spyderchaz Posted October 1, 2005 Posted October 1, 2005 So I am new to this whole asking for relationship advice thing. But here goes I have been with my girlfriend for about a year and 10 months. We decided to move in together at the begining of this year with both names on the lease and everything was great the bills were a little hard to pay but that was no biggie. Also we had 3 cats and 2 chinchillas which i wasnt a fan of having that many animals ina apt but that is who she was and that what she wanted so i was alright. Well things starting getting bad when her parents started disliking me thinking I wasn't the right person for her because I didnt really try to talk to them all that much and try to impress them. Also we would have arguments about the bills and just silly arguments were i wouldn't be all that compassionate about the animals such as when hurricane katrina hit she said been sensitive to her and treated her like I actually wanted her in my life. But she said this is it, this is your last chance cause I can't take crying anymore in this relationship. So I felt bad and said i would work on not getting upset at little things anymore...she would take all the animals with her she would find some way and I said I wasnt too sure....and she got really upset. Than everything was going better until she wanted her best friend to move in which I was against but I said yes and lost my office in our 2 bedroom apt. So about a week went by of them living here and i get home from work one night and she has her eyebrow pierced and asked me what i thought and i was perfectly honest with it , I didnt like it. So she got upset and we had a long talk about how I havent ..but the thing is when her and I were together her best friend was always there also and if her and I had a disagreement she would go talk to her. So than our electricity got turned off cause I had a major glitch in my account which is fixed now but I put the blame on her and told her she didnt help me and I just got really upset. So before I knew it she was moving out the next day and but before she moved I wrote her a note and apologized and put post-its all over the apartment saying what I love about her and she almost stayed. She moved in with people I trust but it's only temporary that is what they said.And her parents want her name off the lease and etc but you cant just get your name off a lease you have to pay for it. So I dont know what to do she wants time to get her head clear and wants to be able to save money and wont let her family influence or her friends but she can't answer if we are still together but when i asked her last night that question her eyes teared up. Should I just not call her and wait for her to call me? Becuase what i am going to do is pay for the whole apartment by myself and the bills to show her I can do it on my own. I want her back I know what i've done wrong and I am working on changing it. Do you think she will move back?
Copingsaw Posted October 3, 2005 Posted October 3, 2005 Impossible to say. Your relationship is obviously in trouble and its impossible to predict in a forum like this how it will turn out. Clearly these are not new issues and you are still facing them. It sounds like you are taking some positive steps so hopefully that will hlep. All I can offer beyond that is good luck.
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