elicited any feeling in me that said I should see them again. Do I feel bad about this, not really its just how it is I guess. In short I feel more at ease with the whole rejection thing because I don't really need to date, much like I don't need to each chocolate. I still do hope I do meet someone who really makes me go wow and gives me that feeling I have had before but if I don't that's ok because I have at least got to experience that once. I have mixed the dates up, coffee dates, activity dates, lunches, bit of everything really. One wanted to invite me back but I didn't feel comfortable with her or find her particularly attractive. So yes I am taking the advice received here on board. 2
chillii Posted November 8, 2019 Posted November 8, 2019 Well , said it before say it again, you certainly manage to meet them and at least get dates, that in itself is a pretty big thing. lf there's anything in the numbers game stuff everyone talks about, only a matter of time before someone mutual comes along at this rate.
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