Pink86 Posted November 1, 2019 Posted November 1, 2019 I was talking to this guy and mentioned I saw an article about him getting a fine for taking a taxi with no license. He blew up at me and said how dare you? How dare I what?? Am I not allowed to google someone I may meet in the future? Why did he get so mad?
FMW Posted November 1, 2019 Posted November 1, 2019 Lots of people google others, but most of the time we don't bring it up and tell them what we find 3
d0nnivain Posted November 1, 2019 Posted November 1, 2019 Googling somebody you might meet in the future? What? On some level it sounds like you two were strangers, then your orchestrated a meet & sort of stacked him. It does come across as creepy. In this day & age I suspect most people do an internet search for people they know / meet. It's odd to talk about it though. 1
preraph Posted November 1, 2019 Posted November 1, 2019 People who have secrets are who get mad about it. Years ago this guy wanted to meet me while he was in town, and I wasn't interested in him anyway, but he was one of the acquaintances on a fan board I had. All I knew he was in Florida and his name, and it came up a guy in prison for murder, but I knew that wasn't him since he wasn't in prison but mentioned it to him and he got real mad. Well, I suspected something because please....you know? And finally met him with others and then agreed to meet him in my town and went to a cafe, where he made a big scene because they took his credit card to the back to pay the bill. He was very paranoid about that. Later, I sort of pieced together that he was trying not to leave any kind of paper trail because he owed child support and was hiding from his wife by working under the table for a friend of his who was paying him some way that wasn't the normal way. There's usually something wrong with a person who gets mad about that -- UNLESS the person googling them is actually an unwanted stalker who has been told to leave them alone and go away. 1
Author Pink86 Posted November 1, 2019 Author Posted November 1, 2019 He mentioned he got a traffic violation and I asked him if it was the cab thing and he blew up. I google everyone. Why was he so turned off if he was trying not to hide anything! 1
Beendaredonedat Posted November 1, 2019 Posted November 1, 2019 Why was he so turned off if he was trying not to hide anything! Because your question makes you appear to be without a filter. That you came across as a stalker/creeper, that you don't know enough to keep things to yourself, that you don't know what boundaries are and you would be crossing them often? Maybe it's one of those? 4
Author Pink86 Posted November 1, 2019 Author Posted November 1, 2019 But wouldn’t I be stupid as a woman not to google a man I am planning on going on a date with? 1
chillii Posted November 1, 2019 Posted November 1, 2019 lf you ask me this googling thing these days is bloody disgusting, and trying to poke into their lives on fb and stuff like some of them do is 3x worse. Not long ago all that bs was non existent . So what would you have done then, not go out with anyone. l think if some chick googled me l'd tell her where to go .
Legatus Posted November 1, 2019 Posted November 1, 2019 Doing it is one thing and openly confront somebody is another. Personally I think you did nothing wrong. Information you find on n Google is usually public but like it was mentioned: people think it's inappropriate... 1
Tamfana Posted November 1, 2019 Posted November 1, 2019 He mentioned he got a traffic violation and I asked him if it was the cab thing and he blew up. I google everyone. Why was he so turned off if he was trying not to hide anything! He didn't want you to know. Some people are open books and some aren't. I prefer the open books. Less drama and less chance of a scam. His throwing a fit that you know public information about him, well, it's laughable, childish. Scratch that one off the list of possibilities.
d0nnivain Posted November 1, 2019 Posted November 1, 2019 But wouldn’t I be stupid as a woman not to google a man I am planning on going on a date with?[/quote You were smart / savvy to look him up. You were foolish & naïve to let him know you looked him up. Learn to keep your own counsel & get a better filter. 4
Springsummer Posted November 1, 2019 Posted November 1, 2019 First time I chatted with a guy from Tinder, he gave me his name and asked me to google him to make sure he is not a murderer. yup, apparently he is an accomplished dude so taking every chance to boast about it. 1
Beendaredonedat Posted November 2, 2019 Posted November 2, 2019 But wouldn’t I be stupid as a woman not to google a man I am planning on going on a date with? No you wouldn't be stupid to google a guy you are planning on going on a date with. What is "stupid" (your word, not mine) is you bringing it up when/if it was nothing of consequence to you as far as him being date worthy. Now... if you found out he was married, a sex offender, a ex con, a fraudster... then of course hopefully you would have enough 'not stupid' to not meet him at all. You should have kept what you found out about him to yourself. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted November 2, 2019 Posted November 2, 2019 No you wouldn't be stupid to google a guy you are planning on going on a date with. What is "stupid" (your word, not mine) is you bringing it up when/if it was nothing of consequence to you as far as him being date worthy. This. You lacked good judgment in when and how to apply the knowledge you gained upon googling him. 1
Foxhall Posted November 2, 2019 Posted November 2, 2019 I only googled my girlfriend after about two months dating, this seemed to annoy her in the sense that how come I did not google her much earlier,
preraph Posted November 2, 2019 Posted November 2, 2019 Not long ago all that bs was non existent . So what would you have done then, not go out with anyone. l think if some chick googled me l'd tell her where to go . Yeah, but back then, also you would have still been careful and tried to find things out about the person. I know I made some decisions based on that other people in my extended circle at least knew them. 1
preraph Posted November 2, 2019 Posted November 2, 2019 (edited) But wouldn’t I be stupid as a woman not to google a man I am planning on going on a date with? You were smart / savvy to look him up. You were foolish & naïve to let him know you looked him up. . I agree with this, because if you tell them and they ARE dishonest, you're just going to get a dishonest excuse then. So look them up and keep it to yourself. Edited November 2, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Recommended Posts