DrNo1962 Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 So the girl I’ve been seeing for the last two months is working out of town and can only come back on weekends (depending on her schedule). She just texted me her schedule for the next 3 months. We haven’t had the exclusivity talk yet, but is this a good indication she sees something long-term with me?
Gaeta Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 It means she is interested in dating you steady. You could address exclusivity now. It takes months even a couple of years to know if we are compatible for long terms.
Versacehottie Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 I think she is acting like you care enough to get the schedule and like you will still be in her life 3 months from now. If you feel the same, i think ask her for exclusivity--keeping in mind that if you leave it loose ended and she is away, perhaps she would be inclined to go out with other guys. Of course, same could happen with you, where things get all messed up. Hopefully you know if she is the one you would like to commit to. Goodluck
Flame Aura Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 Yes it is a good sign. Ask her to be your girlfriend already, what you waiting for.
alphamale Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 We haven’t had the exclusivity talk yet, but is this a good indication she sees something long-term with me? way to go Dr. No - yes she definitely is thinking long-term. don't make the mistake of bringing up "the talk" first...play cool and let her initiate it don't take Flame Aura's advice
Flame Aura Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 way to go Dr. No - yes she definitely is thinking long-term. don't make the mistake of bringing up "the talk" first...play cool and let her initiate it don't take Flame Aura's advice Definitely do not take alphamale's advice. There is no need to 'play it cool', you have been seeing each other for 2 months already, you both know you like each other. DO NOT let her initiate the talk. You are the man, the King, so ask her to be your Queen. Trust me women love it. 1
Gaeta Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 don't make the mistake of bringing up "the talk" first...play cool and let her initiate it Where do you get this? 90% of women want the man to initiate the exclusivity talk. Men are the chasers, the chase includes locking-in the relationship in exclusivity.
PRW Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 Where do you get this? 90% of women want the man to initiate the exclusivity talk. Men are the chasers, the chase includes locking-in the relationship in exclusivity.No, I'd have to disagree with that.
alphamale Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 Where do you get this? From my own experience. I have never asked a woman for exclusivity, I just let them bring it up. Most women don't have any problem doing that.
PRW Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 Definitely do not take alphamale's advice. DO NOT let her initiate the talk. You are the man, the King, so ask her to be your Queen. Trust me women love it.Take Alpha's advice. The exclusivity talk is not a chasing action,...is a bonding action. Bonding is the feminine role. Men start the chase Women start the bonding 1
PRW Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 When the woman says something like, "What are we?" "Where is this going?", she is bringing up exclusivity. They are typically not direct in their language. 1
PRW Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 Masculine energy is purpose, drive, mission, succeeding, accomplishing, achieving goals, etc. Feminine energy is opening up to receive love, bonding, connection, etc The exclusivity "talk" is the feminine role. She needs to bring it up.
alphamale Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 woman LOVES creating and nurturing relationships, men not so much 1
Gaeta Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 Generally speaking majority of women want relationships. That is not a secret to men. On the other end men aren't THAT in a hurry to be locked in a relationship. Men would be happy with no exclusivity if sex was guaranteed. It's important that the man picks to be exclusive, it means he really wants to be with this 1 woman and wants to invest beyond sex. When a woman brings up exclusivity the man will quickly think he better say yes to get to regular sex but won't right away think he wants to invest himself beyond that. When a man wants exclusivity it means he REALLY wants that relationship. . 3
preraph Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 You need to reserve your slots. Ask her if there's any time that's best for her on the weekends, and remember that she is also having to work in her family and friends in those two days.
Author DrNo1962 Posted November 6, 2019 Author Posted November 6, 2019 The back-and-forth on page one is rather amusing. I do tend to agree with the men in this thread that "the talk" should come from the woman (even if it's spoken in an indirect manner) because defining the relationship is a feminine trait. I was quite taken aback by the 3-month schedule, never received anything like that before. However, I do appreciate it and at least we can go steady moving forward.
Versacehottie Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 Ok speaking as a girl, I think it's better when the guy asks. Much like Gaeta said, traditionally it's known that women want a relationship typically--they can be misguided or fickle but they still want one if they are seeing you regularly as a generalization. I think in the end women have much more respect long term for the guys that know what they want and pursue a relationship with them. I think when you put that burden on a woman, that dynamic usually continues--she is pushing for more and controlling things. Lots of women will do and do do that but do they want to, not really. They do it because they get emotional and impatient--and try to find a way to say I can't wait much longer if an otherwise good guy hasn't gotten around to it. Why not at least broach the subject? Then maybe she can "officially" ask or whatever. I think just think of it as a discussion in general. I can't think of a woman i know that would be disappointed in that. Especially this one, she likes you. Good luck ps guys have always been the ones to ask me or it came about pretty organically where we just were a "we". Idk, ALL of my girlfriends like a guy who goes after what he wants preferred to a guy who just leaves it and leaves it confusing. I think also rather than split it to just gender, you could also split this responsibility to whoever is the person that tends to plan and progress things. I don't think you should stifle how you feel based on all the discussions here but do what is in your heart really that's the right answer if you ask me. 1
alphamale Posted November 6, 2019 Posted November 6, 2019 a lot of times as soon as you start sleeping together (sometimes before) the woman will ask if you're sleeping with someone else. My answer is usually no but that is the beginning of "the talk". I have never asked if she is sleeping with someone else because at that point in time I really don't care. If we keep seeing each other then it's a different ball game.
Lotsgoingon Posted November 7, 2019 Posted November 7, 2019 Masculine energy is purpose, drive, mission, succeeding, accomplishing, achieving goals, etc. Feminine energy is opening up to receive love, bonding, connection, etc The exclusivity "talk" is the feminine role. She needs to bring it up. And that masculine purpose and drive can to be turned toward building a fantastic romantic, intimate relationship. If I'm navigating through weekend schedules of a partner, we had better have an exclusive relationship.
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