BeautyQueen Posted October 1, 2005 Posted October 1, 2005 this is gonna be long lol.... k well im 14 yrs old nd i live in the U.S.A...my name is sadie and im currently dealing with this guy named shawn...ive never been in a relationship before but ill tell u wut happened... k well i started noticing him more because hes really cute and he seemed really nice...this girl named sara told me that someone in our class was interested in me...then one day shawn comes up to me and tells me its him;...i was surprised and i felt SO happy...now im not so happy anymore...well atleast i dont think i am...sara asked me if i would go out with him and i said yes...and we still havent even gone out yet he is affectionate to me,like hugging,holdin hands and putting arms around eachother etc i just wanna push him away...i dont kno why my feelings for him have suddenly changed...like am i just gettin the jitters/cold feet because ive never had someone feel this way about me or do you think hes coming on too strong? not i dont want u guys to get the wrong impression because hes a REALLY sweet guy....hes not afraid to show his love he always tells me he loves me he wrote me a poem and said he would do anything to make our relationship last...i thought that was sweet but hes making me feel weird...like im avoding him so much but i dont want to,....it might be because we hardly even know eachother and i think thats sumthin we need to do...like go out for lunch or something one day and just talk alone...it seems like he loves me and i feel happy that someone cares about me that way....but just recently something happened that hurt me... well there was this party thing that ALL the older kids were invited to and sum of my friends got invited...well i guess he was invited or something because my friend alessia saw him there and he also IM'd me just after the party...he was nice to me as always and said he wished i was in his arms and that he wished he could have danced with me...i was wondering y i wasnt invited because i knew the girl that was hosting the party..it was just a random party for no special occasion....but anyways...so then the next day my friend alessia calls me up and tells me that she seen him there and she calls him and we were on three way..then she says eeyy sadie didnt you knowt there was a party...didnt shawn tell you? and i just said no....then she hung up and he said i thought i told u about it....and thats been really bothering me because he never told me about it.... so whats really going on here? he seems rerally sweet and is really into me...im still really nervous about him...but these mized signals are driving me crazy PLEASE people i need ALL THE ADVICE YOU CAN TYPE i dont care if it goes against me or anything just tell me THE HONEST TRUTH/STORY behind whats going on in my life right now cuz i need some answers... yours truly....confused-to-the-point-of-no-end.........
JS17 Posted October 1, 2005 Posted October 1, 2005 I'm not quite sure I have the whole story right but it seems like he's a very affectionate person. Try to take it easy and not get so attached/involved until you get to know him better. You may find yourself pulling away because you're finding yourself getting attached to and falling for someone you don't know very well. You don't know each other well enough for him to really be in love with you so be careful, when he says he loves you he may not mean it in the same way that you think he does. He may say it meaning he really loves spending time with you, he loves having a girlfriend, etc. but he doesn't know you well enough to love you. If he forgot to tell you about this one party then maybe it was just a one time thing. If he keeps forgetting to tell you about things over and over again then you can start to worry. I think you're both very young and don't know how to act in a relationship. Take things slowly, get to know him as you would get to know a new friend. Go on dates...something as simple as sitting alone in the cafeteria having lunch and talking or doing something outside of school like going to the movies or playing a sport after school. Just get to know him better and take things slower if you need to.
amber245 Posted October 1, 2005 Posted October 1, 2005 It sounds like he likes you so don't worry. Did you stop liking him so much when you first got off with him then like him again when he went to the party without you? Did Allessia say if he got off with anyone else at the party?
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