steady123 Posted November 3, 2019 Posted November 3, 2019 Hello, i'm 21 years old and the girl i will be talking about i barely got to know her. So, about two months ago i saw this girl, a friend of a friend but nothing happened we just saw each other for about 5 minutes before she had to go and i though that she is cute but then for a month and a half or so i haven't seen her. Fast forward 2 weeks ago this girl just started joining me and my group of friends out of nowhere. The very next day this girl friend start teasing us if we would like each other but i think this didn't got nowhere, but that day i start catching feelings for her. Days went by and i just start liking her more and more but we haven't really talked to one another because she couldn't stay out for too long. I asked one of our friends to help me spend time with her so the past week i hanged out with my friend and this girl. Things seemed to went pretty good so i though that is the right moment to text her 5 days ago. I did so but her response seemed like she didn't wanted to talk to me at that moment so i left her be. We still have been hanging out just the three of us and, maybe i just have the wrong idea, that she might be into me. I'm a "newbie" at this stuff so right now i'm so desperate because i just can't stand myself losing another girl just because i just don't know what to do and just give up. I keep thinking and the best option i could think of so far would be to try and text her again and if she seems off like the last time then i know that i did the most i could have, but i'm so scared and i just can't think about a good message more then "hey, what's up?" that kinda failed last time. I'm the type of person that is pretty forward and the best thing i came up with is to tell her that i like her and to ask her for a "date" or something like that just so we can get to know each other because i'm terrible at texting, i just hate it. Any suggestions? Oh something more: our mutual friend isn't such a good friend to me so having her helping me out is kinda out of the question because i tried and she just left me. Secondly me and this girl that i like aren't so close to each other we haven't talked to much so i barely know something personal/deeper then where she lives, that she have a dog, where she is studding regular stuff like this. Thank you for your attention, just let me know what your thoughts are about this and what would be the best think to do at this moment i'm so lost and it's been so long since i liked a girl so much, or since i had a girlfriend
ExpatInItaly Posted November 3, 2019 Posted November 3, 2019 What did you text her before, and what was her response? I would not come right out and tell you like her over a text. You don't know her well enough yet. You could try to get to know her by asking her to grab a coffee or drinks with you, perhaps, and gauge her reaction from there.
preraph Posted November 3, 2019 Posted November 3, 2019 I agree not to tell people you like them. It's awkward and shows inexperience. You show them you like them, but even then first you have to get to know them to even know if you like them. You say she is a friend of a friend. Is the friend she knows of yours a female? Is there a possibility that the friend of yours you already knew likes you and so the new girl doesn't want to get in the middle of that? Otherwise, all you can do is ask her out and risk rejection. Ask her if she wants to see a movie with you or something like that.
Author steady123 Posted November 4, 2019 Author Posted November 4, 2019 Hi first i would like to say thank you for your response. Secondly i think i messed up with the first message "hey what's up did you manage to charge you're phone" related to the fact that she complained that her phone doesn't charge anymore and she response just "yes, i did it somehow" and as an unexperienced i though that maybe she is not interested in speaking to me right now so i did so. It's weird because she sometimes pokes me and act all flirty but sometimes she act weirdly like she doesn't even care about me as an almost friend and i got so confused because i have no idea how to act or how to talk to her at all.
Author steady123 Posted November 4, 2019 Author Posted November 4, 2019 I agree not to tell people you like them. It's awkward and shows inexperience. You show them you like them, but even then first you have to get to know them to even know if you like them. You say she is a friend of a friend. Is the friend she knows of yours a female? Is there a possibility that the friend of yours you already knew likes you and so the new girl doesn't want to get in the middle of that? Otherwise, all you can do is ask her out and risk rejection. Ask her if she wants to see a movie with you or something like that. Hi, i'm pretty sure that my friend doesn't like me that way because she is in a relationship for over 2 years and all she's talking about is her boyfriend so i don't think that is a problem. All i though about was to come up with a good enough text that might end up to a conversation but you are right, i think that a simple text asking her out should settle this. I think the problem here is that i'm not sure if i'm ok with all the compromises that came along with this relationship because even though she is senior i think(last year of high school) she can't get out of house to much and my schedule wouldn't allow us to see to often. I feel like i need to get out of this(in a relationship with her or just turned down) but i'm pretty sure that because of her father and my schedule she might refuse me if i ask her to grab a coffee or something.
Author steady123 Posted November 5, 2019 Author Posted November 5, 2019 How old is this girl, OP? She ll be turning 18 in february. I know about the legally concent and that's why i wanted to avoid this but în my country is not a "big issue" as I heard it is in other countries
PegNosePete Posted November 5, 2019 Posted November 5, 2019 Just ask her out already. What's the worst that could happen?
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