Are these red flags or am I just anxious?

[wonderingaboutstuff]

I met someone very nice and caring recently. However, a few of my past relationships made me aware that to be happy I need to feel secure (that my partner needs to be financially secure like me) and someone who likes to travel since I'm close to retirement.

The new bf says he loves me and wants to move to my home even though we've only been together for 6 weeks. He is 68 years old and has been married and divorced twice. He says I'm the nicest person he's ever been with.

He is a professional like me and we have a lot in common. He has nice things but isn't a big spender (which is a good thing).

Based on him wanting to move the relationship forward in this fashion, I told him I need someone financially settled who can and wants to travel a bit in retirement. He told me he's not wealthy like me b/c of his divorces but he owns some real estate, his practice (which may not be worth much) and has a 401 (k) - he offered to tell me exactly and I declined. I told him I don't need anyone rich, but someone who can take care of themselves. I'm not sure where that leaves me.

I got into the travel issue too...saying I'd like to go to Greece next year and he seemed somewhat interested but he wasn't totally in it seemed. He is a sole practitioner and when I said he'd be gone for almost 10 days, that may have made him concerned. Seems like he's some travel but not much over his lifetime.

Now he wants to meet my daughter (adult)- she'll be here for Thanksgiving and my daughter is ok with meeting him then but he also mentioned his daughter and her family (with 2 small kids), and my daughter doesn't feel comfortable with all of that yet only meeting him first. The only way I can make that happen is to have him join me at my daughter's later this week (she lives out of state) - does that make sense?

[schlumpy]

I thought I read where you want someone who will travel. He doesn't seem to fit that requirement. It seemed to be a deal breaker for you.

 

Why are you getting family involved when you will be dumping him soon?

[Gaeta]

At our age we're suppose to know better than to move in a man after 8 weeks dating. And don't get me going on those *I love you* after only 2 months dating. You have enough life experience to know this is too rushed, you don't know him AT ALL.

 

Like above poster said you are looking to travel and enjoy your retirement. He's not it. Find a man that can, and for you and a man to enjoy traveling you don't need to move him under your roof. You were married before, you got divorced, what's the rush in moving a man in? You're looking forward to picking up dirty clothes from the floor again? RELAX, enjoy life, take your time!!