HeatWave Posted November 4, 2019 Posted November 4, 2019 Hey guys, I am currently in a very frustrating situation with this girl I really like so I was hoping someone can give me an advice on how to proceed... So we're both attending a work course in a group of 40-50 people for a couple of weeks and ever since we met there has been an instant chemistry between us. We stayed up late working together on some projects and everything we did together was pure enjoyment. I noticed she acts differently with me than with the other guys approaching her (she is really beautiful) and that she seeks physical contact with me occasionally and doesn't mind staying close to me. So after a few weeks of working together and just being together in this course I decided to kiss her because I could feel the attraction was growing from both sides. So we went out for a walk one night and we shared a kiss at the end. I was so happy it went so smooth and I didn't even feel that nervous with her. But then something weird happened. She started avoiding me the next day. When I went to talk to her she smiled and acted like everything is fine, but she suddently started finding excuses not to meet me outside of the course and the group projects. I was okay at the beginning but she started ignoring my messages and I couldn't figure out why. After a few days of this awkward thing going on I asked her to talk about whats going on and why she's acting like this. She told me she was really stressed from the course and the work and she also had some personal and health issues going on at the moment so she was very unclear about the way she felt about everything and felt very frustrated. I said I was sorry to cause this confusion and I thought that she liked me too, and she said she does like me but she needs some space currently to figure herself out and find a way to cope with everything. I felt reallt sad about this whole situation so I started avoiding her too. I mean, not in a mean way but I tried to distance myself to not bother her, but this backfired and bothered her even more. She started texting me more often and asking me if I want to hang out and study with her and so on. I am really confused about this whole thing. She wants space but at the same time when I give it to her she wants to spend time together? She seems really upset that I started ignoring her too, and I don't want to do this, but I don't want to put pressure on her. She knows I like her, and she told me she likes me too, but what am I supposed to do in this situation?
kendahke Posted November 4, 2019 Posted November 4, 2019 She's cool being a friend and study partner, but she's not trying to be anyone's girlfriend.
preraph Posted November 4, 2019 Posted November 4, 2019 Yeah, that's a "no" to romance but she hates she's losing a friend. Women can be "just friends" with guys all day long 365 days a year.
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