Brokenheartedman12 Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 So I met this girl on tinder, we’ve been talking and followed each other on the other media’s, we live fairly close but yet we never met before. Now she still follows me on Instagram but I guess she updated her account cause our messages deleted and I found her again while swiping. I asked her when she feels better ( she just had surgery this May sound like excuse but there was proof on her media she wasn’t lying Lol) if she’d be interested in hanging out and she said yeah! Does she actually mean she wants to hang? Is she not interested if she updated her tinder? Or is it ok cause she still follows and talks to me on the other media’s? I already like this girl for some reason *
planb1973 Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 Stop chit chatting with her on social media! Ask her on a date, not a hang out. Choose a time and place. Anything other than a yes is a no. 2
Flame Aura Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 Why are you wasting your time with pointless chit chat and following each other etc? People go on Tinder to meet other people, not find new pen pals. Not sure how surgery from May stops her from going on a date unless she has not left the house in 6 months. And asking 'to hang out when you feel better' is so cringe.. what does hang out mean anyway? It's something teenagers in school use. Are you a man or a boy? As mentioned ask her on a date on a specific day. If she declines, NEXT her. 2
PRW Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 what does hang out mean anyway? It's something teenagers in school use. I always imagine 3 dorky guys on a couch in the basement playing video games. Are you a man or a boy? The use of "like", "been talking", and hang out tells me "boy". It is the same pattern I see over in Reddit in www.reddit.com/r/dating where the majority age range is 17-mid 20's. I've been spending a lot of time over there since traffic here is kind of slow in the categories that interest me. 1
Author Brokenheartedman12 Posted November 6, 2019 Author Posted November 6, 2019 I always imagine 3 dorky guys on a couch in the basement playing video games. The use of "like", "been talking", and hang out tells me "boy". It is the same pattern I see over in Reddit in www.reddit.com/r/dating where the majority age range is 17-mid 20's. I've been spending a lot of time over there since traffic here is kind of slow in the categories that interest me. Lol ouch I will ask on a date lol! But wisdom teeth removal no fun ik I had it done last week so eating is a no rn for her I’ll be a little more agressive but I’m trying not to be pushy so I said hang out lol I never met before sooo chat on media is only way rn until we go out?
PRW Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 Lol ouch I will ask on a date lol! But wisdom teeth removal no fun ik I had it done last week so eating is a no rn for her I’ll be a little more agressive but I’m trying not to be pushy so I said hang out lol I never met before sooo chat on media is only way rn until we go out?Lol No worry. Don't be timid about being pushy. Don't be a "dik" of course, but be confident,...as if you expect her to go, and figure there is no reason she wouldn't. Social media is just as bad as texting. It will only work against you. It is actually better to let her wonder where you are and what you are doing than to always know what you are doing and where you are because you update her everyday. Mods have given me crap about posting links to videos but if you go to YouTube and search for these two titles it would serve you well to watch them. Too Much Texting Lowers AttractionAvoiding Unnecessary Texting I also have a list of 10 things that women hate that another guy I ran across wrote. You should pay attention to them: Asking for permission.Being indecisive and expecting her to make the decisions.Telling her about your feelings and how your exes took advantage of you, mistreated you etc.Asking her about the relationship status. Anything like "Do we have a relationship?", "Can you be my girlfriend?" etc.Texting back and forth with no plans.Expecting her to be your mama or your therapist, and vice versa.Calling her before the date "we still on for this date?", "are you sure you're coming?"Telling her you love her on your first dates.Accepting "maybe" dates.Tolerating disrespectful and flaky behavior.
Author Brokenheartedman12 Posted November 6, 2019 Author Posted November 6, 2019 Lol No worry. Don't be timid about being pushy. Don't be a "dik" of course, but be confident,...as if you expect her to go, and figure there is no reason she wouldn't. Social media is just as bad as texting. It will only work against you. It is actually better to let her wonder where you are and what you are doing than to always know what you are doing and where you are because you update her everyday. Mods have given me crap about posting links to videos but if you go to YouTube and search for these two titles it would serve you well to watch them. Too Much Texting Lowers AttractionAvoiding Unnecessary Texting I also have a list of 10 things that women hate that another guy I ran across wrote. You should pay attention to them: Asking for permission.Being indecisive and expecting her to make the decisions.Telling her about your feelings and how your exes took advantage of you, mistreated you etc.Asking her about the relationship status. Anything like "Do we have a relationship?", "Can you be my girlfriend?" etc.Texting back and forth with no plans.Expecting her to be your mama or your therapist, and vice versa.Calling her before the date "we still on for this date?", "are you sure you're coming?"Telling her you love her on your first dates.Accepting "maybe" dates.Tolerating disrespectful and flaky behavior. I don’t talk to her everyday, we talked a couple days when she first matched with me. We soon later found out we lived like 2 cities over and we wondered how we never met before. She likes what I do for a living. It just so happened she got her teeth removed in time we met so I said when she feels better we should hang out and she said yeah! Idk if that’s a good yeah! Or like ya but when u ask again I’ll be “busy” I guess if she didn’t want to she could’ve said maybe or we’ll see? I’m going to message her again soon be a little more flirty and aggressive but I didn’t want to be super pushy with someone I never met. now that I know some Things it will be easier to chat at dinner
preraph Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 It's time to just ask her on a specific date now. Don't be vague. Say, Would you like to go out Saturday night for dinner (or movie, whatever) and she says yes and you tell her how about 7:00 and I'll touch base with you Friday.
d0nnivain Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 It's November. If she is still recovering from surgery in May her health may not afford her the option to meet. Still taking this from OL to IRL needs to be a priority
Author Brokenheartedman12 Posted November 7, 2019 Author Posted November 7, 2019 It's November. If she is still recovering from surgery in May her health may not afford her the option to meet. Still taking this from OL to IRL needs to be a priority Lol wisdom teeth removal yesterday Ik first hand it’s no fun getting it done last week I still have some pains. I got all 4 done at once. But are we agreeing yeah! Means she actually wants to go out in person? ?
Mixah Posted November 7, 2019 Posted November 7, 2019 I think it's time to just jump and meet up. Be careful, but if you are following on social media; no point in worrying about messaging on Tinder.
d0nnivain Posted November 7, 2019 Posted November 7, 2019 Means she actually wants to go out in person? ? What kind of surgery did she have in May that still has her incapacitated in November? It seems to me like the health issue is an excuse. I honestly can't tell if she wants to meet up with you but is physically unable to or if she's a time waster who is too scared to step out from behind a device to connect in the real world. The longer an actual meet is delayed the less likely it is to happen & the less likely it is to be meaningful. Some scared rabbits can't function in the real world. I am not optimistic about this at all. 1
Author Brokenheartedman12 Posted November 7, 2019 Author Posted November 7, 2019 What kind of surgery did she have in May that still has her incapacitated in November? It seems to me like the health issue is an excuse. I honestly can't tell if she wants to meet up with you but is physically unable to or if she's a time waster who is too scared to step out from behind a device to connect in the real world. The longer an actual meet is delayed the less likely it is to happen & the less likely it is to be meaningful. Some scared rabbits can't function in the real world. I am not optimistic about this at all. May? Sorry spell check may have changed something but she got her wisdom teeth removed on Tuesday this week, so I was saying I understand what she’s going through cause I got it done last week, I had said to her when she feels better we should hang out and she said yeah! This all happened this week I only started talking to her on Saturday
d0nnivain Posted November 7, 2019 Posted November 7, 2019 Wisdom teeth out this week . . OK that explains why she can't see you today. Set something up for late next week & go from there.
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