Okeydokey Posted October 1, 2005 Posted October 1, 2005 So I broke up with ex a month ago. We got back together for 2 weeks and then he broke up with me two weeks ago. Since break-up ex has maintained contact by coming up with excuses to see each other: we need to figure out what to do with theatre tickets (sort of insinuating that we should still go to the shows together), we need to discuss our work, we need figure out what we are going to do about winter trip (we have airplane tickets). So I told him a time when I would be in my office and he could stop by if he really thought it was necessary to talk. I waited 10 minutes he didnt show I bounced. Two days later, Friday he called and leaves message wants to discuss it on THE WEEKEND. I did not respond. Sends e-mail Saturday. I did not respond. Finally sends two e-mails Monday morning. HE STILL WANTS TO TRAVEL TOGETHER OVER WINTER BREAK. I was doing NC. But agreed to meet Monday afternoon b/c still care and he was trying to talk - I felt like a jerk ignoring, etc. I explained that we would be dividing up the tickets and we would not be travelling together. He took off pretty hurt. I DO WANT THE GUY BACK. I just feel like if he really wanted back together he should just come out and say so and not just come up with ways to test me to find out if I want back too. Well, I felt like a jerk for being on a power trip thinking I was great b/c he wanted me back and I could reject him by saying no trip and no shows. So, I bumped into him in the halls and I told him, "Look. I think you've been trying to figure out a way to see me b/c you really just want to know how I am doing." He said "yeah. But I didn't have the guts to ask." I said, "I'm fine, I'm not trying to be mean to you - I just need my space. How are you?" He said, "It has been really hard. I'm under a lot of pressure. I broke down and needed someone to talk to. I went home and talked to my mom." So, I said, "How is your mom?" He answered, "I told her everything - I think she was a little shocked - we'd never talked so openly before. She thought that I was going to drop out of Law School. Thank you for asking." I told him, "If you ever want to know how I'm doing you can just ask me. It's ok." And then we said good-bye. He hasn't really tried to be in touch since (that was Monday). On Wednesday there was a welcome potluck for people from Tulane. I spent about an hour talking to some dude that was pretty cute. Ex could see. Ex took off. I saw him walk by the window a couple of times to check if I was still talking to the other dude (which I was). I want him back. Did I reject him so much that he is not going to try anymore? Should I send him an e-mail or give a call? We have to see eachother for work on Wednesday morning anyway.
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