Cece19 Posted November 4, 2019 Posted November 4, 2019 Okay so here’s a little history... I’ve been dating this guy we met in October last year dated for a few months and then had a miscommunication on what we both wanted moving forward and we distance slightly (spoke sporadically via the phone but didn’t meet in person for months) he thought I was saying I wanted marriage and babies when really all I was saying is if we were sleeping together I didn’t want him to sleep with anyone else (the health implications of such was my biggest concern and also I’m selfish and don’t like sharing!) Regardless of all of the above we are like magnets when it comes to each other and can only stay away from each other for so long. After clearing up the confusion we are back seeing each other again which consists of me spending every weekend at his apartment. This weekend I went over to stay and couldn’t locate my travel toothbrush, honestly thought I’d dropped it getting out of his car the previous weekend or misplaced it. Long story short I left it behind at his home. This weekend I apologised for leaving it behind and assured him I had packed it in my bag to take home, the look of horror on his face when I said that made me giggle and he told me to put my toothbrush back where it was next to his. Claimed it was bad luck to take it home now and that’s where it lives. So my question is wtf does this mean? Does it have significance or is it just nothing worth reading into? This man has been wounded rather badly in past relationships and back when we first started seeing each other and it all went south he claimed he didn’t want anything serious or a relationship. This time around he’s more playful, more affectionate, more consistent, more open and honest and if I’m behind honest more boyfriend-y (that’s not a word but you get what a mean) it often feels like we are in a relationship without either of us saying so. So the toothbrush situation what’s your take on it? Does it have some unspoken meaning that I’m unaware of or is it just what it is and nothing more?
d0nnivain Posted November 4, 2019 Posted November 4, 2019 He had massive commitment issues. He thinks you leaving a toothbrush is some way of asking for a lifetime commitment. You just had an oversight. All in all he's too paranoid.
Gaeta Posted November 4, 2019 Posted November 4, 2019 You clarified you don't want a serious relationship, marriage, babies or commitment, you only want sexual exclusivity. He's happy with that, he doesn't feel anymore pressure so he's happier, more relaxed this time around. The toothbrush comment was a cute comment from a guy in a good mood, nothing to read into. 3
FMW Posted November 4, 2019 Posted November 4, 2019 Telling you to leave it there and it would be bad luck to take it back is definitely odd. Maybe an ex made a production of taking her toothbrush as a symbol of breaking up with him and he just has some weird anxiety about it now. 1
stillafool Posted November 4, 2019 Posted November 4, 2019 I agree the toothbrush comment meant basically nothing. But if you are concerned that he is sleeping with other women while having sex with you and you're afraid for your health, do the proper things. Use your voice and ask him if this is the case to let you know. Always make sure to use condoms. 1
Flame Aura Posted November 4, 2019 Posted November 4, 2019 It doesn't mean anything. Your whole relationship as a whole has a lot of things wrong with it but if you are happy just being casual with him until he finds a girlfriend (won't be you) then sure carry on. 1
Sunlight72 Posted November 5, 2019 Posted November 5, 2019 It's cute. Telling you to keep your toothbrush there means he would like you to keep coming back.
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