findmyway7 Posted November 6, 2019 Share Posted November 6, 2019 Haven't posted in a while on here but my ex boyfriend from over a year ago just texted me to congratulate me on an accomplishment that he found out about somehow. Now sure it might seem nice and all but just a quick back story. He cheated on me, left me for the other girl, that ended quickly after we ended and he is now in what seems like a serious relationship for the past 6 months. I thought I would've at least gotten an apology instead of a congrats and considering we haven't spoken in over a year and it ended on terrible terms. Not even 30 seconds after our text exchange he then added me on Instagram and started liking my photos. I'm not too wound up about it but clearly I'm a little confused/curious hence this post. I guess i'm just looking to see what you all think. Is it possible that he sent that message and added me on instagram like he never broke my heart with no alliterative motives? To be honest, considering how things ended it seems pretty selfish of him to do that as it just brings me right back into it... I know I could block, not respond, etc and I dont need to hear that i'm just curious what you all think Link to post Share on other sites
Captivating Posted November 6, 2019 Share Posted November 6, 2019 It might have been a "bait" ... approaching you with something positive whether you are interested or not. It is a cowardly move in a way....he is currently in a relationship but feels around other waters secretly. Clearly a cheater, again. If he wanted you back, he should run circles around you. Don't settle for anything less ...talk is cheap. Be proud, don't bite on the bait. I don't know whether he could be trusted ever, given his constantly wondering eyes. Link to post Share on other sites
rjc149 Posted November 6, 2019 Share Posted November 6, 2019 Look up 'indirect direct approach' from Craig Kenneth, he has a lot of good videos on Youtube about breakups. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 6, 2019 Share Posted November 6, 2019 It's not worth bringing him back in your life. Whatever his motives, they are not in your best interests. Link to post Share on other sites
Mixah Posted November 7, 2019 Share Posted November 7, 2019 Breadcrumbs. Don't do it. It's not worth it. Been down this road before. The road has signs all over it that say "Welcome" "it'll be different this time" "I promise I've changed" "I really mean it"... However, once you get past those welcoming, heart-warming signs comes the truth. FIRE AND BRIMSTONE. DO - NOT - DO - IT. I promise it will only end in pain, regret and frustration. Heed the warning now. Those signs are nothing more than sirens calling for your ship to hit land. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Highndry Posted November 9, 2019 Share Posted November 9, 2019 It doesn't matter what his motives are, you already know what kind of person he is - one of extremely poor character. Has he changed? Of course not. Not sure what you would ever be wanting by responding or renewing contact with this loser, but more of the same is what you can expect. Link to post Share on other sites
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