What you think?

[Love2015]

So I have stopped dating for a bit however two guys stayed in my net...

 

1) I had really likes long time ago but he was shady. I essentially had blocked him and then he started calling from a private number and finally I picked up. He apologized and because I had liked him and also don't want to keep grudges ...I accepted. Fast forward three weeks from that and when I start having feelings again ..I bluntly asked him what he felt. In the past he wanted gf/bf. We have never had sex. This time he says he and I can only be friends because I am very explosive and he realizes won't work in loong run. He says I am beautiful, I am really nice and all but he knows it won't work. He says we could even be gf / bf and then end it. He says because he respects me, he won't have sex cause he knows it's not forever. He however wants me to be friends. Mind you, I never saw him as a friend and I feel very rejected. I was explosive because he did wrong stuff before! .

 

2) the second guy I have been texting for 3 or 4 weeks and we have not met. He seems nice but I don't know. When the first guy told me he wants just friendship, I said ok then I will start dating. To that he says that be careful lots of guys want just sex etc etc..and then says if I want to heal I shouldn't ask him what he doesn't Saturday. ( After I gave what I was doing I asked him)

 

So my thing is .. should u consider being friends...when I don't see him as one? Should I block and say good bye in nice way? Like whenever I let him go ..he wants to talk more when I am around, he rejects me

[preraph]

Don't see the up side of the first guy. Why keep him around?

 

See if the second one goes anywhere.

[Inspire]

Only you can really answer that question, but consider this. Can you put aside the feelings you have with guy #1 and just be friends since you don't see him as one. If I was you I'd part ways and put it behind me.

 

As far as guy #2. Why haven't you met after 3-4 weeks? That is a lot of time invested into someone you haven't met and may not even click with once you do meet. Do you have any reservations about him?

[Gaeta]

Thank guy 1 for being honest and telling you the truth about his feelings then wish him luck and don't stay friends. He offered you to be friends because he doesn't like you as a gf so it's not hard for him. You like him a lot so that would be hard for you to just be friends with him. For that you do not become friends, it's a way to be kind to yourself and not hurt for nothing.

 

 

 

I would also like to know why you talk so long with this guy and not meet him?

[ExpatInItaly]

So I have stopped dating for a bit however two guys stayed in my net...

 

That's a contradiction of terms, no? You might not be actively going on dates but it's clear you're still trying to. That's perfectly fine, to be clear, but you might as well get real with yourself.

 

Anyway, the first guy - I see no reason to try to be friends with him. He doesn't have a romantic interest any longer, and you evidently do, so being friends won't work. It will hurt you when you find out he is seeing other women.

 

The second guy - as the others have already asked, why haven't you met him yet?

[Love2015]

Hi,

 

Thanks for all your input. I have stopped online dating but these two were around since I stopped. 1# is blast from past. #2 I ended up never going out after I decided not to date.

 

I have decided to let go of both. I think #2 i am not feeling it...and was too focused on #1.

 

But #1 has rejected me anyways ...so what is the point?

[Love2015]

Hi,

 

Thanks for all your input. I have stopped online dating but these two were around since I stopped. 1# is blast from past. #2 I ended up never going out after I decided not to date.

 

I have decided to let go of both. I think #2 i am not feeling it...and was too focused on #1.

 

But #1 has rejected me anyways ...so what is the point?

[smackie9]

Exactly both are a waste of time, especially #1 guy...he's is a manipulative jerk.