Bobbyb82 Posted November 4, 2019 Posted November 4, 2019 (edited) So I reconnected with a woman I had "talked" to several months back.. Back then we had hung out several times, but never did anything physical past making out. When she got difficult to make plans with, I just moved on and dated someone else for a while. Recently she made contact with me, and eventually took me out to dinner where she paid for everything. We went back to my house and hung out after... this was several weeks back. She started calling pretty regular, and we eventually made plans for us to cook at my place two nights last week.. We did that on Tuesday and Wednesday of last week, on Tuesday night after dinner she laid across my lap and we started making out, which led to foreplay in the bedroom where she had an orgasm several times.. We didn't have sex though... She lives about an hour away and it was raining hard, so I text her that night to ask her if she made it home and got no response. I didn't talk to her at all that next day, but we did meet at her work as planned and made dinner again that night. No intimacy that night, except for a kiss at the end of the night. We did make plans to get together tonight though. I didn't talk to her Thursday-Sunday. I sent her a text last night saying I had bought steaks and everything for tonight, but haven't heard back from her. At this point I'm unsure of how to proceed... Should I call her this afternoon, just drop it, go by her work like the plans are still on?? Just a weird situation. Any thoughts are appreciated... Edited November 4, 2019 by Bobbyb82 Edit to subject
Author Bobbyb82 Posted November 5, 2019 Author Posted November 5, 2019 Called her before 6 last night, left VM.. No response...no idea what happened. Ah well.
d0nnivain Posted November 5, 2019 Posted November 5, 2019 It sounds like you did everything you could but she just flaked. Maybe something happened. I hope not but the ball is in her court. 1
clia Posted November 5, 2019 Posted November 5, 2019 You went four days without talking to her. Why didn't you reach out to her Thursday - Sunday? I would honestly probably think you weren't that interested, because it seems like she's been the one initiating everything to this point. 1
Flame Aura Posted November 5, 2019 Posted November 5, 2019 So a few months ago you hung out with her, until she lost interest and probably dated someone else. That didn't work out so she went back to you, the fall back guy, and has now done the same thing again. I think it's pretty obvious what has happened. And this time don't 'reconnect' with her if she contacts you again. 1
Author Bobbyb82 Posted November 5, 2019 Author Posted November 5, 2019 So a few months ago you hung out with her, until she lost interest and probably dated someone else. That didn't work out so she went back to you, the fall back guy, and has now done the same thing again. I think it's pretty obvious what has happened. And this time don't 'reconnect' with her if she contacts you again. That's definitely possible.. There is another possibility, I have an ex that has been trying to come back to me. I haven't made plans with her because I was seeing this girl. The ex called me last week and basically tried to tell me that we were going to a formal event here in town, a masquerade ball. I should have been more clear, but with the way me and the current girl stopped talking I almost had the ex in backup.. I know that most will think that is bad. They are acquaintances and it's possible she got wind of her thinking that. For the record, the current girl is in a wedding out of town that weekend that is a small event only close friends and family so she couldn't go to the ball. And I was going with a group of friends, the ex found out about it and told me she was going with us and buying her own ticket. I know how it would look if she heard about it second hand though.
Lotsgoingon Posted November 5, 2019 Posted November 5, 2019 Why is the ex trying to "tell you" where you are going to go? That makes no sense. Unless you're a passive pushover. So yes, if new woman caught wind of that, sure ... she might disappear. Get clear and clean on the ex. Either get back together or stay away, completely away. Every woman you encounter (who has the slightest bit of social skill) will have problems with ex in the picture--an ex who can "tell" you where you are going to go. But ... to back up ... I don't sense you're into Miss Disappearance. You simply reacted to her showing up ... so really you don't have anything to complain about. I don't sense you laid down any terms of any kind.
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